Being on dates is hard, things can be awkward, there’s a lot of pressure.
It’s why so many in the dating scene have emergency exit plans. When a date is uncomfortable, people want the option to leave.
But does having that option change if it’s a double date? What if the thing making everyone uncomfortable is one person being belittled by their partner?
Reddit user “aitaforleavinga” ended up leaving an incredibly uncomfortable double date, but isn’t sure if it was the best move.
“Am I the a**hole for walking out during a double date because the other couple was making me uncomfortable?”
Before we get too into the story, we should explain the AITA (“Am I The A**hole?) subReddit.
It’s a place people go to ask about those situations in life that end up a moral grey area, like the one you’re about to read.
People post their situations, explaining relevant details along the way. Other users respond to the original poster (“OP”) in the comments, sharing their thoughts and casting a vote on things.
Voting Options Are:
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Here are the dirty details of this disaster date.
“My husband (24M) and I (24F) haven’t been suffering from the pandemic too much, but we’ve missed our friends.”
“One couple, ‘May’ (22F) and ‘April’ (26F) seem to have been missing us too. May has constantly been texting me that they’re bored and miss us, so we decided to self-quarantine for two weeks on both sides to have a double date.”
“It was tense from the beginning. Apparently May had gotten bleach on April’s expensive dress, which she kept making passive-aggressive remarks about.”
“I thought it was a non-issue until April spilled her wine all over May’s dress, and when I went to help her clean it, she said April was trying to ‘get even.’ “
“Everything calmed down for a good hour until April started talking about their sex life and how May never puts out (so humiliating), and May flirtatiously says to my husband, ‘I bet *you* never have that problem.’ “
“I was in shock. April laughed it off before telling us what a ‘slut’ May is.”
“She kept insulting her even though my husband and I were telling her to stop, and eventually May just started crying.”
“It got too intense for me and I had to go outside. My husband followed me out and we just ended up driving off.”
“Last night, he told me how guilty he felt just leaving May there to be insulted instead of really doing anything about it, but we both felt like we needed to remove ourselves from the entire situation.”
“April has texted me since saying everything is fine and the quarantine has really been getting to them, but they worked it out.”
“I still feel guilty for leaving, and so does my husband. I honestly feel like I abandoned May and there’s a part of me that thinks I did it on purpose because of the way she hit on my husband, which makes me feel so petty and disgusting.”
“I tried to apologize but she won’t answer my calls or text me back. AITA?”
Reddit’s responses were pretty passionate.
“NTA. April was being absolutely insufferable, and you aren’t required to suffer through it if you don’t want to.”
“I will add: April texted you saying everything was fine, but she seems to have been the one who was crossing the line in some pretty major ways. I’d check in on May.”
“If this is how April treats May in the presence of other people, what kind of insane assery is going on behind closed doors? I’m concerned May could be the victim of abuse.”
“I could be wrong, but if I were you I’d at least want to check on it.” – Simple-Living-