Establishing boundaries is key to any relationship. So, when you move in with a new person and your family starts to grow, it is fair to take things slow.
Redditor throw_awaystepbro encountered this very issue with his family. So he turned to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for moral judgment.
“AITA for not wanting to share room with step-brother anymore after he came out?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained.
“My dad got married over a year ago. His wife moved in with her son who’s same age as me (16).”
“It’s a two bedroom house so ‘Steven’ moved into my room too. It didn’t bother me before because I was mostly with my mom and my dad only on weekends.”
“My mom got called out of state for work and she’s not gonna be back for months so I’m now with him full time. I’ve met Steven a few times but now being here all the time I notice weird stuff.”
OP gave some context.
“There’s bathroom in my room and he literally gets out NAKED every single time even when I was already in the room before he went in.”
“I always tell him ‘what the f*ck’ and he says sorry but always does it. Now I just leave the room when he showers.”
“When I play video games he’ll come sit right next to me and we’re pressed right against each other.”
“There’s more space on the couch so it bothers me that he does that. Other times he’ll be talking to me and put his hand right on my lap but like not move it.”
OP is trying to establish boundaries.
“I don’t know it’s weird for me because I don’t like being touched but he’s always super touchy with me no matter how many times I tell him I hate it.”
“What’s made it really uncomfortable is when I change or something in the room. He straight up watches me and it creeps me out so now I go do that in the bathroom too.”
“It’s always weird when he’s around and I just don’t like it.”
“And he ALWAYS wants to be around me.”
“He came out 2 months ago and now some stuff makes sense. It’s more awkward because I feel like he’s into me or something.”
“Still stares if he comes in when I’m changing my clothes but acts like he wasn’t, gets naked around me when he’s changing.”
OP talked to his dad about it.
“So, I told my dad I don’t wanna share my room with him anymore and said why. My dad doesn’t think it’s wrong the way he is but let me turn the basement downstairs into my own room when I asked him.”
“It was a tv room we never used and it had lots of space for my bed and all my other stuff. Steven’s mad now that I don’t wanna share room with him.”
“He says I’m being homophobic cause what a coincidence I’m only doing it now after he came out.”
“His mom is mad too and thinks I’m overreacting because boys change in locker rooms together all the time so that shouldn’t make me uncomfortable. She says too that I’m being weird only because he’s gay.”