As a pregnant woman navigates the full length of her pregnancy—what with all the possible ups and downs throughout—it’s so important she feels safe and well cared for.
And her maternity doctor is a very important factor in creating a reduced stress environment.
A recent Reddit post on the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit showed what happened when one woman struggled to line up her ideal choice.
The Original Poster (OP), known anonymously as throwingawashek on the site, used the post’s title to show what drove the conflict.
“AITA for choosing a doctor that is inconvenient for my husband.”
OP began with some good news and bad news.
“My husband and I are expecting our first baby I am about 3 months along. We are both very excited.”
“The problem is we live in a very small town. And I hate the doctors here. Only 1 will deal with pregnant woman and I think the doctor might be the worse I have seen.”
OP went on to give specifics.
“The doctor avoids work at all cost. Yelling at staff if they get called into the hospital late at night because it wasn’t that big of an emergency.”
“She had canceled 3 of my appointments so far saying she is scared to have clients in because of the pandemic.”
“We haven’t had a case in a 100 mile radius yet. She is just lazy.”
OP took matters into her own hands.
“So I decided to go back to my old family doctor which is in the city with my parents.”
“I have been driving into the city for appointments.”
But the logistics made plans a tad more complicated.
“I suggested to my husband that I go live with my parents during the last month just in case little one decided to be early. And my husband can come stay to once he is start his paternity leave.”
“My husband likes my parents and they have what used to be an apartment in their house so we would have privacy.”
OP was surprised by how her husband reacted.
“But my husband is calling me a selfish asshole who just cant get along with people. He is scared if I go during the month he would get to be there as it is a bit of a drive.”
“Even my girlfriend has said maybe I should just suck it up to keep the peace.”
OP couldn’t figure out how to feel.
“I just don’t want to deal with that doctor. If I end up in labor before the last month I would be sent to the hospital in the city anyways because they don’t have the facilities for that level of emergency.”