It’s no secret that some of us really struggle with flying. Those who struggle will do pretty much anything to avoid it.
But for one passenger on the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit, the best solution for their unavoidable flight was to book an extra seat, to give them a little breathing room.
But Redditor BeautifulChemist6017 realized it wasn’t going to be so simple when the flight turned out to be open-seating.
Later, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if they were wrong for standing up for themselves.
“AITA for not letting a woman have the seat next to me on the plane?”
The OP recently had an unavoidable flight.
“I recently had to fly across the US to deal with certain company matters. My company apologized profusely to me because I am terrified of flying, but seeing as it would have been a 25 hour drive, I obliged.”
For a little extra space, they booked another seat.
“For the trip, my company paid for my seat, but I decided to also reserve the seat next to mine. Again, this is an anxiety issue.”
“I would have fit just fine into my seat, but if I needed to vomit/started to get panicky, at the very least I wanted to have a buffer between myself and the next person.”
“I had an aisle seat in a three-person row, and people were shuffling around changing their seats before takeoff. I do not know how it works, but apparently, people can occasionally just sit down wherever they want and the flight attendants don’t have to deal with it?”
“The seating arrangement was me – open seat (mine) – a teenage girl I’d place around the 7th grade.”
The OP wasn’t the only person who wanted that seat.
“Right before we started getting taxied, a middle-aged woman abruptly sat down in the middle seat and fist bumped the teenage girl.”
“Immediately I told her that I had reserved that seat, and she started by being very considerate.”
“She quietly told me she was getting away from a bad situation, and really wanted to sit next to her daughter. During this explanation, she repeatedly pointed out her daughter sitting next to her, as if I would be a monster for depriving her of that seat.”
“I stuck to my guns though and told her that I would get the cabin attendant if she didn’t go back to her seat several rows back in the middle.”
“She called me on my bluff, so I flagged one down. He asked if I really needed the middle seat (?????) and I said yes.”
“Then he politely asked the woman to move, which she did, but not before calling me a ‘d**khead.'”
The OP had mixed feelings after the flight.
“Since she did this rather loudly, several people were clearly looking at me, and I couldn’t really read what they were thinking.”
“I kind of feel bad about it now, and after arriving safely I wonder if I should have just given up the seat.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in by declaring:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some Redditors said the OP had a right to the seat after paying for it.
“I understood that by reserved, you paid for the seat. If you did you are NTA. I don’t get why people don’t check seats before getting on the plane and choose with time how they are going to be seated, they feel entitled to bother everyone” – pioroa
“Should you have given her the seat then potentially barfed all over her? No, though it might have been a good lesson for her.” – Chauntalauve
“NTA. You should have told her why you bought the extra seat, because you don’t like flying and might vomit on the person next to you. I bet that would have got her back in her seat quickly!” – biananevenc
“While an explanation might be nice, OP is in no way required to give an explanation. All she has to say is I paid for two seats, and I am getting two seats.” – chop1125