Redditor One-Instruction-2778’s sister notoriously locks herself out.
The Original Poster (OP) recently moved back in with their parents and sister while they heal from extensive injuries.
When their sister locked herself out after getting drunk, the OP refused to let her in causing her to make some questionable sleeping arrangement decisions and ultimately leading to an argument.
The OP turned to subReddit “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) for feedback.
They asked:
“AITA for ‘making’ my sister sleep in the dog bed outside overnight?”
They went on to explain:
“So I’m currently in a leg and arm cast due an accident and so temporarily moved back home with the [pa]rents and my younger sister.”
“My parents are currently out of town and so it was just me and my sister. My sister has a tenancy of leaving her keys behind/losing them and usually we have to open for her.”
“She was going out for a party Friday night and I warned her to triple check that she had her keys before she left.”
“Surprise surprise, she left the keys behind so she called me at like 3am drunk and telling me to open up for her.”
“Getting up is missions in my condition and I’d warned so I told her straight up that I wasn’t coming downstairs to open for her so she should call a friend and stay there for the night…”
“…hung up then put my phone on DND [do not disturb].”
“She screamed my name for awhile until one of the neighbors told her to stfu and so she, instead of calling a friend, decided to sleep in the old dog bed outside.”
“Found her there in the morning and woke up her up to get inside. She was hella pissed and yelled at me for making her sleep in the dog bed.”
“She also found a tick on her later and blames that on me too.”
“We’ve been fighting back and forth over this and so here we are for some impartial voices. I feel bad that she slept outside but also feel like that was poor choice on her part.”
“Am I the a**hole?”
Redditors weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided:
“Nta, you didn’t make her sleep outside. She chose to sleep outside instead of trying to call a friend or remember her keys. This is on her, you told her to check and she didn’t.” – wwhhoovviiaann
“NTA. You warned about the keys. Sleeping in the dog bed was her choice. I don’t know your full condition, but depending on it, you would not be able to go open the door to her.” – angstskel
“NTA. I’ve been disabled in that way, and getting up the stairs took ten minutes of solid, careful effort that hurt like hell regardless of how careful I was. Once I was up, I was NOT coming down.”
“The sister is having a learning experience. If everyone will wake up and let her in regardless of whether or not she has her keys, it gives her no motivation to make absolutely sure she has them.”
“No, that wasn’t fun for her. Maybe now she’ll remember to take her keys.”
“I have a personal protocol that before my butt moves out of the seat of the car, the car keys are hooked to my purse, and the first trip into the house puts the purse in its assigned place.”
“This protocol was evolved after the humiliation of having to call for assistance to unlock my car and get out keys and the humiliation of leaving the purse somewhere.”
“Sometimes the only way people learn is by having things like this happen to them.” – LadyAlexTheDeviant
“ESH, actually I’ve changed my mind.”
“I don’t think it’s reasonable to leave a drunk person on their own in that kind of situation, even in your injured state.”
“Even if you could not reasonably have gotten up, I think you should not have hung up and should have remained in contact with your sister until a friend had picked her up…”
“…or you determined it was safe for her to sleep in the dog bed until morning.”
“Your sister, obviously, should have had her keys with her.” – atmasabr
“ESH. Your sister needs to find a way to deal with her keys. If she can go out and get plastered, she should be able to manage her keys.”
“That said, it’s November. Unless you’re living somewhere tropical, warmer southern hemisphere, etc. then you literally left your drunk sister in a position where she could have frozen to death?”
“Tried to drive drunk and killed other people? At the mercy of any random person that went by… and for what? To make the point that you told her so about her keys?”
“If you had woken her up to a few black toes, would you need to ask if you were the AH? No, it would be obvious.”
“The fact that she wasn’t hurt doesn’t mean you didn’t do an AH thing specifically for the sake of being an AH.” – Koalasareburrs
“I’m confused.”
“You state that you weren’t able to go down and open the door the previous night but had no issues doing it in the morning. Why?”
“Was it really due to your injury or the fact that it was a mild inconvenience?”
“Like others have said, it’s not safe to leave a drunk person like that outside, she’s your sister and they took you in when you needed their help.”
“Before you come at me, I’ve actually had surgery and was in a cast for 2 months with minimal mobility and would’ve opened the door for my sister if I was in your place.”
“YTA” – Alex_Spier1
“ESH. She was drunk and irresponsible, but you’re an ahole for not letting her in.”
“That’s risky behaviour, you just never know if someone will come along and take advantage of her.” – CaffeinatedMum
“ESH for sure.”
“Who the f*ck actually let’s someone sleep outside when you could just hobble the f*ck downstairs even if it takes you 30 minutes to do so.”
“You certainly have the right to be pissed at her for forgetting her keys, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t also an a**hole.” – kiefzz
“NTA – she could’ve called a friend or anyone else. It’s not your fault she chose the dog bed. Hopefully now she’ll remember her keys.” – PinchTree
“YTA, if you were able to walk down in the morning you were able to walk down at night. You wanted to punish her, very cruel.”
“She made poor decisions but you should have helped her.” – Accomplished-Mess307
“ESH – you’re right to be mad and she was totally wrong to forget the keys especially with you in this condition and with all the warnings.”
“But forcing someone to sleep outside when you are, even with great effort, capable of making it so they don’t sleep outside, is an a**hole thing to do.”
“She should be begging you for forgiveness, but it’s never acceptable to force someone to sleep outside.”
“You can’t be 100% certain that she had anywhere else she could go at that point.” – bethanyannejane
“ESH”
“your sister is entitled and this behaviour is likely a result of her being coddled by your parents”
“you on the other hand left a drunk girl in a dangerous situation.”
“i get being angry you have every right to be, but even when i was in a full leg cast and would take 10 minutes to climb the stairs…”
“…i wouldn’t have put a family member or friend in a dangerous situation because i was angry” – fearlessflyer1
“YTA do you even give a f*ck about your sister? Be honest.”
“When me and my sister were that age, we didn’t get along but even I would’ve dragged my an** out of bed to let her in the house to make sure she was safe.”
“Your sister could’ve been kidnapped… or frozen to death depending on your climate. You’re the older one, you’re supposed to watch out for her.”
“All these people saying ‘sHes aN aDuLt. ShE sHoUlD hAvE pRePaReD’ clearly don’t give a f*ck about anyone but themselves and I’m so sick of the selfish a** people here.” – ivannacalypso
”I’m going to be controversial and say YTA. If my younger sister was drunk and vulnerable I would absolutely get down there to open up and let her in for safety means.”
“I’ve been in a wheelchair before after a major surgery so I know what it’s like.”
“I’ve also been drunk and know how stupid you can sometimes be, I lost my passport on a night out, could easily lose a house key.”
“If something bad happened to her and you were responsible. Sh*t if that was me I’d never forgive myself.”
“Just my opinion.” – Zxbu
Boundaries or recklessness?
We hope that these sisters can mend their rift after an unfortunate experience.
That may be the key to saving themselves from future issues.