There are very few teenagers anywhere in the world who won’t try, at least once, to do something behind their parents’ backs.
But things never end well when teenagers try to take advantage of other people’s generosity.
Such was the case when the cousin of Redditor ralucsavoidrac tried to tangle her up in her plans.
But when the original poster (OP) was reprimanded by her family for how she behaved towards her cousin, she took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole (AITA), asking fellow Redditors:
“AITA for kicking my cousin and her friends out of my house?”
The OP first shared the somewhat dubious request her teenage cousin made.
“English is not my first language so sorry for grammar mistakes.”
“A few days ago my cousin (16F[emale]) asked if she could have a party at my (24F) house.”
“She said it would be a small party with a few friends and at first she asked for no adults at the house which I just laughed and said no.”
“If she wanted so much the party to happen so I would be there.”
However, the OP quickly learned her cousin had not been honest with her and she was not at all pleased.
“The party was supposed to happen today but, early this afternoon, my mom called me and said she saw the guest list and there were a hundred and thirty eight names there.”
“YEAH. 138 NAMES.”
“I was furious.”
“I went home and my cousin was there with a few friends already and this is where I might be the a**hole because I yelled at her.”
“I was pissed.”
“She totally broke the trust I put in her inviting so many people to my house when she said it would be just a few friends. (Not mentioning COVID.)”
“So I cancelled the party and told everyone to pack their stuff and go home.”
“Some family members are saying I overreacted and I am honestly feeling kind of bad vibes so I need to know, AITA? ):”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they felt the OP fell in this particular situation using the acronyms:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Redditors unanimously agreed the OP was not the a**hole in situation.
There was firm agreement the OP’s cousin was clearly trying to take advantage of her trusting nature.
“Your cousin manipulated you by making the situation seem better than it was in reality.”
“138 people could EASILY bring damage to your house and I doubt your cousin would have done much about it.” – Mythical0asis
“NTA 138 people is not a small party.”
“She lied to you and used your kindness against you.”
“You did the right thing.”
“Her party could have destroyed your house.” – EzHedgehog.
“NTA but I’m laughing because how did she really think this would play out?”
“Like you were gonna just accept 100+ kids suddenly coming to hang out at your place, and not kick them out? “
“What the what!?”- NancyNuggets.
“It’s your house.”
“I would be thinking up to 10 friends for a party.”
“138 is like a wedding.” – Nt_A_Chnc
“The audacity.” -immigrantpleb.
“She was taking advantage of you.” – Sydneyfire.
“Your cousin lied and did not respect you.” – meifahs_musungs
Many were shocked the OP didn’t seem to have the support of her family, wondering how they would feel if they came home to a party of 138 people.
“The family who are calling you names should let the cousin host the 138 people at their house NTA.” – reeserodgers59.
“They want you to feel bad.”
“You do feel bad.”
“Push through it. “
“You did the right thing and that isn’t always easy.” -2ndcupofcoffee.
“Also those family members who are shaming you can host her party with her ‘138’ guests!” – Lizardgirl25
“A small party is under 50 people.”
“Anything over 100 is a big party .”
“138 in one house is ridiculous.”
“You did the right thing by cancelling, your house would have been trashed.”
“If your family get at you, ask them if they would want 138 teenagers in thier home when they were told it would be a small party.” -HexStarlight.
There were some who felt the OP didn’t have to yell at her cousin, her being a teenager, but still agreed she did the absolute right thing by putting an end to the party.
“NTA. Not by a long shot.”
“138 teenagers to one adult?”
“I literally cannot think of a scenario in which this is a good idea or ends well.”
“Not the best thing in the world to yell at her, but that’s egregious. 3-4 friends to 138.”
“You did the right thing, just maybe don’t yell next time.” – Xoinkaera
Others pointed out how such a large party could have not only resulted in damage to the OP’s home, but also could have gotten her in trouble with the law.
“How dare you not give into your 16 year-old-cousin and let her and nearly 140 teenagers you don’t know (plus who knows how many others who decide to gatecrash) come into your own home so they can trash your stuff while doing everything teenagers do while unsupervised (or woefully under supervised like this would be with just you there) at parties!”
“Not to mention you being responsible under the law for any underage drinking, drugs, hook-ups, noise complaints, brawls, or mini riots.”
“And left to clean it all up the next day too.”
“NTA by the way” – AussieSkittles81
“Who wants to be responsible for 138 teenagers?” -Mundane_Marsupial_61
“Your home would be destroyed and you’d be liable if anything happened.”
“Almost impossible not to have something happen with 138 teenagers.” – RestInPeaceLater.
Others were disturbed by the fact the OP’s cousin would even think of holding such a big party in the midst of a global pandemic.
“Over a hundred people probably underage drinking (you were already mislead as to the guest list so who knows what else she wasn’t saying), that would cause damage.”
“Also, three words. Super. Spreader. Event.” -ScorchieSong
Redditors were even more behind the OP’s decision when it was revealed her house was in fact a large apartment, far less hospitable to 138 rowdy teens.
“English it’s not my first language but basically it’s a really big apartment (like, in a building) with 2 floors.”
Indeed, it sounds like the OP’s cousin got herself into a situation where she was bound to get into trouble one way or the other.
One can only hope as time passes on, she will eventually see the OP did her a favor and saved her from getting into much more trouble than she did in the end.