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Guy Pissed When Girlfriend With Celiac Disease Calls Him Out For Eating Her Gluten-Free Food

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Redditor Majestic_Sea3229 is a 24-year-old woman who recently just moved in with her 25-year-old boyfriend.

She has a dietary restriction due to a medical condition, something he is very well cognizant of.

But a recent altercation between the two indicated that their new living arrangement is going to require some work.

After getting the silent treatment from their fallout, she visited the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit and asked:

“AITA for yelling at my boyfriend for eating my gluten-free food?”

The Original Poster (OP) explained:

“I recently moved in with my boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years and now are living together.”

“I was born with celiac disease and can only eat food that is gluten-free. My boyfriend is aware of my disease.”

“I have my own small cupboard in the apartment for all of my food. My boyfriend does like to try some of my food and I have told him that I’m not okay with him eating the food. I do all the grocery shopping for the two of us.”

“I come home late from work and saw him and his friends eating some of my snacks. I tell my boyfriend to come into the kitchen and start yelling at him for eating my food.”

“He tells me that I’m overreacting and can just buy more. I tell his friends to leave and he ends up leaving with them. I have texted and called him hoping to talk, but he hasn’t responded.”

“AITA for yelling at my boyfriend for eating my gluten-free food?”

Stranges online were asked to declare one of the following:

  • NTA – Not the A**hole
  • YTA – You’re the A**hole
  • NAH – No A**holes Here
  • ESH – Everybody Sucks Here

Many Redditors sided with the OP as not the a**hole here.

“I say NTA. I have a twin who has celiac, and the food and snacks are more expensive than what people normally buy. Plus he can eat anything and chose to eat your food, knowing you have a limited amount of food you can eat in your home.”

“You have tried to set boundaries before and he is not respecting them at all. I would tell him to to replace everything he ate and say for the last time, I am setting boundaries. If he keeps ignoring you I would drop him.” – Brilliant-Constant20

“NTA but as a fellow celiac he probably isn’t going to stop.”

“People who don’t have dietary restrictions live in a world where they can eat everything under the sun. My dad and one of my siblings won’t really think twice if they see something tasty, even if it is one of the few things I can eat safely.”

“They do their best to work with my illness, but this has been going on for 16 years (I’m in my early 20s).”

“I would recommend stocking up on cheap and tasty things depending on what you can have (so brazi bites, tortilla chips) and keeping some of the more special treats in a new area.” – OpportunityExciting9

“NTA. Wow, not only was HE eating it but he was sharing it with his friends! Especially since you asked him not to eat your food. DOesn’t he know that gluten-free food is more expensive and frequently harder to find in the stores?”

“Yeah, I’d be pissed. And don’t let him guilt you into backing down. That is what he is trying to do by not answering your texts and phone calls. He is waiting for you to apologize.”

“If he continues with this, I would move back out. And not over some food, but over his total lack of respect for your illness.” – 77Megg77

“NTA. I also have celiac disease. Our specialty items are expensive and can be hard to find. He knows how important it is for you to be 100% GF and ate your food anyway.”

“I’m guessing there was plenty of food the gluten eaters could have had but instead he chose to share your specialty items.” – Shot_Construction455

“NTA. Lemme rephrase for a moment:”

“I have a medical condition, and require specific meds so I don’t get sick. I came home and found my BF had handed out my expensive medication to him and his friends to try out as a snack. AITA?”

“Special dietary needs is akin to medication. He’s deliberately taking what you need to be healthy and giving it out to his friends for… what, a lark?”

“The disrespect he’s showing you is mind blowing.” – The_One_True_Imp

“NTA, but it’s a food-security issue that he’s unlikely to get.”

“Get extras of things that are not so expensive that you can’t share them, but have a ‘safe shelf’ of things others will not get to eat.”

“Simultaneously, I encourage you to work towards an approach that works better long term. Maybe it’s just not ever taking the last serving, maybe it’s the ‘safety shelf’, maybe it’s something else.”

“But even my kids know not to eat my gluten-free specialty stuff without asking. (Homemade foods for the family don’t count.)” – FishScrumptious

“NTA. My wife is also gluten free out of necessity. She lets me try a little of her snacks sometimes but I would never sit there snacking on her safe-to-eat foods when I can eat anything else, as her snacks are nearly twice as expensive as mine are.”

“Make him pay to replace them.” – Seliphra

“NTA. I don’t have Celiac, but I have a lot of life-threatening allergies, so finding safe food is really difficult. Your boyfriend should, AT THE VERY LEAST, replace the food he and his friends ate without your permission.”

“Or, he can pay to buy extras of those snacks for himself. You may have to resort to hiding or locking up your safe foods, so he cannot get them.”

“Or, if he continues, you may have to put your foot down and leave if he doesn’t start respecting the fact that you can’t just eat ‘normal’ things that everyone else can.” – SocksAndPi

Overall, Redditors agreed the boyfriend was being disrespectful, and they suggested for her to have a conversation to let him know how serious her condition is.

Based on how that conversation goes, Redditors thought she should reconsider their relationship if he continues to ignore certain boundaries.

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