You should always be honest with your romantic partner, except for those times you shouldn’t. One Redditor learned this the hard way when she played a game of “Truth or Dare” with some friends and her boyfriend.
However, she’s unsure if she was actually in the wrong, so she took her situation the Reddit’s AITA or “Am I the A**hole” subReddit, where you ask the titular question and allow the internet to judge your deeds.
So, dana66496, the Original Poster (OP) asked:
“AITA for being honest and answering an intimate truth or dare question in front of my boyfriend?”
As her story goes:
“I am currently sharing a student house with my boyfriend, one other guy and three girls. The whole uni experience this year has been pretty boring so far, meaning we’ve pretty much been forced to make our own fun.”
“Anyway, we were all drinking and having a good time last night. At one point, somebody suggested that we play a game of truth or dare.”
“Since we’re all drunken 20 year olds, the questions/tasks quickly became NSFW.”
“Eventually it was my turn and I opted for truth. They asked me the size of the biggest c*ck I’ve been with.”
“I’m terrible at determining sizes so I measured it out with my hands. There was the expected range of reactions. “Omg!” “Yas Queen!!” “Whoa! Hahaha.”
“Then we continued the game as normal with everyone else receiving similarly ruthless questions. We all had a good laugh together then went to our rooms. I could tell my boyfriend was annoyed at me but I didn’t know why so I asked.”
“He told me it was uncool of me to talk about an ex-partner like that. I told him he had nothing to worry about. It’s not even like he’s small. He’s a great size!”
“He ignored me and went straight to sleep. This morning, he has been giving me the silent treatment and it’s got me thinking, am I the a**hole here?”
“I really don’t see the problem. I gave no indication to the others that I wasn’t talking about my boyfriend so it’s not like I publicly emasculated him or anything. I’m confused. Maybe it was insensitive of me? I don’t know.”
“What do you guys think? AITA?”
On the AITA forum, responses are judged in a few different ways.
Usually, it’s one of the following:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
And in this instance, people were pretty split.
There was a very vocal portion that assured OP she did nothing wrong.
“NTA. The question wasnt “who’s your favorite out of everyone?” Then it may have been appropriate to lie. It was a statement of fact, nothing more.” – twizzlersfun
“I think everything is fine as long as your truth is not answering an actual intimate detail about your boyfriend. Like if they would ask: “How big is the cock of your boyfriend?”, then I think you shouldn’t answer that question.”
“But as the answer was about an anonymous person, which even could be your actual boyfriend, I think it’s fine.” – Feroc
“NTA…You may want to think twice about playing truth or dare in his presence. We all know this could have gone much much worse.” – RoyallyOakie
“NTA, he was fine with you playing so he should’ve expected that type of question especially if you’re drunk 20 year olds. Not to mention that everyone else got similar questions.” – Sammysoupcat
Others weren’t so sure.
“He’s taking a fact personally.” – Mister_fish800
“Many things are facts, they dont need to be said just because they’re facts.”
“Men are allowed to have self esteem issues when it comes to their penis size .” – NoCapnCrunch
“Game or no game, objectification is not cool.” – SlimShady_69
“I’m saying YTA.
“For not knowing why he’d be annoyed firstly. Imagine a guy saying ‘biggest tits I’d ever seen’ and the whole circle clapping for him and cheering him like it’s an achievement but you’re sat there with your B-Cups. But, hey, it’s okay because you got a good size too!”
“Secondly for not getting why he’d not be reassured with your ‘well they don’t know it wasn’t about you and you ain’t got nowt to worry about because you’re doing alright’.”
“I’m the last one to be ‘If the roles reversed’ but this is a definite moment where we need to acknowledge that men get self conscious just as much as women do.”
“If he’s uncomfortable then he’s uncomfortable, you acting aloof and then saying ‘you ain’t so bad though’ isn’t the type of reassuring that he needs.” – -BitchyFont-
All that said, it was a user by the name of birdpoop69 that had the real lesson to be learned.
“Playing truth or dare as a couple is never a good idea” – birdpoop69
Truer words were never spoken.