Parent Called Out For Only Baking Cookies For Daughter And Not 'Obese' Nephew To Make A Point

Most of us are taught at a young age that "sharing is caring."

That it's the polite thing to share with other children, and they, in return, will be inclined to share back.

Unfortunately, not all parents agree on the importance of sharing, often resulting in their children causing trouble when spending time with friends.

Redditor Future_Amoeba_1962's sister had temporarily moved into the OP's home with her son.

The original poster (OP) was somewhat surprised to witness their nephew refuse to share something he brought with him with their daughter.

Later, the OP declined to share something with their nephew, hoping to teach him a lesson.

Unfortunately, no lesson was learned, and the OP found themself on the receiving end of their sister's rage.

Having some doubts about how they handled things, the OP took to the subReddit "Am I The A**hole Here?" (AITAH?)

Unlike the similar 'Am I The A**Hole' (AITA) subReddit, AITAH allows Redditors to ask for advice on issues that are not permitted on AITA, such as asking for advice or posting about ending relationships. Nor are voting acronyms required or a final judgment declared.

The OP asked fellow Redditors:

"AITAH for making my daughter cookies but not my nephew?"

The OP explained why they initially refused to share any home-baked cookies with their nephew:

"Yesterday, my sister bought my nephew (10) 6 large crumble cookies, and for those that don't know, one large cookie is about 800 calories and is equal to 4 servings."

"While he was hanging out, playing games with my daughter (15) she asked him for a piece of one and he refused."

"My daughter isn't a huge fan of Crumble cookies because they're too sweet (we split one once and it took her 3 days to finish her half) so she really only wanted a tiny piece because it was really colorful."

"My nephew proceeds to eat all 6 cookies within the hour (I found out after the fact)."

"Later, while I was cooking dinner, my daughter asked if I could make her cookies for dessert, so I made 6 Tollhouse cookies (3 for her, 3 for me)."

"After dinner, we grab our cookies, and of course my nephew wants some."

"I remind him he's already had 6 Crumble Cookies, and of course he pouts, saying that was way earlier."

"Feeling guilty, I give him half of one of my cookies."

"His mom comes downstairs, sees him pouting at the table, and asks him what's wrong."

"He tells her that I didn't give him any cookies, and of course my sister throws a tantrum complaining about it being unfair and me showing favoritism."

"Now she's up, stomping around the house, downstairs banging pots and pans, complaining about what happened last night."

"Before I ask AITAH, I'll add, my nephew is 215lbs and is a very selfish eater."

"I love him like my own, and if the tables were turned, I'd teach my daughter the same lesson if she didn't share when she had more than enough."

"My daughter is 105 lbs, so many times she'll have just enough for herself and still split her food with him, usually giving him the bigger portion, so for him to flat out deny her, it didn't sit well with me."

"I have contacted CPS, and of course nothing can be done."

"Being overweight or obese alone isn't enough to open a case."

"His weight has to be causing him major health issues, and my sister would have to ignore his health completely before they can step in."

"So AITAH?"

Fellow Redditors weighed in, with some using the voting acronyms:

• NTA - Not The A**hole
• YTA - You're The A**hole
• NAH - No A**holes Here
• ESH - Everyone Sucks Here

Everyone tended to agree that the OP was showing the care and concern for their nephew that their sister was neglecting, though some were confused why the OP didn't tell their sister that her son refused to share his cookies with her daughter:

"...isn't 215 at age 10 like, ridiculous."- Radirondacks

"Tell your sister her son is going to be on My 600 lb Life when he’s older."

"Great parenting."- CntXyRose

"10yrs old and 215lbs?"

"That is child abuse wtf."- Crafty_Reflection410

"You didn’t mention to your sister he didn’t share any of his 6 cookies with her?"- fitnessCTanesthesia

"NTA."

"Where was your sister that she came downstairs and saw him pouting, was she upstairs taking a nap?"

"She didn’t buy cookies for your daughter…she’s TA."- HappyHiker2381

"NTA."

"But why are you all together?"

"You living with them or they living with you?"- Rob1973string

"If a 10-year-old weighs 210 pounds, his parents should be in jail or at least on a CPS watch list."

"NTA and call CPS."- PurpleEmotional1401

"How selfish is this kid."

"Jesus."

"And sharing needs to be taught at an early age."

"You should have made him share earlier, then avoided the cookie thing later."

"Bet kid is a tubby acting like that with food."

"Fat kids are the result of poor and lazy parents."

"Ok 215?"

"10 years old?"

"Man, call CPS."

"Tf that’s disgusting."- NapalEnema2020

"NTA."

"Your sister is dramatic and TA, honestly."

"Stand firm, your son had more than enough sugar and didn't share."

"'I made this specifically for my daughter to make up for the fact that your son didn't charge. Either 1) both children should share or 2) neither child must share. Choose and be consistent, because the world isn't going to respond well to the entitlement you are teaching your son'."

"Especially, because he's a boy and that selfish attitude when extended to personal relationships will leave him divorced."- TalionVish

"Good God, he's 10 & 215 lbs.?"

"Don't give that kid any more cookies AT ALL."

"I'm surprised his school hasn't looked into his home life."

"That is WAY outside the normal weight for his age (that's way out of the normal weight range for a 60-year-old like myself)."

"This child needs a full medical checkup to determine his level of health & then something needs to be done."

"Either he is severely overweight, or there is some sort of medical problem."

"Your sister & her husband COULD be investigated by family services because of his weight."

"This is a HUGE problem (no pun intended). Honey, bless you, you are in a bad situation."

"Good luck with this."- Hairy-Proof8504

"215 lbs at 10?"

"Ffs that’s abhorrent."- Glum-Mulberry-9430

"I'm sorry, 215lbs?!"

"He weighs more than my 25-year-old football player boyfriend."

"My own 10-year-old is like 68lbs last we weighed her."

"That's insane and so worrisome."

"NTA at all, he had 6 huge cookies already."

"Your sister is neglectful and abusing her kid."- lemonmemepie

"NTA."

"Wow, holy crap."

"My grandson is 10; he's over 5 feet tall and 135 lbs, and I worry he's getting a little big."

"If he was over 200, I would be having a conversation with his mother about how I would like him to live longer than me."

"My favorite aunt was almost 600 lbs when she died."

"So I know a little about what I am talking about."- TaxiLady69

"Next we will see your nephew on My 600lb life."

"NTA but your sister is."

"She is raising a brat."- Crazy-Rat_Lady

"He had 6 cookies and refused to share even a bite."

"She had 3 cookies, and he got to have half a cookie."

"NTA."

"She's raising a selfish brat."- _laasyahnir_

"NTA."

"Reminds me of the time a kid at the park learned this lesson the hard way."

"His grandma would bring him to the park."

"Anytime another kid asked to play with his toys, he would say no, and his grandma would say he didn't have to share."

"Fair, my son got upset, but I reminded him that other people aren't always going to share, and no means no."

"Hey, it was a good learning moment. He just didn't understand because he was always good at sharing, and I always encouraged it unless it was his lovey; though he would sometimes even share that."

"Harder for him to understand that not everyone is like that."

"Anyways, one day one of the babysitters brought a bunch of water guns for everyone to play with."

"Suddenly this kid wanted to play and was told no."

"There really weren't enough for everyone, and the other kids were taking turns, but he was told no by the kids."

"Cue meltdown by not only him but also his grandmother who was mad her pre yous grandson was treated the same way they treated all the other kids."

"I would like to think he learned his lesson that day, but based on grandma's behavior, I doubt it."

"My youngest isn't as good with sharing, and she sometimes gets mad at her older brother when he doesn't share with her, and I have to remind her he doesn't have to share his treat when earlier he asked and she said no."- Dull-Geologist-8204

There isn't only one way to parent.

That said, there are clear boundaries between what is right and what is wrong that parents need to teach their children.

Something the OP's sister seems to be willfully ignoring.

One only hopes she eventually gives these problems the attention they need, as