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Woman Refuses To Watch Brother’s Kid After He Lied About Friend’s ‘Injury’ So She’d Babysit

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In the classic tale “The Boy Who Cried Wold”, a naughty young shepherd falsely claimed to his fellow villagers that a wolf had invaded his flock.

When a wolf actually did invade his flock, no one believed him, and ignored his plea for help, resulting in all of his sheep being eaten by the wolf.

The moral of the story being: “no one believes a liar, even when he is telling the truth.”

Indeed, sometimes all it can take is one simple instance of dishonesty to result in those closest to you never trusting you again.

Such was rather the case for Redditor lyingbrotherandsil, who was less than thrilled to discover that she had been duped into helping her brother and sister-in-law.

The original poster (OP) was so angry, that she made it clear that she would never help either of them in the same manner ever again.

Even when they genuinely needed their help.

Concerned she was being too hard on them, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:

“AITA for refusing to babysit my nephew, even in a family medical emergency, because my brother and SIL lied before?”

The OP explained how after she had been tricked into babysitting her nephew, complicating her job as a result, she vowed to never babysit for her brother and sister-in-law ever again.

“I am my brother and SIL’s only relative in the city.”

“When SIL was pregnant I made it clear that I’d only babysit for them in the case of a serious emergency, e.g. someone has a medical emergency.”

“I won’t babysit if they just wanted time off from being parents, because I don’t have the free time for that. I work 60-100 hours a week, so if anyone needs time off, it’s me.”

“Last year, my brother and SIL asked me to babysit on the day of an informal work meeting, a lake retreat organized by my company.”

“Everyone is expected to go, and it’s frowned upon if you miss it.”

“They wanted to go on a date.”

“I said no, I have an important work event.”

“They continued to nag me about how they haven’t gone on a date for so long.”

“The night before that day, they called in a panic and said their friend Mike from the next city over had been in a car accident, and I needed to babysit nephew for a few hours so that they could go visit Mike.”

“I reluctantly agreed, with the stipulation that they’d be back by 7 am the next day to pick nephew up so I could leave for my work event.”

“They did not come back until two days later.”

“I had to cancel on my superiors morning of, which looked awful.”

“My brother and SIL never responded to multiple texts and calls from me.”

“Their excuse was that Mike’s life was in danger and they were too busy helping his girlfriend.”

“I accepted that, since I had met both Mike and his girlfriend at a party in the past and thought they were good people, but I emphasized that this absolutely could not happen again.”

“Throughout the next two months, my brother and SIL regularly used the excuse of aiding Mike in his recovery and needing to visit him in order to make me babysit my nephew.”

“Mike’s girlfriend’s company and my company had a meeting two months after Mike’s ‘accident’.”

“I ran into her and asked her how Mike was recovering.”

“Apparently, she had no idea he had ever been hospitalized.”

“Neither did Mike. Mike had never been in an accident, and although brother and SIL had gone to visit them recently, it was for drinks and bowling, not bringing them chicken noodle soup in the hospital.”

“I confronted brother and SIL, and they denied at first, but finally admitted they had been lying about Mike’s accident so that they could go on date nights.”

“They claimed I ‘gave them no choice since I would never help them out when they needed time together because parenting was so stressful and difficult and I had no idea and it was just a little white lie’.”

“I made it clear that after this incident, I would never babysit for them again, and I’ve stuck to that.”

“Yesterday my brother and SIL begged me to babysit for them because there was an actual medical emergency in SIL’s family.”

“They even sent me proof of the relative’s hospitalization.”

“I still said no.”

“They didn’t care about betraying my trust, so I don’t care if they can’t afford childcare or if their relative is in the hospital.”

“They said I was a bad aunt, needed to get over my grudge, and a petty asshole.”


Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:

  • NTA: Not the A**hole
  • YTA: You’re the A**hole
  • ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
  • NAH: No A**holes Here

The Reddit community agreed that the OP was not at all the a**hole for refusing to babysit for her brother.

Everyone agreed that the OP’s brother and sister-in-law took advantage of her generosity, and put her job in jeopardy, and as a result had to pay the appropriate consequences.


“they burned that bridge.”

“They used a lie about the health of a friend to put their priorities above your own.”

“They made you miss work, and lied to you for months.”

“They really expect you to do this?”

“F*ck that.”

“They need to grow up and if they weren’t ready for the stress of having kids all the time, they shouldn’t have had one.”

“These people aren’t just a**holes, they are bad parents.”

“Who the hell drops their kid off to the person they’ve tricked into babysitting and then ghosts them for two days?!”- dnjprod

“NTA they cried wolf too many times now they get to live with the consequences.”

“Plus family doesn’t owe family free babysitting, if they wanted a date night find a babysitter.”-Final_Commission4160


“Has it never occurred to them to hire a babysitter?”

“Your time is too valuable and you are not responsible for their choice to procreate.”

“They are unbelievable AH for lying to you.”- TheShowJagua


“Im a parent and I would NEVER do that, no matter how badly I wanted a night off.”

“Totally inexcusable.”

“Stick to your guns.”

“Don’t babysit for them ever again.”

“They can hire a sitter, the entitled a**holes.”- Issamelissa84


“He can stay home with his kids, and SIL can go visit her family.”

“Problem solved.”

“They were due back by a certain time but showed up two days later.”


“Screwing with your job / livlihood is unforgiveable!’

“Then, not only did they lie initially, about someone’s life being on the line, they continued to lie repeatedly.”

“There is no justifying any of that.”

“These are their children.”

“Welcome them to life as a parent!”

“Being ‘an aunt’ doesn’t mean you agree to take the kids every time the parents want to go out.”

“Your relationship with their kids is not for exploitation purposes.”- loathinginmi


“Oh, absolutely not.”

“Stick to your guns and never babysit for them, again.”

“I don’t care if aliens land and threaten war on the Earth unless your brother and sister-in-law personally negotiate a peace deal with them.”

“Still don’t do it.”

“I know your brother is your relative so I hate to say this, kind of, but that man is a Grade A jerk.”

“So is your sister-in-law.”

“Really, what terrible, terrible people.”

“They really don’t have much character if they would lie like that.”

“There’s nothing ‘little’ or ‘white’ about it.”

“And, what kind of lesson is that for your nephew about right and wrong?”

“They’re lucky that you’re even still speaking to them because I don’t think I would be.”

“And, what do they mean, ‘They had no choice’?”

“They could make friends with the neighbors, they could hire a babysitting service.”

“They had other options than to not only lie to you but to make you miss an important work event.”

“You could have been seriously hamstrung at your job over that!”

“Not only are you NTA, I’m almost ready to ask you for their phone number so I can chew them out, myself.”

“I’m furious on your behalf!”- Tiamat_fire_and_ice


“Since when are family members obligated to babysit upon demand?”

“They need to get their grown up pants on and find childcare.”

“And beg for forgiveness for lying repeatedly to take advantage of you.”- mamallama7228


“They chose to become parents.”

“They don’t get to make you watch your nephew BY LYING ‘because parenting hard and stressful’.”

“They knew what raising a child involves.”

“That’s incredibly rude to do not to mention not cool, as it’s like the boy who cried wolf, how would you know when they’re actually telling the truth?”

“I’d be furious.”

“Totally understandable to refuse to do it again, it’s their own damn fault.”- beeehjayoh

It’s understandable that parents might want a night or two away from their children every now and then.

That being said, aunts and uncles, or even grandparents, should ever be expected to babysit, completely gratis, at a moments notice.

Perhaps in due time, with a little convincing, the OP’s brother and sister-in-law might have been successful in persuading her to babysit for them every now and again, with sufficient notice.

Something which now will likely never happen.

Written by John Curtis

A novelist, picture book writer and native New Yorker, John is a graduate of Syracuse University and the children's media graduate program at Centennial College. When not staring at his computer monitor, you'll most likely find John sipping tea watching British comedies, or in the kitchen, taking a stab at the technical challenge on the most recent episode of 'The Great British Baking Show'.