Your wedding is typically one of the most significant days of your life. The soon to be wed spend a lot of time and money making sure their big day is perfect.
How would you feel if someone close to you refused to respect your wishes as part of the wedding party?
What if they made threats of poor behavior? Many would feel hurt and angry.
One bride-to-be found herself at wit’s end with her matron of honor and turned to the “Am The Asshole” (AITA) subReddit for opinions on her sister’s behavior.
Redditor Pasta_on_my_laptop asked:
”AITA for not letting my matron of honor hold her baby during my wedding ceremony?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I (21) am getting married at the end of July 2021. My sister (29) is my matron of honor and she’s currently pregnant with her fourth child.”
“Her due date is a few weeks before my wedding and I could not be more excited to meet my new nephew. However, she has been making some comments that are a bit worrying to me.”
“She has repeatedly told me that she is going to hold her new baby as she walks down the aisle, regardless of my thoughts (despite the fact that her husband will be at the wedding and able to hold the baby).”
”She plans to hold her baby during the ceremony and even feed him if she needs to. This is not a long Catholic wedding ceremony.”
“Just a regular ol’ cutesy outdoor wedding. Probably 20 minutes long.”
”I told her she should feel welcome to have her new little baby with her during the day while we are getting ready, but when it comes to walking down the aisle, I would not like her to be holding the baby. The baby could cry, poop, need to eat, etc… etc….”
”She has insisted that she will be holding her baby during the wedding—otherwise she will not be in the wedding. In addition to the baby-holding dilemma, she has jokingly told me that she will call me a bad aunt in her wedding speech.”
“Or she will get her other kids to ‘object’ in the middle of my wedding. I think she is trying to be funny, but all of these comments are frustrating and hurting my feelings.”
“AITA for telling my sister she can’t hold her baby during my wedding?”
Redditors use one of four acronyms for judgement.
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided this OP was NTA.
“NTA, NTA, NTA, did I mention NTA? It’s not her ‘show off my baby day’ it’s your wedding day, YOUR wedding day.”
“She set the ultimatum, crazy since we all know ultimatums rarely work out in favor of the issuer, so just say okay I accept yor refusal and find a new maid or matron of honor.”
”She won’t be asked to make a speech since she’s no longer in the wedding party. If you think she’s being serious about the kid objections then I’d disinvite her completely.”~captaininderpanties
“NTA. Tell her you’re glad she’s willing to bow out if her conditions aren’t met and that they won’t be.”