Respecting people’s personal belongings, even when they’re your partner, is a pretty basic rule. But one guy on Reddit found out the hard way that he and his girlfriend don’t see eye to eye on this after she sold his Xbox for money to join a gym.
He wasn’t sure about how he’d handled it, so he went to the AITA (Am I The A**hole) subReddit for input.
The Original Poster (OP), who goes by Boy_Gamer1000 on the site, asked:
“AITA for getting mad at my girlfriend because she cancelled my subscription [sold my Xbox]?”
He explained:
“I know the title doesn’t match. At first when I was writing this story I would only say she cancelled my subscription (xbox game pass ultimate).”
By that I mean I had to cancel my xbox game pass ultimate because I was scared other people would use my xbox which had my account logged in. If the person knew i had a xbox game pass ultimate.”
“But then i opened up and told the entire story. And i forgot to change the title. Now i think i can’t change the title.”
“I (20M[ale]) and my girlfriend (20F[emale]) are in a relationship and we live together. She had some bad experience getting bullied in her childhood.”
“She has been bullied for so many reasons like her style and how she is not fit etc… So she doesn’t have that much confidence in herself and always starts getting emotional if someone criticizes her.”
“Ok now let’s get into the story”
“Yesterday when I came back from work to play some video games on my xbox I realised the xbox was not there. I thought something like my girlfriend maybe had moved it to somewhere to clean the place where it was sitting. I personally don’t clean the place that my xbox sits because I don’t have time.”
“So I thought of this as a very helpful thing she has done for me. I was very thankful for her in my mind. But still I couldn’t see where my xbox was sitting, I searched everywhere in the house but no clue. But I let it slide because I thought I could ask her where it was after she came from work.”
“And after a while she finally reached home. I didn’t ask the xbox right away bacuse I wanted to be nice to her. So she took her shower and ate dinner etc… But she was late and also she was very sweaty for some reason. I didn’t think much of it (big mistake).”
“Then we sat down to watch some TV. Then I finally asked her where my xbox is in a very nice way. Her eyes started to shake and she told me”
“‘I sold your xbox because I wanted to get a gym membership and go to the gym with my friends’.”
“I was furious, I went on a rant about how it was my xbox and how could she sell it without my permission. She said she wanted to join her friends. I told that she could have used her own money and I also reminded her that I was saving my money to buy the xbox while she spent her money shopping etc…”
“I told her she could have saved her money for the gym membership. She said she couldn’t wait and she wanted to join and go to the gym with her friends.”
“The argument got tough and she left to stay at her parent’s house. At that night her mother called me and berated me for ‘not sacrificing something for my live’ and ‘she was desperate so that’s why she did this’ blah blah blah. I just hung up and went to sleep.”
“But now I think of it I kind of feel guilty. Should I just let it slide like my MIL said?”
“So Reddit,”
“AITA?”
Redditors were then asked to judge who was in the wrong in this situation based on the following categories:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Unsurprisingly, almost nobody had much sympathy for OP’s girlfriend.
“NTA. Wow, Did she really fu*king expect you not to mention the xbox being gone or something? That was so Disrespectful on her part. You don’t just sell something that’s not yours for your own selfish wants. She needs some serious help. The least she could have done was asked you but she didn’t even do that. Ridiculous!” –Quadruplicate
“NTA, I agree this is crazy disrespectful. If she doesn’t ask about selling his stuff now what’s to stop it from happening later to his computer or other valuables. I’d ditch her honestly, and call the police to get their Xbox back” –niceandunaware
“Im so confused as to why she had to sell the xbox tho. A gym membership where I live is £10-20 a month. So its confusing to me why she had to sell a whole console and not something cheaper. There was also another post where OPs gf sold his dead brothers chair to go to the gym.” –zdziddi
“Nta. Do not apologize you didn’t do anything wrong, there is an idiot and taking the side of a thief! Honestly please run! If your partner has the audacity to go and take something and sell it without telling you. That is so disrespectful. How could you trust her in anything?” –vengi15
“OP, this woman in not a keeper. If she already left to her parent’s house, have her stay there and leave you alone. Although based on the fact that you seemed scared to even bring it up to her, I have a feeling this woman has OP is completely under her thumb and she’d have to basically cheat on him and beat him for him to realize she isn’t good for him.”
“Also, OP tell her she has X amount of time to get the Xbox back and then you’re going to the police. She STOLE from you.” –crystallz2000
“NTA. She stole and sold your xbox for a gym membership??????? If she wanted to go to the gym so badly she could 1. Save her own money. Or 2. Ask you for some. Not to mention home workouts exist? Are you sure she hasnt stolen anything of yours before?” –AlreadyWitheredAway
“THIS! OP should check or inventory his belongings! The xbox was of great importance to him which is why he noticed it was gone right away. OP’s GF has no concept of what’s OP’s, what’s hers, and what is shared. She’s not even guilty and is using the “if you love me you’ll do anything for me” angle.” –NightQueen6969
“NTA but you need to find a way to make her get you a new one. She stole your x box for a gym membership. Her mother needs to stay out of this. She’s not your MIL, she’s just your girlfriend’s mother and means nothing to you at this point and neither should your thieving gf. Dump her. You feel guilty for what? She stole from you!! What’s next? Your car? Why are you even with her?” –WillLoveCoffee4Ever1
“NTA. It’s obvious.”
“I read these sometimes, and question how some of these people actually exist. This is like the 5th or 6th story like this I’ve read where someone sells, donates, takes away, etc… someone else’s things(seems to always be gaming consoles), and thinks they are justified. It’s insane to me that this story is real.” –Dannyb2121
“NTA.”
“What the hell? Who just sells their s/o’s stuff for their own gain??? How self centered can one person be?? If my boyfriend sold my Xbox I’d be livid. We’ve been together for 3 years and I honestly think I would leave just based on the blatant disrespect for me and my possessions. Like, how do you disregard your s/o’s feelings to THAT degree??” –Cynthia_Castillo677
“We are a gaming family, and trust me you were a lot nicer than I would be. Touch my gaming stuff and I will come unglued. I know how much I paid for my PS 5, and my Mom got me a series X as a surprise. If my husband sold either he wouldn’t be here anymore! We aren’t young, we’re old people, but we take our gaming seriously, lol.” –KorianDirth
“NTA. Shes a grown a** woman who obviously knows it’s illegal to take someone else’s property (and then sell it). How dumb does she have to be?! In this day and age, EVERYONE knows that you don’t fu*k with your man/woman’s XBOX unless you are trying to get them to break up with you and charge you for theft or destruction of property.” –MurphysLaw1995
“NTA. I’ve been short on cash for stuff I’ve wanted to. You know what I did? I either waited till I had enough or signed the overtime board at my job. Never ever would my first thought be to steal from my boyfriend or anybody else for that matter. I’d check the rest of my things to make sure she hasn’t snaked anything else, file a police report and tell her to kick rocks.” –Equal_Aardvark9728
“Uhh NTA and call the cops, but are you sure this story is real? I ask because the title doesn’t match the story literally at all. Almost like first the story was going to get about an Xbox subscription being canceled without your permission for a gym membership but then for some reason you decided to change it to the whole Xbox being gone. If I’m wrong feel free to let me know (if you want)” –Sweet_Caterpillar150
Hopefully OP and his girlfriend can learn from this.