When staying at a family member’s house, it’s typically important to follow their house rules as a guest.
But if one of the rules seems absurd to you, is it wrong to call it out and perhaps even disobey it, or is it better to keep your mouth shut and suck it up?
Redditor BeatrxKiddox recently clashed with her mother-in-law (MIL) over her odd demand about sleeping arrangements, so she turned to the subReddit “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) to see if she was wrong for how she reacted.
“AITA for telling my MIL that her rules for letting us stay in her house are ‘ridiculous’?”
The original poster (OP) laid out the circumstances that led her family to stay with her MIL in the first place.
“We had a severe plumbing issue occur at our house recently. Insurance will cover it, but the house is virtually uninhabitable until that happens (our second story bathtub is currently hanging halfway into the kitchen!)”
“My husband’s mom graciously extended an invitation for he and I and our two kids to sleep over at her house for a week or two while repairs are being done. We accepted and upon arrival everything was fine. (We have had a rocky past, but at this point his mother and I usually are pretty cordial).”
But when it came time for bed, that’s when things took a turn.
“After dinner we went to put the kids in bed in the pullout couch in their TV room. She stopped us and said ‘if you do that, where will you two be sleeping?'”
“And my husband looked at her confused. ‘In the guest suite….?'”
“She looked completely shocked. ‘Under my roof? Absolutely not. You (talking to my husband) can have the guest suite, but she sleeps somewhere else.'”
The OP and her husband were shocked by the request, and struggled to hide their bewildered amusement.
“My husband sort of laughed in amazement and said ‘you’re going to make my wife sleep in the living room when there’s a perfectly good queen sized bed for us both?'”
“His mom all but shuddered, she said ‘oh my God, why are you even making me think about this? I don’t want to think about my son in bed with a woman!'”
“We’ve been married eight years. At this point I just started to smother a smile. I seriously could not help it.”
The OP’s MIL, however, did not see the humor in it.
“Her face had gone red as a tomato and she looked so genuinely gobsmacked. She turned to me and snapped ‘what’s funny here?’ I replied ‘I’m sorry, (her name).'”
“She asked again ‘What’s funny? What’s so funny to you? Do you have to act like a child about everything?'”
“So I responded, ‘this is all just a little ridiculous.'”
“She stormed out of the room after giving us both the finger (and f**k if that didn’t make me laugh harder) and went upstairs. She pretty much slammed her bedroom door behind her.”
Despite everything, the OP and her husband honored his mom’s request.
But that apparently wasn’t enough.
“That night my husband gave me the guest suite and he slept with our kids on the pullout sofa. We left and went to my parents’ the next day where they had no issue allowing us to share a room.”
“His mother has requested an apology from both of us for disrespecting her home, but my husband hasn’t responded to that text and honestly we don’t even know how.”
Redditors then weighed in on the situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
While they assured the OP she was NTA, they had some shocking revelations for her MIL.
“You have two kids. Where does she think they came from? 😂”—dftaylor
“Immaculate conception worked for Mary and Joseph, why is it too good for OP and her husband??”
“OP please move into an airbnb….this is just going to destroy that ‘cordial’ relationship you have with your MIL.”—Emergency_Yard_6009