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Groom Calls Out Wife After Learning She Played A Cruel Makeup Prank On His Mom At Wedding

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In a since deleted Reddit account, a recently married groom details something they just learned about their wedding day.

The Original Poster (OP) knows his mom and new wife got off to a rough start, but he chose to have his wife’s back.

However, recently the OP learned his wife played a prank on his mom on their wedding day when she attempted to get her makeup done for the wedding.

When he found out, he called his wife out for being a bully and she, in turn, called him a “mama’s boy”.

This drove the OP to subReddit “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA).

He asked:

“AITA for expressing discomfort about my wife and her friends pranking my mom on our wedding day?”

He went on to explain:

“My mom hasn’t been the greatest in the past. She can be really rude and was catty.”

“She didn’t get off to a good start with my wife due to her own rude and self centered behavior, but I took my wife’s side and laid down boundaries.”

“My mom gets that she can’t be rude these days. I fully get my wife will never like her, mom probably won’t like her either, and we all just avoid each other for the most part.”

“Don’t get me wrong. It makes me sad as I used to be close to my family, but wife comes first.”

“We recently got married and it was a nearly perfect day. The one issue that aroused is my mom had a fairly large very noticeable food coloring stain on her cheek (about the size of a lighter).”

“Obviously she wasn’t happy about this and wanted it covered. She never does her own makeup and knows very little about makeup.”

“The makeup artist was a friend of my wife’s, and knew all the drama about my mom. She told her she would try but the makeup would have to be darker to hide it.”

“She and my wife giggled ahead of time and decided to f*ck with her. She made it super dark, like orange. My mom has fair skin so it looked ridiculous.”

“My mom seemed to believe her that nothing lighter would cover it and just removed all the makeup and went on with her big pink blotch.”

“I didn’t know about this at the time, but we recently got back from our honeymoon and my wife hosted a dinner to look at wedding pictures.”

“Her friends all began laughing about what they did to my mom. This was the first time I heard about it and I said that was kind of mean girlish.”

“My wife gave me a look. Her friends kept saying it was funny and my mom is dumb and got what she deserved.”

“At this point I got annoyed and said they acted like middle school bullies and they should be embarrassed.”

“Whatever my mom had done in the past, she was not the problem on the wedding day. This might be way too far, but I said at least she laughed it off and moved on with her spot.”

“They would have spent the whole day insecure and worried about Instagram.”

“When they left my wife became very upset and said I should be on her side 100% not 95% and that I humiliated her by speaking to her friends like that. She accused me of being a mama’s boy.”

Redditors weighed in by declaring:

  • NTA – Not The A**hole
  • YTA – You’re The A**hole
  • NAH – No A**holes Here
  • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here

Redditors decided:

“NTA. You were correct – your wife was acting like a middle school bully, not an adult.”

“And being her husband does not mean you support her blindly, it means you have the courage to tell her when she is going down a bad path.”

“This is not being a mama’s boy, this is being a good and moral human being. If she wants you to be behind her 100%, then she needs to act like a grown-up.” – bamf1701


“What your wife did was cruel and came from an ugly place.”

“It was beyond unkind. It was downright mean. You spoke the truth and your wife didn’t like how she looked when you held up the mirror.” – Prize-Bumblebee-2192

“Yeah, it sounds like the wife has reason not to like MIL, but instead of taking the high road she was cruel and a bully.”

“This was petty and mean and really unkind. I hope it’s just that your wife needs to grow up a bit (I was slow to learn compassion for others in my own life, so maybe she is the same?).”

I’m upset for you because she didn’t take your feelings into account before this mean girl trick.”

“You stood up for your wife with your mom, and I feel like she just sh*t all over that by not respecting the boundaries you worked for to maintain peace.”

“You are NTA. Not sure what I would do about it. If your mom is aware that she was tricked it would be important for your wife to apologize.”

“I feel like the friend who did the makeup is kind of an AH too.” – situationship321

“NTA. It looks like you’re going to have to set some boundaries with your wife. After you did that with your mom she behaved.”

“You married a mean, childish, vindictive woman. The fact that she got defensive with you and called you a mamma’s boy says so much about her.”

“In the beginning, my mother was horrible to my husband– both my first and second. Neither of my mils liked me much either.”

“But we didn’t resort to meanness or sniping. This could get to be a lifelong thing if it’s not nipped in the bud.”

“After getting firm with my mother: if you treat him badly I won’t come around either, she relented. In the end, she seemed to like both my first and my second husband better than she liked me!”

“Most (not all) people can change if they have a good reason to.”

“Suggestion: maybe couples counseling is in order? If how you approached this with your wife and her friends is accurate, you were not out of order; this is your mother fffs!”

“But they also sound terribly immature. Communication and respect are essential for a successful marriage. A counselor can help with this.”

“Good luck.” – cordelia1955


“Your wife sure is one though”

“If there’s already a difficult relationship then what she did just made it worse, and giggling about it with her friends at dinner just makes it worse”

“She is a bully” – CrystalQueen3000

“‘When they left my wife became very upset and said I should be on her side 100% not 95% and that I humiliated her by speaking to her friends like that. She accused me of being a mama’s boy.'”

“‘Presenting a united front’ is not ‘man agrees with whatever wife says.'”

“Your wife does not seem terribly nice…”

“NTA” – He_Who_Is_Person

“NTA – Is your wife 12?? She sacrificed her own wedding day pictures to humiliate and one-up your mom. She has the type of friends that gang up with her to behave this way too???”

“She could have gone the dignified and polite route and not tried to mean-girl her MIL, who was at least trying to behave that day.”

“It would have been completely different had your mom acted up or tried to ruin things or cause issues that day. but she didn’t – she was only there to support and celebrate.”

“THAT makes your wife (and her cohorts) massive AH’s.”

“Might I suggest send ALL the pix off to someone that can photoshop your mother’s face to normal so that there is no more proof that you married someone that felt this was acceptable behaviour?”

“Then bury the originals.” – C_Alex_author

“NTA but your wife is. The expectation that you should side with your wife, not only against your mom’s aggressions toward her…”

“…but also in her aggressions toward your mother, is really – I don’t even know what to say. Just super problematic IMO.”

“Is she going to be this nasty and get a group together to bully you the first time you really piss her off?” – mifflewhat

“NTA. But your wife is, and her friends. Expect worse behavior; your mom heard you, and adjusted her behavior, your wife doubled down and bullied you.”

“If you love her and want a decent life, y’all need counseling to get on the same page about boundaries and loyalty.”

“Shaman, pastor, therapist, whatever, you need another brain in this mix” – zaleli

“If your wife is this spiteful to your mother, think of what she’ll do to you. This would be a relationship-ending scenario, and I’m one of the most forgiving people.”

“This is incredibly cruel. I bet you if thought about it, you would see many more red flags in your relationship.”

“NTA, but I think you should look hard at your wife and rethink the relationship.” – Abject_Ad_2912

“NTA, she went to your mother’s level and is surprised that what behavior you don’t appreciate in your mother, you don’t appreciate in her either.”

“I would say the opposite of a mama’s boy, she behaved just like your mother, mean.” – Mimmutti_

Cruelty is not a good look on a new wife.

Written by B. Miller

B. is a creative multihyphenate who enjoys the power and versatility of the written word. She enjoys hiking, great food and drinks, traveling, and vulnerable conversation. Raised below the Mason Dixon, thriving above it. (she/her)