When it comes to our personal documents and information, we really can never be too careful about keeping it private.
Even when we’re with people that we love, pointed out the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit.
With a recent history of health complications, Redditor ThrowRAissuesRA was becoming increasingly uncomfortable with sharing their personal information with their husband.
But when he started trying to play a game with them to get their signature, the Original Poster (OP) wasn’t sure what to think.
They asked the sub:
“AITA for refusing to sign anything while my eyes are blindfolded?”
The OP started playing games with their husband in the evening.
“Ever since I got out of the hospital for chronic problems, my husband has been introducing me to some games every evening.”
“One game used to be about doing things while my eyes are blindfolded, involving puzzles, Rubik’s cubes, identifying objects, et cetera… We’d take turns doing it just for entertainment.”
But then their husband introduced a new, more unnerving game.
“Just a couple of days ago, he started trying to get me to sign papers while wearing a blindfold.”
“I refused to do it because he never lets me take a look at what I’m signing neither before nor after.”
“He says that he was just trying to see if I could leave the same signature every time I sign, but I couldn’t help feeling uncomfortable.”
“I told him I don’t want to play this game unless and until he shows me the papers first.”
“He said, ‘Never mind then,’ and stopped bringing it up.”
But the OP’s husband kept pushing the issue.
“Last night, he tried to convince me to give it a try and even volunteered to go first.”
“I asked if he was going to show me what I was going to sign, and he made a face and said no, it’s the rules, and I should respect them.”
“I refused and he kept on about how I kept acting worried and suspicious for no reason. He said I clearly don’t trust him and he was hurt by finding that out now after everything we had been through.”
“We had an argument, and I told him to drop it and not bring it up again, period.”
“He was mad despite saying it was no big deal. He was obviously upset with me and kept talking about how I don’t trust him and that I was out of line to assume or suspect anything from him like this.”
“I might be paranoid, but I couldn’t help it. I do think I was the a**hole to him after he stood by my side when my own family didn’t even visit, but I don’t know what to think about this.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes here
Some agreed with the OP’s hesitation to sign anything blindly, even if it was a game.
“NTA. Ask to see those papers. They exist. Do not take no for an answer. If you see those papers, you might not decide to divorce. If you don’t see them, get a divorce.” – Koniguen
“A fun challenge would be doing it on a post-it note. Not on something that can be described as ‘papers.’ With actual text on it. That is a secret.”
“The closest I can come to the ‘benefit of the doubt’ would be some type of surprise (like those id**ts who act like they are cheating and s**t while planning a proposal). Though I am struggling to come up with a positive surprise that’d require her signature…” – just_checking345
“I’d agree to do it, then sign it Mickey Mouse. Then grab the paper and bolt for the bathroom. Now that’s a fun game!” – susan0324
“They could play the game with a birthday card. Or a dry-erase board with obviously one of those thick dry-erase markers that smell like that scent if he really wants to see if she signs it the same way every time.”
“Like. There are ways to do this that don’t feel so sketchy. He’s being knowingly and repeatedly suspicious.”
“But also she said no. No means no. Especially with kink play. Especially where one person is making themselves vulnerable. This is very basic stuff.” – berrykiss96
“The fact she said it made her uncomfortable and he kept pushing it is a red flag for boundary issues no matter what. The fact she said it makes her uncomfortable and he’s pushing it for such an absolutely stupid ‘game’ implies it’s shady as f**k.”
“Why not see if she can draw a cat blindfolded?? Exact same premise if the stupid game were real, but wouldn’t make her uncomfortable or be potentially legally binding.” – calm_chowder
“It would be weird and hard to trust someone doing untrustworthy things… He is trying to screw OP for something.”
“If it was to compare signatures, it wouldn’t be a problem for OP to see it because, well, then they can compare the signatures… he sounds like a complete id**t to think he is fooling people.” – Kenichi_Smith
“Like, if he really wanted to test if her signature would be the same (which, I’m sorry, but that’s just stupid, of course, it’s going to be different, you don’t need to test that to know that), all he has to do is have her sign a blank piece of paper and then blindfold her and have her write directly underneath the previous one.”
“No need at all to not show her what she’s writing on if it’s truly nothing suspicious.” – Valkrhae
“OP has chronic health problems, has been hospitalized recently, and her husband started these games as soon as she came out! He was plotting this while OP was in the hospital!”
“It could be totally innocent but he’s gone to a lot of trouble to normalize this ‘game.’ Weird as f**k. I would set up some hidden cameras and speak to a lawyer in case anything suspicious happened to me.” – Going_Thru_a_Faaze
“I would agree to the ‘game’ and sign with a fake name (edit: like Katniss Everdeen) with handwriting that is completely different than my normal signature.”
“The moment I am about to finish the signature, I would rip the blindfold off and look over the paper, so he wouldn’t have time to take it away. And even if he manages to take it away before I see it, the signature would be completely fake, he couldn’t do anything with it.”
“Or say yes, pretend that you will sign and take the papers, get rid of the blindfold without signing anything, and look at the papers.”
“NTA. I wouldn’t trust him either, not about signing anything without seeing it, especially not when he is so pushy and persistent about it. So many red flags. I think you are in for a hell of a wake-up… I hope you will update us!” – Cute-Shine-1701
Others dreaded to think of what the husband might be trying to get the OP to sign.
“NTA NTA NTA.”
“This is extremely suspicious. Obviously, he wants you to sign on something important…”
“Financial documents, loan, will, property, divorce papers???? The list could be endless…”
“Do not sign on anything blindfolded. I would add do not sign on any blank paper from now on…” – Haunting-Row-3961
“This is a perfectly normal thing to not trust. Either he is gaslighting you about it or he is somehow completely ignorant of how this is coming across (unlikely).”
“The fact that he pushed the issue is so suspicious. At the very least, it is a red flag for personality. Much more concerned that he is hiding something big.” – sapphyredragon
“‘Surprise! I’m in tens of thousands of credit card debt and now so are you!'”
“Or maybe: ‘Surprise! All of your assets legally belong to me!'”
“Not letting her just look at the stupid paper and then put the blindfold on is super weird.” – PM_Your_Unicorn
“After I said no the first time, I want to know what he’s really up to.”
“He could be divorcing her and taking everything.”
“Worse, he could be getting her to sign a big fat life insurance policy and planning to kill her…”
“Okay, okay, I admit I watch too many true crime shows.”
“But I’d still want to know!!” – Little_Rip_1063
“To be honest, any situation that requires a wet signature now would also require that the person know and consent to what they’re signing, so I’m also having a hard time finding one.”
“Most likely this is something sinister. Wet signatures are typically used for family court stuff (adoption/divorce/custody), evictions, wills, trusts, and insurance benefits. Also anything notarized or apostilled. I honestly can’t think of a positive surprise.”
“Maybe a passport application? (Though that’s a reach.) She’d still need passport photos, so the surprise aspect wouldn’t last anyway though.” – InvisiblePlants
“OP, Freeze your credit now.”
“This is shady as f**k.”
“IMO (in my opinion), he wants you to sign some legal paperwork or wants to get your signature to forge it on some legal documents.”
“I had my name forged once and a shady notary, notarized it. So it can happen.” – Jaszuna
“Girl, run and hide… You’re about to be featured on 48 Hours in an episode where the husband got a huge life insurance payout and the wife’s body is still missing.” – sewswithswearwords
“Until reading other comments, I didn’t even think about life insurance! F**k. This just got dark. This is exactly the type of thing you’d see on Dateline.”
“Lester Holt’s voice: ‘It all seemed to be fun and games. Until the game turned deadly…'” – bananapineapplesauce
“Oof, what if you were signing away your power of attorney or medical power?”
“Pretty dark but it’s not like it hasn’t happened. OP needs to get out. This whole thing is giving me sympathy creep-out vibes.”
“Who even plays a game like that? Then tries to turn it around as ‘Why don’t you trust me?'” – Jintess
The subReddit completely understood why the OP was so worried about playing this game and signing papers that they had not had the privilege of seeing yet.
The theories the subReddit came up with sounded like something out of a true crime episode, but a game like this should give anyone pause.