Being the lone single person in a group of couples is often the opposite of fun, especially when they make you feel like the odd person out.
A person on Reddit found themselves in this situation on a vacation they took with a bunch of couples, so they went to the AITA (Am I The A**hole) subReddit for some perspective.
The OP (Original Poster), who goes by TamTams_groupthink on the site, asked:
“AITA For wanting a proper bedroom at a vacation rental with couples even though I’m single?”
They explained:
“Me and my 3 friends were talking about taking a group mini-break getaway to a nearby winery or beach house and stay in a vacation rental.*”
“The subject of how many bedrooms came up and one friend said that we should look for 3 bedroom places because it would be cheaper, that I don’t need a bedroom because I’m single and I can just kip on a pullout couch. All of the friends who would be going on this trip are in serious relationships and would be bringing their significant others.”
“I got annoyed and said we should look for 4 bedroom places because I want a room of my own and she came back with ‘Well you don’t really need the privacy and the group shouldn’t have to pay more for a room we don’t need.'”
“I disagreed. I’m an adult who deserves as much privacy as a couple, I need a place to put my clothes and things in a place that isn’t the living room and I don’t want to have to change in a bathroom.”
“This isn’t the first time this has happened to me either-every time I vacation with family, the couples get their own rooms, the single grandparents get their own rooms (because they have ‘bad backs’ and can’t sleep on couches or pullouts) and single me is forced to sleep on whatever pullout is available in the middle of the living room or weird back room with no closet space because no one is willing to go in on a place that has a bedroom for me.”
“A couple of our friends think she’s the a**hole for assuming that I would be ok with a couch and other friends think I’m the a**hole for insisting that the group spend more money on a house with ‘more room than we need’. I feel like I’m being treated like a second-class citizen because I’m single and it’s bullsh*t.
“Am I the a**hole?”
“*This discussion is for after we’re all vaccinated and we want to celebrate by getting together for a fun weekend group thing.”
Folks on Reddit were then asked to evaluate who’s in the wrong in this scenario using the following acronyms:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
And they found this one very cut-and-dry: OP’s request is anything but unreasonable.
“NTA. If you are paying an equal share, then you deserve equal comfort and privacy of a bedroom.” —-Quaint-
“They’re actually paying MORE than each person in the couples – the rate is split four ways, rather than seven.”
“That’s bonkers to me – SEVEN people are getting to enjoy* this trip, but the OP gets to pay double what the couples are paying because… they enjoy snuggling up together? And then they want to put OP on the couch?! WTF.” —RaspberyWrites
“So with the way they are thinking, you are going for free, correct? They are paying for a 3-bedroom place and they each get a bedroom. Since you are not getting a room, then you don’t need to pay.”
“If they won’t cough up the money for the extra room, I’d get a hotel room close by if that is feasible.”
“And NTA.” —Intelligent_Sundae_5
“NTA, don’t waste your time or money on a trip where you don’t even get the privilege or comfort and privacy.”
“And never travel with cheapskates. Always a mistake.” —flora_pompeii
“NTA that’s bullsh*t that you don’t get a room because you’re single. Why is having a partner a requirement to get a bed?”
“Edit: I’m also seeing that you’re paying $1,000 to sleep on a couch, when everyone else is paying $500 and getting a bed.”
“I hate to say it, but the trip might not be that fun for you, given how they’re treating you. They’re all coupled up and already leaving you out. I’m single too, and I’d only go if I could bring my best friend or sister with me.” —ISeeMusicInColor
“Seriously, if it’s just not that big a deal, insist on switching. You can pay $500 and get a room. It’s obviously fu**ed up and they’ll trying to weasel it any way they can to make you a) have a room and still pay $1000, or b) say you only have to pay $500 and still insist you sleep on a couch. DO NOT BE HASSLED INTO THAT.”
“Honestly OP these don’t sound like friends. Saying that paying more for a 4th bedroom in an arrangement where you were already asked to pay double of everyone else is fu**ing mind boggling. NTA.” —amrhan_oiche
“NTA. How much is everyone paying for the 3 bedroom? Would it be divided equally among the 7 adults? Or would you pay less for the couch?”
“If I were in your shoes, I would agree to pay a 4th of the cost, for 1 of 4 bedrooms to use as I wish (sleeping alone or bringing a partner). If you’re willing to do that and put a fourth, while the other 6 pay an eighth each (assuming they split a room), I think it’s fully acceptable to require you’re own space.” —hippityskipity
“NTA. Reminds me of my boyfriend on his family vacation. Hes got 2 younger brothers (twins) who used to be ok sharing a bed on vacations and now insist on being in separate beds, so mom and dad get the room with the big bed, twins each get a full size in their room, and bf is on a pullout couch or a cot in the living room.”
“And then get mad when his already messed up back is too sore to do stuff. GET YOUR OWN ROOM!” —SelfBoundBeauty
Hopefully OP can patch things up with their friends and find a fairer arrangement.