The Original Poster (OP), who goes by the name InsertCoolNameHereXO on the site, asked:
“AITA for telling my friend that I have a hard time feeling sympathy over his situation?”
She explained:
“So my friend married into a rich family, like millionaire rich, his wife has a decent job as a psychologist and he only works part time to give him something to do during the week. His wife’s family has paid for everything for my friend and his wife from their cars, their house and all the renovations they did.”
“They were also gifted $30k when they got married which for reference is about what I make in a year while in university and they spent it on a home theater system in less than a month.”
“My friend and his wife ended up getting into this massive fight with his in-laws a while ago and they’ve been cut off as a result. Turns out neither of them have any money saved up and had been spending their paychecks on toys for their house but now they need to live life as normal people and pay their bills.”
“My friend was complaining that he needs to sell his drones as well as he needs to get a full time job or else they’ll lose the house. I asked him why his wife, who has a good paying job, didn’t have any money saved and his answer was that they thought they wouldn’t need to save money as they would end up with her parents inheritance anyway and in the meanwhile they were fine with the money her family was lending her.”
“He got mad at me for not being as upset as he was but I explained to him that I found it hard to sympathize with him as they created all these problems for themselves and they should have had some kind of safety net.”
OP’s fellow Redditors were then asked to judge who was in the wrong in this situation using the following acronyms:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
And, unsurprisingly, they didn’t have much sympathy for OP’s friend either.
“NTA. You aren’t wrong. That’s spoiled entitlement on their part. Sad. I agree, no sympathy from me either.” —TonnieSue
“‘We have no savings because we just assumed we could mooch off our inlaws until they died and we inherited their estate. Its not really mooching if its going to be my money anyway right? I now have to grow up and be an adult, why don’t you pity me?'”
“The sheer arrogance of people so entitled they expect sympathy because their meal ticket was taken away after they decided to bite the literal hand that feeds them baffles me. Hard to accept there are people out there that out of touch with reality.” —Trasl0
“Lol. My filthy rich older bro (he inherited our Dad’s business) has been living like a king for 25+ years. COVID hit his business pretty hard, and he’s been whining about money.”
“Where the f**k did all that money go? Porsches, Jaguars, BMWs, exotic 2-3 week vacations twice a year, huge house with an ocean view, used to eat out at the finest restaurants because non working wifey can’t cook… the list is endless. My reaction? Boo hoo hoo.” —SaltyDoggoMeo
“I mean come on! There are two major reasons why I’m going to state but anyone in their right mind can see this.”
“First off, why didn’t they save? Yes, it’s easy to assume it’ll always be there but life is life. And life is crazy. It’s not even an innocuous mistake, at this point it’s just stupidity.”
“Second, WHY ON EARTH DID THEY THINK YOU COULD RELATE? 30k, what would you do that? Invest? Savings? Use a little for a sweet vacation before putting it for a down payment for a new house?”
“Who the actual hell buys an in-house movie theater? That screams irresponsibility with money. And, oh no, I’m going to have to sell my drones?”
“I’m just staring at that with a blank face.”
“NTA NTA NTA”
“Extra that pisses me off:”
“I’ve got a sibling of a friend who’s rich, also millionaire rich, yet he drives a car from legitimately 20 years ago. The last time he played video games? In his freaking dreams.”
“For your ‘friend’: he is legitimately spoiled. Must have felt like he was living in a dream world before reality hit him in the head. Bad dreams.” —1baddream
“Somehow I agree- no sympathy here either… NTA either” —nonchalantenigma
“getting checks like that would turn anyone into a spoiled entitled brat. I do not know how if you grow up with rich parents you do not end up entitled.” —methreezfg
“NTA They obviously never heard the phrase ‘Don’t bite the hand that feeds you.'”
“They blew through their own money and basically saw Inlaws as free money atm.” —ShibeDogeBork
“NTA, people completely building their lives around an inheritance, just waiting for their folks to drop so they can live the high life, are the f**king worst. I mean, they could just live another 50 years depending on their age, what’s their plan if that happens? F**king vultures.”
“It is 100% a situation of their own creation, and it’s not like you laughed at him and called him a spoiled brat, he gave you sh*t for not being as upset, essentially asking for an explanation, and you gave a fairly polite answer. Much more polite than I would’ve been. Like, oh no, you have to sell your drone and downgrade your lifestyle a bit, the horrors.” —Noltonn
Hopefully, these friends can learn the value of a dollar from this whole thing.