Doing laundry is always a battle.
Often the laundry chore is an eternal struggle in a relationship.
And that’s if you even have a washer/dryer in the home.
Nevermind the issues and consequences faced when having to use a laundromat.
Case in point…
Redditor Delicious-Eye7035 wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback. So naturally, she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
She asked:
“AITA for expecting my boyfriend to replace my bras after he left them at the laundromat and they were all stolen?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“My boyfriend was at the laundromat doing our laundry, and he left behind my bra washing bag.”
“It contained all 7 of my regular bras, but thankfully none of my sports bras, which get washed normally.”
“When I realized what happened, I made him go back to the laundromat and look for them.”
“They were gone, and the shop owner said there was probably no way to get them back.”
“I wear a 32K bra.”
“This is not exactly a bra size that you can just walk into Target and find.”
“I generally have to order my bras from places like Curvy Kate.”
‘More than that, I’d finally gotten to the point where I know what style bras actually fit me comfortably, and those 7 bras were ones I’d specifically chosen because they fit me well and look good on me.”
“When I asked him to please replace them since he’s the one who lost them, he at first agreed.”
“Until I sent him links to each of the bras (minus one no longer made), and the cost was nearly $400.”
“He told me that he would be happy to replace one or two of them, but that I was spending way too much on bras and he couldn’t justify the cost.”
“I said that while it’s not ideal, I could accept if he could buy me the 2 I need the most and then over time, replace the others.”
“He said no, that’s not really any better.”
“I told him that when I accidentally spilled car oil all over his college hoodie, I went right out and immediately replaced it.”
“Even though it was from the school bookshop so it was incredibly overpriced.”
“He said that was completely different.”
“He took this issue to his sister, who agrees with him that I overspend on bras and should try harder to find something that fits at the mall.”
“AITA for this? Should I really accept this?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared OP was NOT the A**hole.
“NTA. Tell your boyfriend and his sister to hop on over to the mall and find some bras with a K cup.”
“Tell them to check every store and not to return without one.”
“They could spend days searching the mall and not find a single bra in your size.”
“Especially a K cup with a small band size.” ~ Bitter-Conflict-4089
“Seriously, and even with normal breasts bras can be really uncomfortable.”
“I’m also a K and I still have yet to find a bra that doesn’t poke, pinch, leave welts, and just cause general misery.”
“I’m a total cheapskate but I spend money on bras, shoes, and a bed.”
“Those three are critical.”
“They are ridiculous to tell her she’s spending too much to find comfort they take for granted.”
“OP, if this isn’t breakup worthy for you, at least tell him he has lost all access to your Ks until he replaces all of the bras.” ~ _psychologizer_
“Word… I had to educate a coworker cause his wife would hang her bras on the towel rack and he didn’t like it.”
“He thought it was gross not to get washed.”
“I told him it’s not like underwear, I do the same thing too.”
“I informed him that bras aren’t cheap and if he wants them washed like underwear he better be prepared to replace them on the regular.”
“He shut up after that.”
“Men… only learn by burning a hole in the wallet.” ~ CouchcarrotStatus
“NTA. So his college jersey is not overpriced, but he decides what she can spend her own money on and what she shouldn’t spend her money on because in his ti*less opinion a K cup is over priced. Wow.” ~ foxyroxy2515
“I wear a 40F.”
“I hate trying to find a comfy bra that lifts my heavy boobs and they are impossible to find unless I want to spend several hundred dollars.”
“Since I am a S[tay] A[t] H[ome] M[om], I wear expensive ($70) sports bras that lift 95% of the time.”
“OP just needs to take her B[oy]F[riend] to the mall to look for her size and he will see that it’s a special order size.”
“When I was dating my husband, he thought he would do me a favor and wash my bras for me.”
“HE PUT THEM IN THE DRYER ON A MEDIUM HEAT!”
“He literally shrunk most of my bras. He felt horrible.”
“Luckily I was smaller boobed at the time and he took me bra shopping (he probably had more fun than me) and bought me even more bras than he damaged.”
“Hundreds of dollars and no complaints.”
“He was not allowed to do any of my laundry anymore.” ~ Low_Bumblebee6441
“I’m a pretty standard size and I just spent over a hundred dollars on two bras this past weekend because I was buying a style I know doesn’t pinch in weird places.”
“I don’t think OP is overspending at all, especially with an uncommon size.”
“7 bras for $400 is relatively frugal.” ~ vezozuma
“NTA. 32 band size is hard to find in any cup size, no one carries the bigger cup sizes in 32 in stock.”
“Comfortable bras with good support are a worthwhile investment especially if you need a bigger cup size.”
“Cheap bras pinch and bind and are horrible to wear all day.”
“His sister probably lives in itty bitty *itty city and does not understand how hard it is to get comfortable support wear.” ~ badkitty627
“I wouldn’t say it’s a red flag until he fully understands that her bras are not the same buying new boxers.”
“It personally took me quite awhile before realizing this.”
“I think it was the breast reduction surgery sub that opened my eyes to how important it is to have the proper bra for your particular body.”
“I can’t remember the name of the company, but there’s on online one that many in that sub swear by that is good quality, reasonably priced, and have sizes fit for your dimensions.”
“I think they send you a measuring kit to get your exact size
“Maybe someone can link the website for OP.” ~ DamnAutocorrection
“Even if OP were overspending (she isn’t!)… he can’t lose underwear in worth of 400 bucks and want to replace it for a 5er set of WalMart bras.”
“It is like damaging a big family car and replace it with a smart ‘You overspend on the car.'”
“NTA. Let him buy all bras NOW.”
“I’m not so sure this relationship will last so long… Or he gives you the money.”
“But with ‘2 and the rest later,’ you will never see the rest again, even if you stay together.”
“‘But I bought you two! That is more than enough!'”
“My bestie is a K or L cup depending on the maker.”
“I went bra shopping with her last month to the one speciality shop in our area that carries bras in that size.”
“We spent close to 45 minutes finding a bra in that size that supported her and didn’t leave gaps and bumps.”
“We lucked out, but she normally can’t find anything at all.”
“NTA. BF and sister need to see this thread.” ~ savvyliterate
“Yeah I wish them luck trying to find any.”
“I have a similar size and whoo boy is it hard to find something with reasonable straps (so you don’t end up with your shoulders cut into), without underwire (poke poke), nevermind in a mall.”
“That’s hopeless. NTA OP, he should replace them.”
“I’m sorry you’re having to rethink your whole wardrobe for a while too.” ~ owboi
“NTA – I can’t believe his sister agreed with him!”
“As a rule, men have NO IDEA what bras cost.”
“He lost them, he should replace them.”
“Tell him you will flatten all his tires, but only pay to replace one.”
“As him how that would work for him.”
“Then tell him he spends too much on tires.” ~ Smitty_80013
OP came back with some details…
“Sorry y’all, work happened.”
“Anyway to address the recurring comments…”
“- Was he doing my laundry as a ‘favor?'”
“No, we’re two adults in an adult relationship.”
“We share chores like most functional adults.”
“He’s done the laundry before without this happening.”
“- Something corny, reference to ‘marinara flags?'”
“It wasn’t funny the first time, and it’s not funny now. Please stop.”
“- He doesn’t get to touch the boobies/ti**ies/other juvenile term for breasts…”
“I don’t use sex as a weapon, and my body is not an object for me to offer as a prize.”
“Or take away as a punishment. Grow the f**k up.”
“- Sue him/take him to small claims court!”
“Please go outside and touch some grass.”
“This is a ridiculous reaction.”
Well OP, Reddit hears you.
This is a big reason why laundry is such an issue… loss.
Hopefully your BF will pony up the bucks and y’all get move forward.