Tardiness is a major life problem for many people.
No matter how hard some try, they just can’t seem to arrive when told to.
And then there are people who just don’t care and arrive when they feel like it.
All of this can cause major drama in life.
Case in point…
Redditor Fair-Ferret9911 wanted to discuss their experience and get some feedback. So naturally, they came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
They asked:
“AITA for taking an Uber to a wedding so I wouldn’t be late?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“My sister got married last weekend.”
“I flew into town and my parents insisted that I stay with them instead of a hotel like I wanted.”
“My parents are consistently late for everything.”
“I think it’s a Latin thing.”
“I hate being late.”
“I think it’s disrespectful.”
“The wedding was at 2:30.”
“My folks live about half an hour from the church.”
“Noon rolls up and my folks aren’t even getting ready yet.”
“They are adults and I am over dealing with them.”
“I get ready.”
“I send for an Uber and I am at the church for 2:00.”
“I check in with my sister.”
“She asks me if I had any problems getting my parents to church.”
“I told her that I came by myself.”
“She went white and said that I was responsible for getting them there on time.”
“Well nobody asked me to do that.”
“I didn’t even want to stay there.”
“So now everyone starts calling my parents.”
“They are getting ready.”
“They were about 35 minutes late.”
“The service was shortened because there was another wedding later that day.”
“Everyone is still mad at me for not getting my parents there on time.”
“My aunt said that I’m an a**hole for messing up the timing of the wedding.”
“My mom says it’s my fault for not reminding them to get ready.”
“Am I the only one who thinks adults should be able to be on time for their own kid’s wedding without help?”
“So AITA?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared OP was NOT the A**hole.
“NTA; if they need to be reminded to get ready on their daughter’s wedding day, they need a live-in caretaker.”
“Unless you were specifically asked to get them to the church, that’s not your job.”
“If your sister truly thinks you messed up the wedding by being on time, I think it’s a good time for some space between you and your family.” ~ theanti_girl
“By blaming it all on OP, the parents and family thereby absolve themselves of any responsibility for being late.” ~ WaldoJeffers65
“They’re like Scooby-Doo villains.”
“I would have gotten away with it if not for you meddling kids!”
“NTA for sure.” ~ -Phantazm-
“I can 100% imagine OP has been loaded with responsibility and routinely reprimanded for other people’s behavior.”
“I mean, if they aren’t even ready to leave the house at that time, especially on their kids wedding day, like who is the disrespectful one?”
“It certainly IS NOT OP.”
“I am screaming NTA from the highest mountain with the loudest megaphone, hooked up to satellites pumping the NTA rock from every Bluetooth speaker, tv, radio in the world.” ~ Round-Antelope552
“Nobody is responsible for them, the parents are adults.”
“Set an alarm.”
“We literally carry alarm clocks on our phones.”
“The bride could have told the parents to be there two hours early for pictures or something.”
“This was not OP’s fault at all.”
“Parents are AH and so is everyone who can’t seem to put the accountability where it belongs.” ~ foriesg
“NTA. If they wanted you to do that they should have asked on advance.” ~ SecretJealous4342
“NTA. Next time don’t stay with them.”
“You shouldn’t need to prod them to be on time for their own child’s wedding!” ~ Large-Talk3726
“OP, please stay firm for future events.”
“Because now there’s going to be this expectation that since you ‘screwed up’ this time for not getting your parents to show up on time, that you’ll do better next time.”
“Say nope, clearly you weren’t capable and so they’ll have to be heroic and actually make the effort not to be late. NTA.” ~ EmeraldBlueZen
“I guess the next time you’ll need to change all their clocks and cell phone clocks to fool them?”
“OP is NTA, but the whole rest of the family IS the AH, as well as delusional and enabling.” ~ phishphinder5
“Getting my mother places on time is the least of our worries.”
“When my brother got married he and his wife literally made a schedule of who was supposed to watch my mother at what time for all the key events.”
“My job was to get her to the rehearsal on time, pick out an outfit for her and convince her to wear it, and get her a dress for the ceremony/reception.”
“BUT I knew that going in.”
“He had 4 people on a rotating schedule with different responsibilities but we were all aware of it.”
“You are NTA because your sister should have told you she was making it your job to get your parents there on time.”
“Your parents are TA for delaying the wedding though.” ~ Gaslighting-Survivor
“Even if they had asked you, you would still not be responsible.”
“Are they three?”
“Your family who enables them and them are the only ones responsible.”
“I would never stay with them in this situation again. NTA.” ~ Eastofdark
“NTA, this sounds like a classic ‘missing stair’ situation where nobody wants to yell at the problem person directly because that person is never going to change.”
“So they instead yell at everyone else for not managing around the problem person.”
“You now know going forward NEVER to stay with your parents again or be put in a position where you could be seen as ‘responsible’ for them.”
“This is the kind of thing that’s easy to say on the Internet and less realistic to do in real life.”
“But I kind of wish your sister had just started the wedding on time and locked your parents’ lazy a**es out of the church.” ~ crockofpot
“Hell no, NTA.”
“Your parents needed reminding to get ready for their own daughter’s wedding, and somehow people think you’re TA?”
“Ask everyone on what planet that makes sense.”
“Because it’s not this one.” ~ Spare-Article-396
“Obviously NTA.”
“And no it’s not your responsibility to get them there on time.”
“Unless they are like 90+ years old or in a bad mental state they are responsible themselves for not being late on their daughter’s wedding.” ~ _Drumheller_
“NTA. If they knew this was likely to happen with your parents, your sister and aunt should have let you know ahead of time that they expected you to help check in on the parents.”
“You’re an adult, as are they.”
“They’re responsible for keeping their own time and the blame rests solely with the parents.” ~ Snackinpenguin
“How were you supposed to know you were responsible for making sure your parents were supposed to make it to the wedding on time??”
“It sounds like no one told you until your sister mentioned it way too late.”
“Apples will come from an apple tree after all. NTA.”
“Also seriously though whats with your parents being so irresponsible for not even making time just once for one of their own children’s weddings?”
“That’s just inexcusable.” ~ SpeedBlitzX
“NTA. Your mother needing reminding to get ready for her own daughters wedding!!!!”
“They messed up and the wedding was cut short because of it.”
“They should be apologizing to your sister.” ~ MerlinBiggs
“NTA. They are adults and know when the wedding was.”
“Truthfully, I would have proceeded with the ceremony on time.”
“It’s disrespectful to the pastor, the photographer, and all the guests holding everything up for 35 minutes.”
“Maybe then they would learn to be on time.” ~ mishka1776
“My Godmother, who was going to read at my wedding, wasn’t there at the start time.”
“I don’t put up with late people.”
“If it’s a dinner, I give the chronically late a false time, but a wedding is not a freaking BBQ, and I told everyone I would start on time.”
“We found a Bible, and my uncle read both.”
“She showed up 45 minutes late, she was the freaking ultimate MacGregor narcissist and made everything difficult – my mother had died 2 years prior, and she was her older sister.”
“She tried to talk to me during cocktails and photos but I just shook my head and ignored her.”
“She needed to be the center of attention and I wasn’t playing.”
“OP is being blamed for their PARENTS transgression – the parents are TA, and so is everyone else for coddling them for so long.” ~ Fififrmmtl
“NTA. Your parents are adults, they should be responsible enough to get themselves to the service on time.”
“Nobody made you aware they had expectations from you regarding your parents, your parents should be embarrassed that it’s a requirement.”
“Sorry you and your sister have shi**y parents OP.” ~ SRGoffSMB
“I’m with you 100%, NTA, especially if you weren’t even asked to make sure they are ready and there on time.”
“Regardless, they are not your responsibility and it’s pretty crappy for all of these people to make you feel guilty because grown adults couldn’t get to their daughter’s wedding on time.” ~ CJsMom2000
“NTA – no one asked you to be responsible for your (adult) parents.”
“They are definitely old enough to know when to get ready and shouldn’t need the help from their kids.” ~ AppointmentEastern
Well OP, Reddit is with you.
You are only responsible for you.
And you were on time.
Hopefully everyone will move past this one day, as the wedding still happened.