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New Mom Livid After Baker’s Dog Ruins Cupcakes Before Her Assigned Gender Reveal Party

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Assigned gender reveal parties have become part of the norm.

But apparently, they can come with a lot of stress.

As if just having a baby isn’t stressful enough.

Case in point…

Redditor Winter-Brick6307 wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback. So naturally, she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.

She asked:

“AITA for refusing to pay for my gender reveal cupcakes?”

The Original Poster (OP) explained:

“I (F[emale] 22) found out last week my first baby’s gender, and it’s a little girl.”

“My family is excited about I decided to do a small gender reveal over the Easter weekend.”

“I had this planned for Saturday, so a few days before, I asked a small local business if she could please make 12 cupcakes with pink and blue icing on top, and pink icing in the middle.”

“She agreed and said they would be ready to collect Friday evening.”

“The plan was to pick the cakes up Friday, invite friends and family over Saturday, and give some guests a cupcake which would reveal the gender.”

“I only invited a few guests as my apartment is fairly small, and I didn’t want to do a large gender reveal anyway, just something cute and fun; plus, everyone loves cupcakes.”

“So Friday evening came, the small business owner (Claire) gave me her address to collect the cakes from, said they would cost £25 and they are ready to collect whenever.”

“I drove to her apartment and knocked on the door.”

“She greeted me there with the box of cupcakes, and they looked amazing.”

“They were exactly how I imagined them, and thanked her for them.”

“She gave me the box, but just as she did, her large pet dog came running up to me, barking, and jumped at me, knocking the box of cupcakes all over the floor.”

“Claire apologized and shut the dog inside; he was still barking and jumping at the door.”

“She said it’s because he gets excited when people come and visit, but he wouldn’t have hurt me as he’s friendly.”

“At this point, I didn’t know the damage to the cupcakes as the box landed upside down, I picked it up, and the cakes were ruined.”

“The icing had smashed all over the box, and some cakes had spilled out onto the ground.”

“Claire looked horrified as I understand she spent a few hours making them for me.”

“She apologized and said she could remake them for free, but they wouldn’t be ready until Sunday.”

“I said, unfortunately, I’m expecting my guests tomorrow, and Sunday is no good, as I already had other plans.”

“I explained I wouldn’t be paying for these cupcakes as they were inedible and ruined by her dog.”

“We agreed on payment upon receiving the goods, and since I never received them, I wouldn’t be paying.”

“She said that I should still pay as she had to buy ingredients for the cakes, and the costs of eggs have gone up, meaning she would be out of pocket.”

“I said if she had control of her dog, then they wouldn’t have been dropped, and I’m sorry, but again, I wouldn’t be paying.”

“I got in my car and left without the cupcakes.”

“I still had guests attend on Saturday, I announced the gender in person rather than with some cupcakes, but it was still nice spending time with my friends and family.”

“My family was all happy, but my sister-in-law said I should have still paid for the cupcakes as she accepted it was her fault and offered to remake them for me.”

“I personally don’t think I should have had to pay for them, but now I’m feeling slightly guilty as I understand it’s a small business, and a loss of profit would affect her a lot harder than a larger business.”

The OP was left to wonder:

“So AITA?”

Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:

  • NTA – Not The A**hole
  • YTA – You’re The A**hole
  • NAH – No A**holes Here
  • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here

Many Redditors declared OP was NOT the A**hole.

“NTA… why on earth would you need to pay for something you didn’t receive?”

“I know it would be nice to help out Claire a little bit if you guys were friends, but if this is just some lady then no.”   ~workphoneguy

“There’s a really, really sweet lady I worked with once, and when I say the nicest, most thoughtful person I’d come across, it was her.”

“She lived her mom.”

“Anytime we had any food-related gatherings, she would pull out all stops to make and plate beautiful dishes.”

“Thing is, she had cats; LOTS of them!”

“It was nothing for her to come to work with cat hair all over her.”

“Well, one time, she came into my office with a plate of brownies.”

“She kept insisting that I try one and actually sat there thinking I would.”

“I didn’t. Instead, I gave her some excuse.”

“She said that she noticed when she bought food that I’d never eat it.”

“I couldn’t bring myself to tell her the reason why so I lied and told her I have severe allergies.”

“She then took a brownie out and handed it to me… with her bare hand!”

“I HAD TO TELL HER!”  ~ TryJezusNotMe

“NTA. If she has a big dog and knows it likes to jump on people when excited, she should have put the dog away before opening the door.”

“She took that gamble and lost.”

“What if you would have fallen and gotten hurt? She put a huge liability on herself not securing her animal before clientele arrived.” ~ Quick-Store2989

“Claire needs a reality check.”

“It’s her dog.”

“Any damage caused by her dog needs to be covered by her.”

“There is no other rule in play here.”

“Doesn’t matter if the dog ruined cupcakes, tore the bumper off a car, or chewed someone’s butt.”

“Her dog, her responsibility. NTA.” ~ cottondragons

“Definitely NTA.”

“The excuse that she had to buy all of the ingredients and would have to pay out of pocket doesn’t make sense because she’d still have to do that if she remade the cupcakes.”

“She knew her dog jumps on people.”

“She should’ve put him in another room and closed the door before she answered it.”

“That whole situation is totally her fault, and you should not pay.”

“Asking you to do so after all of that is extremely unprofessional.” ~ SpudTicket

“Not to mention it’s Claire’s fault they got ruined in the first place.”

‘It was her dog that’s not trained or put up while she’s handing over the cupcakes when she knows he jumps on people.”

“As a fellow small business owner, when something is your fault, and sometimes even when it’s not, you have to swallow the costs.”

“I refunded someone for a painting recently that just seemed to vanish at the post office.”

“Never showed up, never even said it got shipped.”

“It f**king sucks, but you can’t expect a customer to pay for something they never received.” ~ Gloomy_Bad_9606

“This exactly… I bake as a side hustle, and I would NEVER expect someone to pay me for a cake that was dropped because MY dog jumped on a client and knocked it to the ground.”

“I would be so mortified if that happened. I think I would immediately get back in my kitchen and reproduce them! Don’t feel guilty, OP… you are NTA!”  ~ Loveis_loveislove

“NTA. She is a business owner.”

“She needs to act like a professional.”

“Having a wild, uncontrollable dog jumping all over your customers and knocking your product out of their hands as they’re trying to pick it up is not acting like a professional.”

“This has nothing to do with the cost of eggs.”

“She knows her dog doesn’t behave and, therefore, should crate it or lock it in another room when she is meeting customers.”

“No way should you pay a dime for those cupcakes you couldn’t use.”

“If she could have remade them for you that day and delivered them to your house, sure.”

“But you had no use for them a week later. Her fault, so she eats the cost.” ~ avocadosdontbite

“NTA. Her dog ruined the cupcakes she made for you.”

“That’s sad for her because it means she can’t get paid for them.”

“You don’t need to pay her for cupcakes you didn’t receive because her dog destroyed them.”  ~ Enough-Process9773

“NTA. Next time, she’ll learn to lock him in a back room when she’s making a sale. ‘Don’t worry, he’s friendly’ needs to stop being an excuse.”

“There’s absolutely no reason for you to have paid for cupcakes you didn’t receive and which were ruined by her dog.” ~ rrriot-kitty

“Right? I hate how ‘Don’t worry, he’s friendly!’ Is basically just an excuse for a loose, poorly-trained, obnoxious dog anymore.”

“The dog was big. What if it had knocked OP over, and she fell in a way that harmed the baby or caused a miscarriage?”

“OP is NTA.”  ~ Happytequila

Well. OP, Reddit is with you.

Everyone loves dogs.

But dogs need training.

And owners are responsible for their pets.

This seems like a no-brainer to us.