Food cravings in general are weird.
But pregnancy cravings are even worse, and they often appear at unexpected moments.
These moments can really change a person, too, causing them to act out in ways we typically deem childish, unnecessary, or downright rude.
One instance, one guy shared on the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) how he refused to get nachos for his pregnant girlfriend at 3 o’clock in the morning, and at the time of posting, she was still mad at him.
Redditor fussedamphibian wasn’t sure what to do after that and wondered if he was actually wrong for not fulfilling her request.
The Original Poster (OP) asked the thread:
“AITA for not getting my pregnant girlfriend nachos at 3am?”
The OP woke with a start a few nights ago.
“My gf is 28 weeks pregnant and this morning at 3AM she woke me up by throwing a pillow at my face and saying, ‘You need to go down to the gas station and get me some nachos.'”
“I told her I’d make her something to eat but it was freezing cold outside and I haven’t been feeling too well so I didn’t want to go out.”
When he tried to help, his girlfriend wasn’t happy with the solution.
“She flipped out and told me she didn’t want anything in the house and that’s all she wanted. When I said no she walked out and slammed the door.”
“My girl dead a** still isn’t talking to me over not getting her these gd nachos.”
“AITA for not getting her them?”
Fellow Redditors wrote in anonymously, rating the OP’s situation on the following scale:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some were quick to point fingers at the OP’s girlfriend for throwing the pillow and waking him up.
“NTA. Like I get she’s pregnant and could have cravings but that’s not an excuse to mistreat someone.” – perapixi
“NTA, I understand some pregnancies are difficult but being a demanding b-word isn’t a symptom.”
“I’m currently pregnant and want milkshakes ALL. THE. TIME. But I still don’t treat my significant other like he’s my maid or that because I’m carrying his child it’s the least he could do. He’s not my inferior nor are you her inferior.”
“She just an immature AH.” – spammytb
“I’ve been more pregnant than not in the last 4 years, and hormones do mess up things to you. Mine turned me into a basket case the last time, and I’m never having another baby.”
“That being said, I never 1) abused my spouse or kids by violently waking them up and shouting at them, 2) I admitted when I was being absolutely haywire once I recognized it, and 3) while sullen, I would take hits to my cravings (you get used to it when you have an allergy).”
“You are so NTA, and your partner seriously needs to eat a humble pie if she’s that salty over her lack of nachos with a partner like you.” – beig5
Others disagreed, saying pregnancy cravings can impact a person’s logic.
“NTA but hopefully YOU can forgive her for the tantrum. Hormones are awful. If this is typical behavior for her pregnant or not, I’d say she is the AH.” – lovegivingadvice
“Eh, not necessarily. What she did is totally inexcusable and not ok…”
“But also pregnancy hormones can absolutely mess you right up. People do all kinds of stuff they’d never do if they were more level. Once again, doesn’t excuse her behavior here, but it means he might not be doomed (he might be doomed tho)” – emilybuckshot
“It’s stange to me how people aren’t more concerned when a pregnant woman shows drastic changes in her personality.”
“It’s like, this woman is someone you’ve known and loved for years. All of a sudden they aren’t the same, shouldn’t you be concerned about their wellbeing?”
“It’s odd how people brush pregnancy off like a minor bowel movement, and not some drastic complicated medical functioning.”
“Every woman isn’t going to be a perfect, happy m, healthy, and glowing angel during her pregnancy. Everyome can’t control how their body responds to pregnancy.” – gofigure62
A few even shared their own pregnancy stories to confirm.
“NTA. Pregnancy can make you super weird though. One time I cried because we didn’t have any seltzer but my husband said he could make bubbles in a glass of water with a straw if I wanted. And you offered to make her something. So chivalry isn’t dead.” – KmartDino3
“It’s all on whether or not she apologizes later when she’s not in the OMG I NEED CRAVING FOOD NOW mode.”
“My wife has been pregnant twice, and both times she craved these breaded buffalo chicken chunks sold by a food delivery service that we get. The regular grocery store ones didn’t cut it.”
“We get a delivery every two weeks, and my wife burned through them all in about 10 days, and asked me to make her some. When I told her we were out, she lost her s**t. Full-on sobbing over it. Accused me of intentionally not ordering more last time because she was getting fat.”
“After an hour or so, she padded into the living room, started rubbing my feet and told me she was sorry for yelling at me.”
“I made sure to order an extra bag the next time.”– jimmy_three_shoes
“I legitimately cried for Chick Fil A chicken biscuits one Sunday morning while a million months pregnant. lol”
“I had hyperemesis gravidarum and was desperate to eat anything that sounded good. I would have just thrown it back up, but at the time I was convinced it was the one magical food that would stay in my belly. My poor husband didn’t know what to do for me (besides keep the barf bucket handy).” – InsNerdLite
“I cried and sobbed in the Tim Hortons drive-thru because they put Swiss cheese on my ham and cheese, instead of cheddar. I was apologizing, and sobbing, and saying, ‘I just want cheddar cheese, Swiss isn’t the same’. Those hormones do crazy things” – tdlm40
“I was pregnant during the summer and ate ungodly amounts of watermelon. When winter hit, I cried because they were no longer in season and ‘THEY DONT TASTE THE SAME. THOSE AREN’T MY WATERMELONS.’ I’m not proud…..” – wheres_mayramaines
There were others, however, who recommended remedying the situation.
“NTA but maybe lookout for other changes in her personality and behavior. Pregnancy can cause heaps of psychological issues including psychosis that she may not be able to control.”
“If you think she might be struggling maybe try to calmly suggest that she sees someone, probably try to pose it as worrying about her stress and how it might affect her and the baby so it’s not seen as a personal attack.”
“That being said she could also just be being an a**.” – SarahHohepa
“NTA. Pregnancy doesn’t give you license to be a prick. Hitting you with a pillow to wake you and make demands at 3am is not a pregnancy thing, it’s an entitled a-hole thing. You offered to make her food anyway at home but she then threw a tantrum.”
“My dude, in the morning you need to have a serious conversation with her about basic respect. None of what you’re saying she did is acceptable behavior, pregnant or not. She owes you an apology.” – mandirahman
Fortunately, the thread heard back from the OP, who had an uplifting update.
The OP and his girlfriend are back on good terms.
“I made her homemade nachos last night. All is forgiven.”
“I called my doctor last night after my symptoms got worse and I’m going in for a test [for the virus] today. It seems likely that’s what I have. So ultimately my GF is happy I didn’t go out.”
And the OP reassured the community that his girlfriend is generally awesome.
“To the person saying she has a ‘mental disorder’, she doesn’t. She’s just pregnant and grumpy.”
“She’s a wonderful person 99.9% of the time but she doesn’t like when things are out of control (which is the entirety of pregnancy) so sometimes it manifests in these flip outs (which I think are just panic attacks, that she doesn’t know how to deal with).”
It just seems her pregnancy (and maybe her love of nachos) is given her some trouble.
So much so, the OP might have a plan in mind.
“Anyway, she’s all good, her mother says our kid is going to have a birthmark shaped like a nacho now.”
“I’m currently debating on whether or not I should propose to her with a ring stuck on top of a mountain of nachos.”
And of course, the OP and his girlfriend wanted to leave things on a good note.
“Thanks for your comments, we both got a good laugh out of them.”
“To all the pregnant women who commented, you all seem awesome and best of luck with the rest of your journey.”
It’s great to hear that the OP and his girlfriend were able to work things out by making a little something festive at home.
Not to mention the OP’s idea for a proposal, which would be just too cheesy (and cute!) for us to handle.
Now excuse us while we go make some nachos.