Gender reveal parties seem to become more outlandish by the day.
After so many deaths and fires, one would think toning them down would be the new trend.
But apparently, that is not the case for everyone.
A sibling found themselves in a personal dilemma regarding their brother’s baby news, so they turned to the “Am I The A**Hole” (AITAH) subReddit for feedback.
Similar to AITA, the AITAH subReddit allows posters to ask for advice and post about relationships—both things that are banned on AITA. However, there are no required voting acronyms—only suggested ones—and no official final judgment declared.
Redditor EducationalChard1741 asked:
“AITAH for not wanting to go to Disneyland for my brother’s gender reveal? ($300)”
The original poster (OP) explained:
“My brother is the first one to have kids in our family.”
“There are 5 of us, and everyone is over the top excited.”
“They are now asking everyone to go to Disneyland to announce the gender.”
“It’s $267 or something for a weekday pass and over $300 for the weekend.”
“Most people cut f**king cakes for a reveal.”
“I’m happy for them, but isn’t that over the top?”
“Sorry, I can’t spend $300 to watch that when Christmas is coming up.”
The OP was left to wonder:
“So… AITAH?”
Some Redditors weighed in by using the AITA voting acronyms:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided the OP was NOT the A**hole here.
“NTA. A destination gender reveal is definitely a new one.” ~ fadingsunsetglow
“Everyone has to outdo the next person that they see on social media, it’s so damn ridiculous.”
“Gender reveals to me are so effin’ cringy.” ~ guylefleur
“NTA. No way, I wouldn’t go to Disneyland if they had a gun to my head.” ~ Alwaysamazed1977
“Yes, and can someone tell me what is with destination weddings?”
“My niece is deciding to go to Florida; we have no ties to Florida whatsoever.”
“I’d rather give her the $3000 it’s gonna cost our family of 3 as a wedding gift and just stay home in my sweatpants and air conditioning, not getting attacked by bugs.”
“OP, tell your brother you would love to go, but you financially cannot afford it right now, and you can either be FaceTime or he can buy the ticket.”
“So ridiculous and so over the top.” ~ National-Area5471
“I hate gender reveal already: Nobody else cares.” ~ get_to_ele
“That’s a big ask!”
“Disney is off the charts these days.” ~ Background_Noise_227
“You are never the a**hole for not wanting to go to Disneyland.”
“Also, that’s absurd to want people to pay to get into a theme park for a gender reveal.”
“Whoever thought that would be a good idea is the actual a**hole.” ~ Good-Kaleidoscope396
“Right, you don’t even get to fully enjoy the park that you paid $300 for because the gender reveal party is going to take a couple of hours.” ~f iggypudding531
“NTA. The whole ‘gender reveal’ fad is tiresome anyway.”
“And get off my damn lawn too, ya whippersnappers!”
“Why should people pay $300 (at least for Disneyland) to attend one?”
“Why should ANYONE do anything more than kick in a dish for a potluck to find out whether the baby will be a boy or a girl?” ~ TheWacoFogey
“NTA. Gender reveals are lame.”
“Making everyone go to Disneyland is even more lame.”
“Nobody really cares about the gender of other people’s babies.” ~ TopRamenisha
“No. People should not expect you to pay that kind of money.”
“If they want you to come that badly, they can pay for your ticket.”
“People make a big deal about too many things nowadays.” ~ Diligent_Concept9080
“NTA. Sounds like they are trying to make some sort of ‘family celebration vacation’ or something happen, and I would assume use it to go ‘when I did it we went to Disneyland’ if that isn’t the reason.”
“I really don’t know why they would do it there vs home or etc.”
“Wait for the F[ace]B[ook] reveal posts.” ~ Fanwhip
“NTA. People who want to have a gender reveal party should expect to foot the bill for it, not force people to cough up a huge chunk of money for the ‘privilege’ of being there. “
“Tell them you’ll watch their FB or Insta for the news.” ~ CuteYou676
“No. It’s absolutely ridiculous.”
“I’ll tell you for free right now: It’s either a boy or a girl.”
“That’s it.”
“One of those two options.”
“There’s absolutely nothing surprising about it, unless it turns out she’s having puppies or something.” ~ -auntiesloth-
“Umm NTA!!”
“Sorry, I know as first-time parents you’re indescribably excited and ecstatic about the perfect little bundle of joy you’re bringing into the world… but you have to realize everyone else isn’t quite so excited and ecstatic.”
“It’s your kid, not theirs.”
“No one wants to spend hundreds of dollars to go to a kids’ theme park just to be told if it’s a boy or a girl.” ~ love_no_more2279
“NTA. If your brother and his wife want to have a big, expensive party for any reason, as hosts, they should be paying for it.”
“If they can’t afford to have a big party, then they need to have a smaller one.”
“The family will still love them and still be excited about the baby, no matter how they received the news.”
“The location where the family learns about the baby’s gender isn’t going to make them any more excited about the baby.”
“This is why the big gender reveals are waning in popularity.”
“It can be a whole bunch of expense and bother for a couple of minutes of extra attention.”
“And doing it in a crowded public place is so tacky.”
“It just screams, ‘Look at Meeee!'”
“Why else would you do it in such a public place?”
“If people spend that much to travel to learn about the baby’s gender, depending on their financial situation, they’re likely going to spend less on a baby shower present when the time comes.” ~ Whisky-and-tiaras
“No one should have to pay to attend a gender reveal.”
“That alone is entitled brat behavior.”
“Asking folks to pay Disney prices is insane.”
“If he wants a Disney gender reveal, he needs to be paying for everyone’s Disney tickets.” ~ GnomieOk4136
“I’m not a fan of gender reveals in the first place.”
“The complete and utter dismissal of things that would be freaking WILD when it involves potential children vs everyday conversation is silly to me.”
“’We told grandma we are trying for a baby.'”
“So… you told your grandma you are raw smashing and one of you is free flowing into the other as much as possible. Cool.”
“My grandma would never know that about me.”
“And a gender reveal is literally just telling you the specific genitals of a fetus.”
“I wouldn’t bash people for this, I just think it’s odd and unnecessary.”
“No problem with a baby shower, I’ve made a cake for someone’s baby shower.”
“But even in frozen-over Hades I’d shell out $300 to see one.”
“I would attend one if paid $300, though.” ~ Dontfeedthebears
“NTA. That is bonkers.”
“If they are planning and inviting you to an event, they should cover fees.”
“If not forget it.”
“There is no way I would be game for this.”
“Gender reveals are dumb.” ~ KickIt77
“NTA. Destination weddings are bad enough, but this is beyond belief.”
“If they want it there, then as hosts, they should pay for the costs just like people pay for the costs of any party they host.”
“That said, Disney has pretty strict rules against parties on site, so what kind of gender reveal do they think they can actually have there?”
“Disney makes a lot of money from its party packages, and so they prevent people from trying to avoid the rules.” ~ Jujulabee
“There is literally not one single person in the world I’d pay that kind of money for to attend a gender reveal.”
“It’s gotten WAY out of hand in my opinion.”
“So much one-upmanship thanks to social media.”
“It’s like it’s just an added excuse to have a party and get gifts.” ~ TrueNorth202
“NTAH. Save your money.”
“You’re gonna find out the baby’s gender sooner or later, anyway.”
“I’ve always thought that gender reveals were kinda dumb.”
“Don’t go into a financial hole because your brother needs some attention.” ~ Realistic_Till5330
“I don’t do gender reveals unless it’s close family.”
“Otherwise, go live on social media.”
“But I’m not buying a ticket to Disney for my kids’ gender reveal.”
“Even if they pay it for me.”
“Put the money in savings for the baby!”
“Childcare and college are high as heck!” ~ boazed_n_delivered
“Jesus Lord!”
“The last time I was at Disney was when my kids were small in ’03 and we went for a week.”
“Day passes were $100-$140, and I thought it was expensive then.”
“I’ll be damned if I’m gonna pay $300 for a day pass for a gender reveal.”
“Then the shower and the gifts… when does it end?”
“NTA. You’re not required to celebrate someone else’s day when it’s outside of your comfort zone financially.” ~ Big_Object_4949
“NTA. Someone will no doubt record this; just watch it back when they return.”
“And when your family calls you selfish for not joining in on the excitement, remind them that it is this event or Christmas, you can’t afford both.” ~ charmony101
“NTA. $300 won’t even cover Thanksgiving grocery shopping!”
“Then comes Christmas gift shopping and more groceries.”
“I get that it’s the first grandchild.”
“But to expect people to pay that kind of money is too much.”
“He would be better off to have a backyard reveal and Disneyland for his first birthday.” ~ ABCBDMomma
“Oh God.”
“He’s going to want you all in matching t-shirts, too, isn’t he?”
“Ewww. No. NTA.”
“Gender reveals are stupid to begin with.”
“Making people pay to attend yours is even worse.” ~ DELILAHBELLE2605
Reddit is with you, OP.
That is a lot of money to spend.
Besides the holidays, there will be a baby shower and other baby-centric events in the future.
These events add up, and the bank account is hurting.
You do you.
Good Luck.