Redditor irunallovertown is a mother who was furious after her husband was arrested for an incident that led to a child protection services review.
When the local news contacted her, the mother may have revealed too much about what she was feeling towards her husband’s momentary lapse that landed the couple in hot water.
She visited the “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) subReddit and asked:
“AITA for admitting I’m pissed at my husband for getting arrested?”
The Original Poster (OP) described what led to her husband’s arrest.
“Last week my husband got arrested for Endangering the Welfare of a Child. Our child. Our six month old son, Little Dude. LD doesn’t sleep well and when does sleep we tend to stop living so he gets a good sleep.”
“Last Monday I was at work and my husband was home with LD when he decided to run to the gas station for a snack. On the way LD fell asleep.”
“My husband waited for a minute at the gas station but LD didn’t wake up so my husband left the car locked and running with LD inside. He ended up taking twenty minutes in the gas station due to many customers.”
“When he came out the police were holding LD and our car window was broken. He was arrested for the aforementioned crime and Child Services took LD.”
“I was called at work and had to firstly go and collect LD and then go bail my husband out of jail.”
“He wasn’t even remotely sorry about anything.”
“I told him what he had done was absolutely stupid. I DID NOT call him stupid, I called his actions stupid. I asked him how he could have done this when it seems every month we hear about a baby dying in a hot car and parents getting arrested.”
“We’re now being reviewed by CPS until such time as they deem us fit parents. This being a small town the local news called us. I answered them honestly, ‘im glad my son and husband are okay but I’m frankly very upset with my husband for being so reckless with our child and I hope in time I can forgive him.'”
“LD was fine, he had the AC running but it was a hot day, 94 degrees and sunny. My husband is pissed that I’m not publicly defending him and says I’m a bad wife because of this.”
“Frankly I think he’s a dumb a** for what he did and he doesn’t deserve my defense. I’m mostly just thankful that we were allowed to take LD home. They could have easily jerked our rights over this. It’s happened.”
“AITA for telling the public that I’m pissed at my husband?”
Anonymous strangers on the internet were asked if and where guilt belongs by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Redditors declared NTA but also questioned the husband’s conscience for his judgment call.
“NTA – The terrifying fact here is that your husband does not accept that what he did was dangerous.”
“What else does he think is okay.” – HowardProject
“Agreed. OP, do you suspect drugs are involved at all? This just makes zero sense. Left baby in 94 degree heat? He didn’t notice commotion outside at the car at all?”
“What, he didn’t look outside for 20 whole minutes? Something fishy going on here. I would not be leaving him in charge of my son, at all. NTA” – tacobelley
“With the car running. Door locked or not, he was inside for 20 minutes and apparently not paying attention to his car enough that the police were able to arrive, break the window, open the car and get his child out without him noticing.”
“That could have very easily been a stranger who broke the window to steal the car with baby inside and all, or a stranger who broke the window to get inside and take the baby.” – hazelhopeholt
Safety professionals weighed in explaining the proper procedures that are followed in situations like this.
“Hi, Fire Dispatch here: If there is a child locked in the car, ESPECIALLY if we are unsure about the car running, safety first. Get child out.”
“Keep in mind, he was distracted long enough for someone to call the police, police to get dispatched & arrive, assess the situation, try and find a responsible party, and then break into the car, try to find a responsible party AGAIN and then was stumbled upon.”
“I dunno about you, but that screams heavily distracted to me, especially considering that more often that not, where I live, people try and find owner of car first and ears usually perk up at mention of the police.”
“It’s 95F at 2am here and babies locked in vehicles is serious.” – whatline_isitanyway
“I work in EMS in the US and this is absolutely what would not have happened.”
“Police or fire department would’ve shattered the window immediately in both states/large cities I’ve worked in, especially in very hot weather and EMS would be called to evaluate the baby. I responded to three of these calls last summer, we did exactly what OPs story indicates.”
“ETA.” – elaxation
People were confounded about the husband’s apparent lack of awareness.
“Gas stations are pretty small usually. And have glass windows all across.the front. Where the f’k was he parked where he couldn’t see the car or the commotion for 20 minutes?”
“This doesn’t add up, and I too would be worried about drugs or something else.” – Grizzzlysquids
“I literally would not leave my purse in a car in front of a gas station for 20 minutes without glancing outside a few times to make sure everything was okay.”
“I don’t have kids, but I would never in a million years leave my dog alone in a car on a 94 degree day for any period of time.”
“OP, you are NTA, but you need to have a serious conversation with your husband about acceptable supervision of an actual infant.” – hoyagirl10
“Honestly, I suspected sleep deprivation almost immediately. Especially if their young son is sleeping that badly. It’s possible the husband isn’t getting enough sleep and that clouded his judgement.”
“Still not an excuse just possibly an explanation.” – m2199
Overall, the OP was declared NTA, and Redditors were relieved no harm came to the baby.