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Mom Has Perfect Solution After Learning Ex-Husband Keeps Selling Their Daughters’ Clothes

two young girls in tie dye shirts
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When parents get divorced, it’s important for them to show their children that their love for them remains unchanged.

Most of the time, no matter how acrimonious the divorce, parents are still able to raise their children with little to no conflict.

In some sad instances, however, the bitterness from the divorce manages to pollute their parenting skills, sometimes resulting in one or more of the parents taking revenge on their ex at the expense of their children.

Redditor Ok_Antelope4554 found herself in such. a situation, who noticed that her husband was selling their daughter’s possessions for his own benefit.

All seemingly owing to the fact that the original poster (OP) came out better in their divorce.

When her ex-husband denied he was doing so, the OP hatched a plan to catch him off guard and prove his guilt.

Wondering if she had gone too far, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I the A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:

“AITA for having my kids wear tie dye when with their dad?”

The OP explained how after she began to notice her daughters returning from visiting their father with much emptier bags than when they left, she planned what turned out to be the perfect revenge.

“I (30 F[emale]) my ex-husband (31M[ale]).”

“Got divorced 5 yrs ago.”

“During our divorce we owned an old single wide mobile home (1973).”

“On a large piece of land that is zoned for a trailer park.”

“He wanted the new truck and our savings.”

“I wanted the old trailer and the land.”

“My ex and I have 2 girls (8&7).”

“Since my divorce.”

“I slowly started buying old single wides and restoring them.”

“Turning it into a business.”

“I love it.”

“My girls go to their dads and affair partner (AP) apartment every other weekend.”

“I started noticing their clothes, electronics, toys were not coming home.”

“At first I thought their dad was just keeping a few outfits there for them.”

“However, my 8 yr. old got upset when she was packing.”

“I asked her what was wrong.”

“She told me her dad takes her clothes and sells them on line.”

“That she doesn’t want to take her favorite shirt over there.”

“I immediately called my ex.”

“I asked him to return our daughters clothes.”

“Not wanting to throw my daughter under the bus.”

“I blamed it on them not having enough for school.”

“He played dumb.”

“He said he got rid of the clothes that were too small.”

“I pointed out that the jeans our (7 yr.) had were brand new.”

“He then said that it was only fair he got some cash because he owned the trailer and land.”

“If it wasn’t for him I wouldn’t be doing this good.”

“I was pissed.”

“I took my daughters down to the dollar store and bought cheap shirts.”

“To a thrift store and bought cheap shorts.”

“We had a ‘girls’ tie dye night.”

“Hot pink every thing.”

“Each made 5 shirts and 5 bottoms.”

“I let our girls design and decorate them.”

“My girls loved it.”

“The following week, Ex sends the girls home.”

“I could tell he is mad but, he didn’t say anything.”

“The clothes were not returned.”

“No fear I knew this would be an issue.”

“We made extras.”

“When the girls went back they were wearing tie dye.”

“They were with their dad for a hour before he called and demanded different clothes.”

“I kindly told him that our daughters love those clothes, they really really love tie dye.”

“Ex get even angrier and said his parents have a major family party and the girls can’t wear pink tie dye.”

“I told him that he should go buy other clothes if he didn’t want them to wear it.”

“He called me an A for being petty.”


Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:

  • NTA – Not The A**hole
  • YTA – You’re The A**hole
  • NAH – No A**holes Here
  • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here

The Reddit community wholeheartedly agreed that the OP was not the a**hole for sending her daughter’s to her ex wearing Tie Dye.

Everyone agreed that the OP had no right to sell their daughter’s clothes, particularly only to profit from it himself, and OP couldn’t have handled the situation better, though some felt she should consider legal action.


“Get a Bedazzler.”

“They’re not expensive and they’re a blast for girls this age.”

“Also fabric markers.”

“Puffy paint.”

“You might have a whole set of new hobbies by the time your girls are teens.”-Sparky-Malarky


“You need to take this man to court.”

“He is stealing from his children and doesn’t care that it is causing them clear and understandable distress.”- Forward_Squirrel8879


“As soon as you said he wanted the new truck and cash I knew this would be a wild ride.”

“Congrats on your business.”

“You sound very savvy so I’ll sure you’ll do great, especially without your ex holding you back.”

“I equally hope that AP is enjoying the prize she won.”- emccm

“NTA and your answer was exactly right.”

“He SHOULD be obligated to buy them clothes.”

“He’s their dad for goodness sakes, what kind of father sells his own children’s clothes off their backs?”

“If you can, please take him to court, and give your kids the option of NOT visiting him as soon as you’re legally able.”- claireclairey


“My son’s dad and his AP tried this when he was young.”

“Wasn’t selling them, was just keeping any ‘new’ clothing and returning him in old/dirty/outgrown stuff his AP’s kid used to wear and giving son’s stuff to AP’s kid.”

“Told him that wouldn’t fly.”

“What left this house comes back to this house with our son.”

“His AP retaliated by dumping grape soda into my son’s overnight bag.”

“So I took him to court.”

“Judge ordered he had to keep clothing & toys at his house and what our son arrived with was what he returned with.”

“And it had to be clean, unless the visit was less than a day trip.”

“Anything missing/damaged, he had to reimburse me for.”- TripsOverCarpet


“And I love this creative solution that centers the feelings of your daughters.”- madelinegumbo


“Keep a record of what goes over there and back.”

“As you can have the child support changed to show he is taking it back.”- Gypsy-Nyx


“But you need to start making a list, keep track of what is going missing, the comments your kids are making.”

“It’s something you’re going to want to have record of if he tries to get custody.”

“Also he’s their parent, didn’t realize you were supposed to be 100% responsible for their clothing they have on.”

“If he wants them to wear something different at his house, he can buy it.”- whitewer


“My ex had a daughter from a hook up before we dated and his mom was all in on having a granddaughter.”

“At least once every weekend, they went out for a shopping trip.”

“New dresses, new outfits, new shoes, new accessories.”

“Not just frilly stuff, but useful stuff, though maybe more pricey than a normal wardrobe for kids.”

“My ex sent the new stuff with his daughter when she went back to her mom’s because unless she spent all day changing, she’d never wear all the clothes at his house.”

“The little girl once tearfully confided in me that her mom took a scissor to one batch of clothes because reasons?”

“No explanation, not sure if she objected to the clothes in the bag specifically, was punishing the kid by destroying the clothes, or being spiteful toward my ex/his mom.”

“So my ex made a special effort to send her back in what she arrived in.”

“All hell broke loose after 3 months of no new clothes, despite her mom sending her in increasingly ill fitting and stained clothes.”

“Nothing was legally actionable on either side so my ex resorted to buying all manner of new clothes that referenced him.”

“Daddy’s Best Girl, Daddy’s Little Princess, etc and those are what he sent home.”

“Your ex is a complete troll and I would continue to tie dye and maybe mix in some extra personalization.”

“Get a Cricut and add more embellishments to their clothes.”

“Maybe their names, references to you ‘I have the world’s best mom’ or whatever would really trigger him.”- wildferalfun


“This is great.”

“We had to stop sending anything home with my SD.”

“The mom would throw everything away.”

“New clothes, gifts from Xmas and bday. “

“SD was SO upset she couldn’t take it home but was also heart broken that everything was thrown away.”

“She just always expected her mom to be different the next time.”- carry_on_and_on

It’s hard not to understand someone’s frustrations following a seemingly bitter divorce.

One can also understand why a divorced parent might look for unusual sources of income to support their children.

In this case, however, the OP’s ex seemed to be doing everything for himself, and himself alone.

One can only hope he learned his lesson, and his daughters will start returning home with all the clothes they arrived with.

Or else their visits will most definitely become fewer and far between.

Written by John Curtis

A novelist, picture book writer and native New Yorker, John is a graduate of Syracuse University and the children's media graduate program at Centennial College. When not staring at his computer monitor, you'll most likely find John sipping tea watching British comedies, or in the kitchen, taking a stab at the technical challenge on the most recent episode of 'The Great British Baking Show'.