How a steak is cooked can be a very intimate experience for people.
Some just can gobble it up rare and not care, others need it bunrt to a crisp.
No matter what, it’s a personal preference.
Why make a fuss?
Case in point…
Redditor AMAStudentLoanDebt wanted to discuss their story for some feedback. So naturally they came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
They asked:
“AITA for not eating steak that wasn’t cooked like how I was asked?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I went on a trip with some friends recently and each of us took turns cooking on various days.”
“One of the days, my friend made everyone garlic steak and potato wedges.”
“Just normal cheap cuts from the store, nothing fancy.”
“Normally, when I go to a steakhouse, I prefer to order my steak Medium, as I get grossed out by too much redness.”
“But when I eat when a non professional chef is cooking, I order my steak medium-well because I find that most non pro chefs tend to undercook it compared to what you order.”
“So if I ordered a medium, a non chef would cook me a rare.”
“And if I order a medium-well than I receive a medium like I want.”
“So that’s exactly what I told my friend, that I’d like a medium-well.”
“Of course he gives me the spiel that steak lovers do when they tell you that steak is meant to be eaten raw and bloody and anything else is a sin.”
“I roll my eyes and don’t engage in that conversation because it’s pointless.”
“Long story short, my steak comes and its definitely medium rare, if not straight up rare.”
“It was waaaay too red for me to be able to power through eating to not cause a scene.”
“So I ask him to throw mine back on the stove for a couple minutes and he refused to do so.”
“Telling me he cooked it like it should be eaten.”
“I suppose I could’ve cooked it further myself, but I was tired of the situation and seeing the red made me lose my appetite for steak.”
“So I gave mine to my B[oy]F[riend] and made myself a sandwich and chips.”
“The friend called me an a**hole in front of everyone because I refused to eat his food.”
“Most others were on my side because I didn’t get it like how I ordered it.”
“But a couple were on his side and said I should’ve powered through and raw steak isn’t that bad anyway.”
“AITA?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA?:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared our OP was NOT the A**hole.
It’s a tricky situation.
Let’s hear some thoughts…
“NTA, I wouldn’t have eaten it either. Anything under medium grosses me out.” ~ Prestigious-Ad-5457
“NTA. I eat my steak extremely rare and I think he has no business cooking steaks for a group if he can’t make it to your liking.”
“It’s not his place to ‘correct’ your eating preferences.”
“It annoys me when people comment on how I eat my steak so I don’t comment on others.”
“Just let people be.” ~ Sassafrass0074
“Agreed. It was physically painful for me to cook beef tenderloin well done for my office Christmas party for all the guys that like no pink whatsoever.”
“But I did it because that’s the polite thing to do.” ~ gingersnap9210
“I like my steak very rare too but I wouldn’t make someone else eat it that way of they don’t want to.”
“That’s just rude. Op NTA. That guy was a tool.” ~ angel_4242
“Even my fiancé, who firmly believes they should be eaten medium rare at the most cooked, will make a well done for someone if they ask.”
“Granted he’ll complain the entire time and I think it’s hilarious.”
“But he still respects how you want it made. NTA at all.” ~ Nookie_Nebula
“Totally agree. I’ll eat a steak that’s still grazing in the pasture.”
“Anything over medium is something I would have to ‘power through’ like OP would have to power through something under medium.”
“But in no world would I tell someone they’re going to eat a steak the way I like it.”
“And I also can’t f**king stand steak snobs, or food snobs in general.”
“Just let people eat food how they like it, for Godsake!”
“Someone’s extra well done steak isn’t making my rare steak taste any less delicious to me.”
“I don’t understand the obsession of some people to make sure everyone eats exactly how they do, it’s f**king weird.” ~ narniaofpartias22
“He doesn’t get to dictate what people will eat.”
“He can suggest and offer, but to refuse to provide edible food to you (as you clearly stated you could not eat undercooked steak), makes him a Prime, Grade A AH.”
“You nicely declined, then he doubled down and claimed that you insulted him because he served food cooked to his taste, not yours.”
“He was a bad host and a rude friend.”
“Does he require lactose intolerant friends to drink milkshakes because ‘they’re really good, you can just ignore the gut pain later?'”
“I can’t believe anyone is supporting his actions, he’s just nasty.”
“Next time he comes over, serve him steamed brussel sprouts and cauliflower.”
“They’re really good and healthy for you as well!” ~ androiddays
“NTA hell I take mine mooing still but you don’t force someone to eat hat they aren’t comfortable with.”
“Heck if you went to a restaurant ordered a cold water Maine lobster tail and they served you rock lobster WYBTA for not accepting it.”
“If it’s not how you like it don’t accept it.”
“I mean you should have very openly said where is the microwave I need to cook the steak better than what you did!”
“My uncle was a great guy for pulling this one.” ~ ZentheOgre
“I like my steak medium-rare but I wouldn’t be happy if it was blue-rare (extremely rare, safe to eat).”
“Or rare though and definitely would’ve liked it added on the grill. NTA.” ~ Svxyk
“NTA at all.”
“Just two nights ago we ordered food from a restaurant (online so no mistake there), my daughter ordered her steak med well.”
“We got home and hers was rare.”
“I was pissed took a picture and posted it to said restaurants site, told them they needed to train their cooks better.”
“Needless to say I cooked it more for her.”
“‘Your friend’ is the AH though, we all have different taste when it comes to food.” ~ JSDSisfamily
“I refuse to eat any steak that is more cooked than medium rare, and my preference is generally very rare to blue.”
“I find steak tastes awful to me if it’s cooked more than that (with very few exceptions).”
“I also joke with my partner about the whole ‘overcooking steak is a travesty.'”
“But never directly to someone who actually prefers their food that way (unless they are in on the joking).”
“OP is absolutely NTA; just as I wouldn’t eat an overcooked (to my preferences) steak, they absolutely shouldn’t be expected to eat an undercooked (to their preferences) steak.”
“The cook here was a self-righteous food snob.” ~ alquicksilver
“NTA. I’m one of those ‘still moo-ing’ people but I’m never going to even jokingly attempt to force someone to eat something that literally icks them out.”
“Your friend was being way too pushy, and the steak was still consumed- it’s not like you threw it away or something.”
“He should have graciously thrown it back on for you for another minute- cooking is about serving people something they will love.”
“Not about forcing everyone to choke things down the way you like them.” ~ technicolored_dreams
“I’ve been OP before, but my situation turned out much different.”
“My ex and his parents made burgers and mine was more pink than I liked.”
“My ex’s mom saw my face when I bit into the burger and immediately had her husband put it on a little longer for me.”
“I didn’t even have to ask.”
“She knew they liked their burgers a little pinker than most and didn’t make me feel awkward at all.”
“That’s how you handle that.” ~ yvonneb28
“It kills me to have to make my wife a medium well steak but I do it because It would be disrespectful as hell to disregard what she wants to put on her body.”
“And think I know her tastes better than she does.”
“Your friend was a giant gate-keeping asshole OP, good on you for sticking up for yourself. NTA.” ~ MightyThorgasm
“NTA. It would be one thing if we were talking about a dude who tried his best and then over cooked it or something (can’t undo that).”
“But we’re not.”
“We’re very clearly talking about someone who deliberately brought you an under done (per your liking) steak and then refused to put it back on the grill (easy to do).”
“That’s beyond d**chey.” ~ Sooner70
Reddit is with you OP.
You deserve to eat your food how you want it.
Sounds like your friend maybe a little emotionally attached to the grill.