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Guy Irate After Hiker Refuses To Move Picnic Spots So He Can Propose To His Girlfriend

Man proposing to girlfriend on beautiful hike
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The wedding industry is undeniably huge, but wedding culture doesn’t start at the wedding. It starts at the proposal and the growing need to make proposals as monumental and memorable as possible.

For some proposals, the location and added features are practically more important than the relationship the proposal is centered around, cringed the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit.

While hiking, Redditor No_Resolution_4132 was recently asked to move from the spot they were resting at for a couple to have their special proposal moment be captured.

But when the Original Poster (OP) refused to move, they were surprised to be accused of ruining the whole day for the couple.

They asked the sub:

“AITA for not moving from a spot someone wanted to propose on?”

The OP enjoyed doing solo hiking and picnicking trips.

“One of my hobbies is to go hiking and eat a very large meal while sitting down. Basically a picnic for me. I bring a blanket and anything else I might need for an hour-long experience.”

“This past Monday, I was up at a new area I’d never been to.”

“I brought my large meal with me and set up in a very gorgeous area with a great view of the lake.”

There was a surprising interruption during the latest hike.

“I was about five minutes into my ritual when this guy with a camera came and told me that a couple was coming up to do a proposal on this very spot and asked me to move.”

“I told him no and that I’d barely gotten set up and I was in the middle of my meal.”

“He got annoyed and asked again, but I told him no.”

“A few minutes later, the photographer returned with the guy who was going to propose. The guy proposing asked me this time.”

“I just told him no and that he could wait.”

“He asked me what the f**k was wrong with me.”

“I told him that I was eating my meal.”

“He started yelling at me to get the f**k out of the way, but I put on my headphones and just continued eating. After a while, he left me alone.”

The proposal ended up happening somewhere else.

“After I felt satisfied with the meal, I packed up and was heading down the mountain.”

“The three were waiting at another spot. The men pointed me out, and the lady started yelling at me that I ruined her day and that the proposal happened elsewhere instead of the spot I was in.”

“I just smiled and said, ‘Congrats on your proposal,’ and kept walking.”

“When I got back home, this came up, and I told my boyfriend about it. He straight-up said it was an a**hole thing to do.”


Fellow Redditors weighed in:

  • NTA: Not the A**hole
  • YTA: You’re the A**hole
  • ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
  • NAH: No A**holes Here

Some thought it wasn’t asking much for the OP to move for the special moment.

“I can’t understand not ‘inconveniencing’ myself long enough to let someone create a special memory. I would have loved to give the happy couple their first congratulations afterward.” – DragonCelica

“For those who are upset with the bride yelling at the OP… It’s possible that that spot has some significance to the couple, that they hike regularly, and that’s a favorite spot on the trail for them or something. If that was the case, I could fully understand why he might feel the need to explain why he brought her on the trail and then chose somewhere else to propose.” – JoulesMoose

“I would have happily packed up my things and scurried off. Maybe I would even be so fortunate as to find another spot where I could enjoy the scenery and unobtrusively see the proposal. Seeing people celebrate their love is beautiful, and I cannot imagine being so selfish that I would consider my picnic more important than that one special moment those two individuals were sharing.” – Fresh_Preparation405

“Personally, I would’ve asked when it was happening. If the guy said five or ten minutes, I’d say sure thing. Let me move this out of the way. I’ll just stay off to the side. It’s not like some major inconvenience for OP.”

“She sounds like a real peach with main character syndrome. She probably has a video post on IG where she tells this story while working out at the gym, and then calls some poor guy a creep for trying to ask her if he can pass by, and then gets angry after the guy walks through her shot when she wouldn’t answer him.” – imnicklehead

“Hiking out to cook using a camping kitchen or making a fire pit to cook with can be a hobby. Even picnicking is a hobby. They even have some crazy cool baskets you can get. Both need a good setup that takes a bit of space to utilize.”

“Now, I have no idea what a ‘large meal’ while hiking that would take an hour to eat entails for setup. If it’s anything like a picnic, as she’s sort of described it to be, it can be a hobby.”

“But that hobby shouldn’t be done in a manner that gets in the way of others. I feel like she dropped her stuff right on a well-worn walking path with a small overlook people stopped to use for photos.” – Nodbon1

“YTA. Good hikers share views and make space for people if it’s not a major disruption. You could have made a small exception this once for a special occasion, but you refused because of a pretty silly and selfish principle.” – JohnGradyBirdie

“OP is the AH. She’s so selfish and couldn’t share the space for this special moment for another person. If it were me, I’d say something like, ‘Wow, great! I’m so excited for you guys. Good luck!’ and move, but OP hogged the space just for their hobby that can be done anywhere and any time.” – JubsJam

“I have a trail near my house that is part of a UNESCO world heritage site and has several famous views. In fact, I got married there. It’s my happy place, and the hike has sentimental value to me. If someone informed me they were about to photograph a proposal at a spot that I was at, I would GLADLY move and spectate from a distance. Why? Because I am not the main character.”

“Let people have their moments. I’m married and already have a ring on my finger, and I’m guessing OP is jealous and bitter that they don’t, so it was satisfying for them to be in control of someone’s happiness temporarily so they monopolized a public space just to themselves for an extended and unreasonable amount of time.”

“The proposal would have probably taken ten seconds. The photographer didn’t want to monopolize the site. That was all OP.” – OptiMom1534

But others pointed out it was a public space for the OP to enjoy, too.

“Feeling satisfied from the meal… As in, your hunger is sated.”

“In Europe, meal times are sacred, and asking someone to move their picnic spot in my country would be unfathomable.” – Outrageous-Garlic-27

“They were asking someone to move from a public space, as well. OP is every bit as entitled to be there as the couple, etc.”

“The girlfriend or fiancée in this is hilarious. Like, actually seeking out OP to tell them that they ruined her proposal, lol (laughing out loud)…” – CreativeBandicoot778

“I took the ‘once I was satisfied’ more as ‘once I’d finished my meal’ and not some power play to stick it to them, although they were very rude after being told no, so I could understand if OP took their time.”

“I don’t know how large an area OP took up, but sharing a spot means everyone gets to be there, not ‘Get out, we need the spot to propose,’ which is how most propping couples seem to think. Op is NTA.” – NationalPreparation9

“I personally would’ve probably moved, but (if what OP says is true) after hearing the reaction of the people, they got what they deserved. I’d probably be pretty p**sed myself if someone didn’t want to move, but I would still treat them normally. I would say that I am disappointed, but it’s their right to be in that spot.”

“And having your ‘proposal ruined’ by not having the ‘perfect spot’ sounds pretty immature to me anyway. But that’s just me. Maybe ESH, maybe, but I wouldn’t say OP alone is the a**hole.” – Ikari1212

“If they got to the viewpoint and it was misty, would they rebook the photographer or just do the proposal elsewhere? There are a lot of variables when arranging something like that in public, and a person already being in that spot is one of them.”

“The fiancée seems like she’s angry about the proposal taking place elsewhere instead of being happy that she has agreed to be asked something momentous in her life.”

“It’s a shame that the place where he proposed is more important than the proposal. I hope they have a happy life, and to live it organically instead of perfectly.” – Far_Preference5310

“Hiking etiquette is to share and collectively enjoy views… But they could have shared. They wanted OP to move, not to share. And: A polite request was answered with NO; that’s no excuse to be impolite.” – Aggressive-Mind-2085

“This is the most ridiculous thing I have read in a while. So, the OP went to a new spot they haven’t been to and had their normal lunch routine, and people are assuming they went to this spot, knowing it was popular or that people propose there (like makeout point?) and purposely sat there having their lunch just to p**s people off and be happy about it? That’s literally insane.”

“OP was just having their meal and got yelled at by three strangers so, of course, they were happy to have p**sed them off because they were being rude little s**ts about public property that they didn’t reserve.” – Puzzled_Cockroach627

As much as everyone could appreciate a beautiful, memorable proposal, the subReddit was super divided over how everyone handled themselves in this situation.

For some, it would have been easy enough for the OP to move to a different location so the couple could have their moment. But for others, it couldn’t have been that big of a problem for the photographer to angle the shots so that the OP wasn’t in them or to edit them out later.

For something as important as a proposal, a slightly altered location shouldn’t be enough to ruin the moment or an extra person being present.

Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan

McKenzie Lynn Tozan has been a part of the George Takei family since 2019 when she wrote some of her favorite early pieces: Sesame Street introducing its first character who lived in foster care and Bruce Willis delivering a not-so-Die-Hard opening pitch at a Phillies game. She's gone on to write nearly 3,000 viral and trending stories for George Takei, Comic Sands, Percolately, and ÜberFacts. With an unstoppable love for the written word, she's also an avid reader, poet, and indie novelist.