Not every job is a dream job.
Sometimes we just need to find something that works in the short term and pays the bills. And while it all works out, it’s not necessarily a source of pride.
One recent post on the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit, however, brought that discomfort to a whole new level.
The Original Poster (OP), known as employeeofthemonth_ on the site, laid it out pretty clearly in the post’s title.
“AITA for not telling my parents the truth about working at a sex shop?”
OP began by setting the tone.
“My parents r pretty close minded and sex was always a weird subject for them.”
“Like when I was a teen they just got me a book about it and my dad told me to use condoms when I’m with a girlfriend but that’s literally it.”
“They told me to ask my health teacher if I got questions. They’re just weird about it for some reason but I get it people have their stuff.”
Recently, an important new development took place.
“They were needing help with rent and I needed somewhere cheaper to stay because I’m paying for my college classes right now so I moved back with them during lockdown last year.”
“My other job wasn’t working out and luckily I found this one at this sex toy shop that reopened that was looking for people.”
“I got the job but didn’t tell my parents where. All I said was it’s a small retail store.”
That only lasted so long, of course.
“It’s been pretty cool so far. Hours work with my schedule, pay is good, and I get employee discount (which my GF loves lol).”
“Anyways guess who randomly popped up once during my shift?”
“Yup, my mom.”
“We literally looked at each other like we just got caught red handed. She walked in saw me then panicked and walked out.”
“It’s not something anyone likes to think about when it comes to their parents so it was awkward af for me. My coworker said it happens when we run into people we know.”
But it didn’t end there.
“My mom was ignoring me when I got home then when we were alone she fu**ing went off on me for lying about where I worked and she never would’ve gone if she knew I worked there.”
“She also asked me not to tell my dad and she’s just mad at me now for putting her in an awkward position.”
“But I said since they’re so weird about sex talk in general that I just didn’t mention where I worked so they won’t get weird about that too.”
“She’s still ignoring me, my dad poor guy has no idea why we’re not talking to each other like normal and I’m not sure if maybe I was TA for not being honest about it in the first place.”
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
A majority of Redditors assured OP he hadn’t been an a**hole.
“NAH – she can have her secrets, you can have yours. Also that’s f**king hilarious and I’m so sorry.” — sata-nic
“Hahaha what a story!”
“Totally NTA, you’re an adult. I love how she’s mad at you for ‘lying’ her then told you not to tell your dad. This story has everything.” — Tellyouwhatswhat
“NTA. No need for you two to… discuss… the issue with your dad. Gotta figure she’s got the short end of the stick: she’d never know where you work if she hadn’t come in – and without your dad.” — Dear_Analysis_5116
“Omg those are such good places to work in college! Really spoils you for other retail where you’re expected to interact with the customers all the time. So congrats on that.”
“Also NTA, being spotted is a risk all customers take. Don’t snitch though.” — MonkeyVicki
“NTA, I don’t think your parents are closed minded, just private. Your mom is embarrassed because you know she was at the store.”
“She would probably feel better if you told her you respect her privacy. Don’t offer her your discount, she doesn’t want you to know about her kinks.” — margery-meanwell
Others said neither OP nor his mother were an a**hole. It was just a weird situation.
“NAH! Funny as hell, but no a**holes here.”
“You can write your schedule down on a piece of paper and give it to your mom when no one else is around.”
“Just hand her the paper and say ‘this is my schedule’ and walk away. That way she will know when you are not there and can go back there if she wants when you are not working.” — JessieColt
“Oh my this is gold. NAH she is just embarrassed haha. And your poor dad I really think him sitting in the middle of this awkwardness is the funniest part.”
“And to those who think she is cheating or hiding it I think she is just doing that for the kids sake not for her own sake.” — DeathRose1892
“Your parents need help with expenses and you need affordable housing, so you move back with them. You work at a sex shop but don’t feel comfortable telling them. Your mom frequents sex shops but obviously your dad doesn’t know and she doesn’t want him to.
“You both inadvertently put each other in this ‘awkward position’ (😂). You hoped neither parent would find out about your job, she hopes her DH won’t find out about her ‘entertainment,’ and who knows what secrets dear old Dad might be harboring and fear his family learning.”
“Now, this is what I consider a true symbiotic relationship!”
“NAH, just a bunch of people living under the same roof who have their secrets, and everyone knows what a short life span most secrets have.” — Rural_Bedbug
And so here’s hoping both OP and his mother can put things aside and recognize they are both adults, and they’re going to do what they’re going to do.