Anyone who dreams of one day having children wastes no time in choosing their future child’s name.
Of course, one thing that might get in the way of giving your child the name you always dreamed of giving them is your future partner.
Some are lucky enough to discover that their partner is as or more excited about their chosen name.
Others, however, are heartbroken to discover their partner is unwilling to give the name a moment’s consideration.
Redditor Public-Praline-3691 and his wife were expecting their first child.
When it came time to pick the name, the original poster (OP)’s wife suggested one that the OP was less than thrilled about, putting his foot down that this would not be their child’s name.
Complicating matters, however, was the OP being less than thrilled to discover that his wife had already shared this name with many of her friends and family, resulting in their receiving monogrammed gifts at their baby shower.
Wondering if he handled this situation poorly, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where he asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for refusing to let my wife name our kid something stupid?”
The OP explained how his wife’s baby shower turned into anything but a joyous occasion.
“Me (25 M[ale]) and my wife (23 F[emale]) are having our first child together.”
“She is currently 9 months pregnant and could give birth anytime in the next couple of weeks.”
“The only major fight we have had throughout her pregnancy happened a couple days ago, and it was about what we were going to name our kid.”
“It all started when we found out the gender of the baby.”
“We didn’t do a gender reveal and decided to find out the gender at one of her checkups because we didn’t want to spend time making two lists of names then have to get rid of one after.”
“So after we found out we were having a boy we sat down together and made a list.”
“Almost all of the names she suggested were normal, until the one that caused me to write this post.”
“She suggested we name our son Mune.”
“She told me the name was from this movie she watched when she was younger and that it always stuck with her.”
“I told her the name was a little out there and he would get made fun of for it.”
“She claimed he wouldn’t and we started going back and forth trying to decide whether to add the name to the list or not.”
“Eventually she agreed to keep the name off the list, we picked some that we liked, and I thought that was that.”
“Later on in her pregnancy her mom decided to throw a baby shower as it was her first grandchild, and my wife’s pregnancy was almost over and we hadn’t celebrated once.”
“It was fine for the most part until we started to open the gifts.”
“Most of them were normal baby things like diapers and bottles, until we got to her moms gift.”
“My wife opened the gift bag and pulled out a blue handmade blanket.”
“It seemed normal enough at first until my wife unfolded it and low and behold there was the name Mune written on the blanket.”
“When I saw it i was pissed but didn’t want to cause a scene so i stayed quiet.”
“After that reveal I had family members come up to me and ask me about the name and why I hadn’t told them.”
“I didn’t know what to tell them as i didn’t have a clue about this either and just had to embarrassingly tell my family that, which pissed me off even more.”
“Once the event ended and me and my wife went home I started to question her about the name.”
“She got defensive and told me that it was a good name and that i was overreacting about it.”
“I brought up the earlier points and told her it was a stupid name for a kid and if she wanted to name something Mune so bad she could use the name for a dog.”
“She got upset and called her mom to come get her.”
“After she left she called me and told me she wouldn’t be coming back for awhile.”
“Everyone ive talked to about this has said I’m not the a**hole, but now that my wife has been gone and I’ve been thinking about it I feel like I could have handled the situation better.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community was in agreement that the OP was not the a**hole for standing firm in refusing to name his child Mune.
Everyone agreed that naming a child needed to be a two-person decision, and it was way out of line for the OP to tell her friends and family their child was going to be named Mune.
Nearly everyone agreed with the OP that Mune was a very questionable choice of name.
“NTA – Congrats and good luck with everything!”
“I’m also about to give birth and we haven’t picked a final name yet.”
“If my husband went behind my back and told his family a name and didn’t bother to mention it to me…I’d be livid!”
“Not to mention she told them early enough that they either had time to personalize or hand-make a personalized gift!”
“Names should be two yeses.”
“I’m not gonna comment on the name…but your wife is TA for making an important decision behind your back, keeping you out of the loop, and telling people.”
“That’s not ok.”
“Hopefully things can settle down and you guys can talk it out soon.”
“Hope all goes well!”- -Timi-
“Because it’s a two yes decision.”
“That being said, has your wife done ANY research on this name?”
“Mune means breasts in Japanese.”
“Does she even like your kid?”- snugglestrugglehoin
“Mune: Guardian of the Moon (2014) Mune, a young fawn, is chosen as the new Guardian of the moon.”
“Please don’t name your child this.”
“NTA NTA NTA.”- PurpleStar1965
“Both parents have to agree to the name. It doesn’t matter if it’s boring, weird or ridiculous…both have to agree.”- WielderOfAphorisms
“NTA I think that your wife is being pretty ridiculous about the name.”
“That’s an awful name, and you’re right that the kid will be bullied for this.”
“Your wife is incredibly wrong for deciding to name the child that name anyway, regardless of what you think.”
“It’s just as much your child as it is hers.”- JenninMiami
“You are not overreacting and NTA.”
“Tell your wife this, or better yet, have her read this:”
“Naming a baby is a two yes or one no situation.”
“You do not name a child something your partner does not agree with.”
“You find a compromise.”
“This is the start of many necessary compromises in life, and it is a total AH move to unilaterally decide on a child’s name despite your partner’s misgivings.”
“You need to put your foot down HARD on this because what she is doing is 100% not okay.”
“She is absolutely not mature enough for motherhood if she can not find a reasonable compromise on this.”
“I am a mom to several kids.”
“There are names I have loved my husband has not, and there are names my husband has loved and I have not.”
“We have ALWAYS landed on a name that ended up being a great fit for our children.”
“They might not have been our first choices, but it’s not about winning.”
“Its about finding a name you both love that will be a good fit for your child no matter what career they might have in life.”
“And Chief Justice Mune doesn’t have any weight.”
“The only thing a name like Mune is good for is if your kid ends up the drummer in a metal band.”-Adventurous-Try1728
“You guys are allowed to downvote me, but I think that naming your children after fictional characters is not a good idea.”
“I know your wife liked that French animated movie, but she should consider that naming a baby is not the same as naming a pet.”- AnywhereDeep4041
“This is one of those ‘two yeses/one no’ situations.”
“You did not have two yeses, but your wife proceeded as though you did, even going behind your back to do so.”
“Maybe it’s her pregnancy hormones, but she’s very much in the wrong here.”
“Your kid is going to end up being called Moon Moon (or something along those lines) by his classmates.”
“Kids are mean enough as it is.”
“No need to give them ammo.”
Regardless of what the name was, it is a little surprising that the OP’s wife went and told so many people what their child’s name would be.
Particularly considering she knew all too well that he had less than happy feelings about the name.
It can cause quite a tense situation when one spouse can’t trust another.
One can only hope that while she spends time at her mother’s house, the OP’s wife will come to realize how she breached his trust.