School can be really difficult, especially as you try to pull ahead and make yourself stand out for college admissions. A drop in your grade can make you feel like your world is ending, so sometimes you need a little help.
On the “Am I the A**hole” subReddit, user aitatutor tried to get a little help and instead got way more than she bargained for. She didn’t like the situation and posted about it online, but that seemed to make things worse.
The original poster (OP) asks:
“AITA for causing my former tutor to lose the majority of her clients”
This is what happened:
“I (f17) had this huge essay a couple weeks ago. It was an argumentative essay on the character John Proctor from the crucible, if I thought he was a good or bad person and why.”
“If I got an F on this essay it would bring my grade down from an A to a D and I’m not good at writing essays so I decided to book myself a couple sessions with a very popular tutor in my town, Pam, to help me.”
“I booked myself 2 sessions at $65 an hour so I expected her to help me draft an outline and get quotes from the book and just make sure I was doing it right.”
“Instead she showed up to my house with a prewritten essay and told me to copy it. That was the entire session.”
“I canceled the second session and posted on nextdoor about my experience working with her and asked if anyone else had similar experiences. My post went nextdoor viral and a lot of parents saw my post.”
“Pam texted me and told me to take down my post because she was losing clients but I was feeling kinda petty so I decided to keep it up.”
“Well, Pam texted me a couple days ago to say that thanks to my post, she lost around 80% of her clients (most of her clients are younger kids so I guess their parents saw the post and asked the kids what they did with Pam).”
“I feel kinda bad because we’re in a pandemic and it’s really hard to get jobs and I basically made Pam lose her job so I wanted to know if I was the a**hole.”
It’s easy to think that just because Pam did something wrong that it means OP is in the clear. But losing a job during a time like this is difficult too, and OP feels guilty about that.
To find out if they’re at fault, the AITA board votes on it. This is done with one of the following comments.
- NTA – Not the A**hole
- YTA – You’re the A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
The board determined that while OP may feel like she caused the issue for Pam, it was really Pam’s own actions that made her lose clients.
OP doesn’t need to feel guilty about this.
“NTA, she was a tutor and told you to plagiarize. Not only is it a surefire way to fail, it does nothing to help you learn how to write and research future essays.” – APrettyRedBalloon
“NTA Also, if you’ve written an essay yourself before for the same teacher, and you show up with Pam’s plagiarized nonsense, they’re going to know.”
“Fastest way to raise a teacher’s suspicions is to radically change your writing style. So Pam is also TA for potentially getting all of these kids in a lot of trouble, because if she works with lots of younger kids they might not be as firm on the rules about plagiarism (picturing middle school aged here).”
“Plus you learn nothing, aka she’s not a tutor.” – Archandicorrigible