Some people feel the need to always find someone to blame for everything.
Even things they are solely responsible for themselves.
Ludicrous as it may seem, they will look for any and every excuse or loophole to try and veer the responsibility away from them and onto someone else.
Going to almost desperate lengths not to appear guilty or responsible.
Redditor StrongNarwhal9248 was less than pleased when his roommate took something of his without permission.
Not as sorry as the original poster (OP)’s roommate turned out to be, however, as doing so resulted in his being admitted to the hospital.
Faced with a sizable bill, the OP’s roommate demanded that the OP should be the one to foot the bill, since it was his possession that got him in the hospital.
A demand the OP flatly refused.
Wondering if he was wrong for doing so, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**Hole” (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for not paying for my friends hospital bills?”
The OP explained why their roommate felt he was responsible for his recent admission to the hospital:
“I, 24 M[ale] live with my friend 26 M[ale] in a 2 bedroom apartment we were friends before living with each other so we set some ground rules and one of them was that we don’t share groceries.”
“We have separate mini fridges in our rooms so you couldn’t even eat or drink something that isn’t yours on accident.”
“One day i was out with friends and i was craving the cake in my fridge for when I come home.”
“When I came home, I saw that the fridge was empty and I saw the saw the plate in the trash.”
“Turns out he was allergic to peanut butter which was in the cake and he saw himself in the mirror face puffy and red as a tomato so he called an ambulance, (nothing serious happened to him).”
“After he saw the cost of ambulance and epi pen etc., he asked me to pay for it all because apparently “I poisoned him” and I told him that he stole my cake without even telling and told him to f off and went home.”
“He told all of our friends and they are telling me to at least help him pay it.”
“So AITA?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community resoundingly agreed that the OP was not the a**hole for refusing to pay his roommate’s medical bill.
Everyone agreed that the OP’s roommate had no one to blame but himself for ending up in the hospital, and as such he was the only one responsible for paying any medical expenses that came out of his deciding to eat the OP’s cake:
“NTA.”
“This is no different than if he’d had an adverse reaction to your medication.”
“It wasn’t meant for him, you didn’t give it to him or agree to him having any.”
“This is 100% his fault and his problem.”
“Not only do you not owe him a dime, you need to make it very clear that his medical bills are not an excuse to fall behind on rent or utilities because there is a 100% chance he’s going to say that he needs you to cover those if he has to pay his own medical bill.”
“Plant your feet and don’t back down.”- SteamScout
“NTA.”
“He ate something that was in your fridge, in your room, that he didn’t know the origins of.”
“Even if it was in a shared fridge, he would still be the AH because it wasn’t his to eat and he didn’t even bother to ask.”
“Maybe time for a lock on the door or fridge?”- brendini511
“Could you send me the measurements of the balls size needed to try to hold someone else accountable for stealing food he’s allergic to?!”
“Gotta be massive.”
“NTA.”- LadyAmemyst
“NTA.”
“Absolutely not.”
“He went into your fridge, took something that was not his, and ate it.”
“This is a well deserved, expensive lesson for him.”- ogo7
“NTA.”
“Tell him to f*ck off.”
“You have boundaries and separate fridges for a reason yet he violated that, so it’s his own fault really. “
“Explain to your friends to why you aren’t gonna help.”- Lucifer07x
“NTA.”
“I have a deadly food allergy.”
“Because of that, I NEVER eat food that isn’t mine or that I haven’t checked the ingredients.”
“If he hadn’t stolen your food, he wouldn’t have the bills.”
“That is all on him.”- MerelyWhelmed1
“Absolutely NTA.”
“You can’t poison someone when you put food in a place they technically can’t access.”- Aware_Welcome_8866
“Uh, no. NTA.”
“Food thieves deserve no sympathy or compensation for their stupidity.”- SugaredZebra
“NTA – he OWES You a peanut butter cake!”- SickerThanYourAvg24
“NTA.”
“If he knew he had a peanut allergy why did he think it would be ok to eat something in someone else’s fridge without knowing the ingredients?”
“Then he has the audacity to blame you and rally his friends.”
“You didn’t force him to steal and eat the cake.”
“WTH.”- teriKatty
“NTA.”
“If it was in your fridge and he ate the cake without permission, he deserves it.”- MaineRonin13
“Someone with a life threatening food allergy should not be stealing and eating foods of unknown ingredients and origins.”
“If he stole your car and crashed it you also wouldn’t be somehow responsible for his medical bills.”
“But he would be responsible for your car repairs, and potentially face criminal charges.”
“Technically, he’s a thief and owes you a cake.”
“I would very generously let it go and not require him to buy you a new cake given what he went through, one hopes a painful reaction and expensive hospital bill would be lesson enough for him.”
“But I’m afraid it won’t be given his attitude.”
“NTA.”
“Your friends are either very dumb or the type of people to just side with the squeakiest will and join the chorus for ‘just give in to keep the peace!'”
“I guarantee you not a single one of them would be offering to pay the hospital bill if it was their food he had stolen.”
“NTA.”
“You might think about changing your living situation.”
“This person is selfish, greedy, a thief, and most importantly dangerously stupid.”- SummitJunkie7
“NTA.”
“If the friends feel so strongly about you helping pay the hospital bills, then why don’t THEY do it?”-
Perfect-Quarter8237
“NTA.”
“He had to invade your private space, to go into your personal mini fridge, to get that cake.”
“He deserved what he got, you don’t owe squat.”- Winter_Wolverine4622
“NTA.”
“You didn’t poison him.”
“He poisoned himself with greed and theft.”
“If he tries to somehow hold you responsible, you have your receipt etc as evidence.”
“Take video around your apartment of how things are set up, including the plate etc.”
“He knew he had an allergy and not only didn’t read the label, he stole something that was in YOUR fridge in YOUR room and ate the whole thing.”
“He’s just upset bc he’s facing the consequences of his own stupidity.”- BookLuvr7
“So he disregarded your agreement, trespassed on your property, stole something that belonged to you, ate something of unknown content (that didn’t belong to him because it was yours, in your personal refrigerator) knowing full well bad things could happen to him if he did that…and he wants you to make it better?”
“No.”
“NTA.”- SilverDryad
“NTA.”
“Your friend has issues.”- Key-Canary-2513
“When you steal something and it causes you harm it’s your own fault and any financial consequences are your responsibility.”
“NTA!”- General-Health-4577
“NTA.”
“He literally stole your food.”
“Pro-tip, if you have a bad food allergy, don’t steal people’s food that you don’t know what’s inside.”
“Tell anyone who says you should pay for any of it what really happened and if they still insist, tell them to get bent.”- Expensive_Plant_9530
“NTA.”
“This is absurd.”- Slachack1
“NTA.”
“Roommate completely acting entitled.”
“Not your problem.”
“If he didn’t eat your food then he wouldn’t have made himself sick.”
“Tell these friends they can help him out with the bills since they have all the answers.”- SparkleBait
“NTA.”
“You had an agreement never to eat each other’s food.”
“What did he do?”
“He went and ate your peanut butter cake.”- DestronCommander
“NTA.”
“What a prick.”
“I would move out and end this ‘friendship’.”- Asleep-Skin1025
One can only wonder if the OP made the agreement not to share groceries with himself.
That’s the only way of explaining why his roommate thought it appropriate to go into the OP’s room, open the OP’s fridge, and eat the OP’s cake without asking the OP if it was OK.
Seeing as he was the one who made all those decisions, and those decisions were why he ended up in the hospital, then he is truly the only one who should have to pay any medical bills.