Graduating college without loans is a blessing. So, if your parents offer to pay for your education you should show nothing but gratitude.
However, some of that money comes with strings attached.
Redditor snnsbsbssb encountered this very issue with his parents. So he turned to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for moral judgment.
“AITA for refusing to pay my sister’s college tuition/fees?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“My (21M) parents are paying all of my college tuition.”
“I am going to a college far away from home which is much more expensive than colleges closer to my home. I have no financial aid or scholarships. My parents were the ones who encouraged me to attend this college and not worry about the money.”
“I have to take a four hour flight and a two hour bus ride to travel between my college and home. My parents have been booking my flights in first class rather than economy class. I will be working towards an even more advanced degree after graduating with the current degree I am on track to earn and my parents will pay for my education then as well.”
“I always thought my parents were paying for my education out of the kindness of their heart so that I could have a stronger future and not have to worry about student debt/loans. And I thought they’d do the same for my younger sister (15F) when she goes to college, too.”
OP’s parents had a different idea.
“Turns out, I was wrong.”
“I was speaking to my parents on the phone today and the conversation soon went to college and the advanced degree I would be earning. My parents made it clear that they would continue to pay for my education with the expectation that I pay for my sister’s education when she goes to college.”
“With our age gap, my sister would be starting her first or second year of college by the time I graduate with my advanced degree.”
“My parents had never told me that them paying my college tuition came with strings attached prior to today. I wasn’t expecting to pay for my sister’s tuition at all.”
“Had my parents told me about this beforehand, I might have considered going somewhere cheaper and taking loans as opposed to paying for my sister’s education. My sister wants to attend expensive, prestigious universities (they’re called ‘Ivy league’ in the United States) so taking loans for my own education would have been a better financial decision as opposed to paying for hers.”
OP did not accept the trade.
“I told my parents there was no way I was paying my sister’s college tuition.”
“I asked if she would be at least be expected to pay me back half of what I spent on her education and they said no. We don’t have any other younger siblings whose tuition my sister would have to pay so clearly my parents were favoring her.”
“My parents told me that my sister was – and always will be – the baby of the house and asked if I even loved her.”
“I asked them why they couldn’t pay for my sister’s tuition and they said that college is expensive and they already funded my education. They said any good brother would help his sister have a good life. They then called me an asshole.”
“Am I an asshole, though?”
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