We’ve all had those moments where we find ourselves at a breaking point, and all it takes is one little thing to just put us over the edge.
In the grand scheme of things, what puts us over the edge is likely something which others would see as something minor, or insignificant.
But in the heat of the moment, it might feel to you like the world has come to an end.
Such was the case for Redditor Horror_Trifle9703, who left something at her home to look forward to after a long week of work, and was outraged to discover her husband utilized it without asking her first.
Worried that she was way out of line for the way she reacted, the original poster (OP) took to the subReddit “Am I the A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for leaving and staying at a hotel after he gave his dog my snack?”
The OP explained how work has been far more stressful than usual for her, and she found a simple, but effective solution, to help her get through the day.
“This feels so childish to me, and I think it was just the straw that broke the camel’s back honestly because it seems like such a small issue.”
“But I’ve been overly stressed lately and basically cry at the drop of a f*cking hat and have been like this for over a month so I think this just did me in.”
“I work 60+ hours a week at a hospital in the ER.”
“We are well below the legal unstaffed numbers.”
“I haven’t had a day off in going on 3 weeks.”
“I have one crutch.”
“I don’t know why but if I’ve had a bad day, I go home and eat pepperoni sticks.”
“The big ones that cost like $18.”
“I am not able to get them very often because I try to save money but on Friday I bought one.”
“Now when I get one, it generally lasts me about a week.”
“I will just slice off like 5 pieces and stick it back in the fridge.”
“This is a habit of mine that has stemmed from childhood, as whenever I was having a bad day my mom would go buy me one because of how much I loved pepperoni.”
“My husband also knows this and he knows I don’t buy them often.”
But after yet another stressful day at work, the OP returned home to find her pepperoni sticks being eaten by another resident of her home.
“Well, 2 days ago I had taken a couple slices and his dog that he got about 6 months ago was at my feet begging and digging at my heels and I said ‘absolutely not, this is my snack only’ and left it at that.”
“But the next night (yesterday), I get home and go to get the pepperoni and my husband was sitting at the desk with the rest of my pepperoni sliced up in a plate, leaning down and feeding it to his dog.”
“He hates pepperoni so he wasn’t even eating it.”
“I ask why the hell he is giving his dog my snacks and he said ‘it’s no big deal, we can just get another one’.”
“It just bummed me out beyond belief and I left and went to a hotel room and basically cried my night away over this.”
“I know it sounds stupid but he knows I wont share that snack with his dog so he did it behind my back.”
“He says I’m acting childish over food and saying I’m only pissed because I don’t like the dog and don’t want her having anything of mine.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not the A**hole
- YTA – You’re the A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
The Reddit community agreed that the OP was entitled to her reaction, and was not the a**hole for checking into a hotel.
Everyone agreed that the OP’s husband was being thoughtless, especially since he knew how stressful work was for her, and how much she looked forward to her snack at the end of the day.
“This is not really about pepperoni.”
“You’re going through a hard time and your partner is not only not supportive, but is actively antagonizing you.”- Mental_Dragonfly_954
“Also pepperoni sticks for people are very bad for dogs.”
“They are high in fat, but the bigger problem are onions and garlic powder, both of which are bad for dogs.
“Over time they cause anemia.”
“It was a passive aggressive move.”
“The dog should have healthy dog treats only.”
“Not even that pupperoni crap.”-exotics
“Your husband is, though.”
“Lack of basic respect, totally unfeeling given your workload and stress level, and definitely a dick move.”- Previous_Chipmunk933
“It is your stress relief comfort snack.”
“If he really felt it was ok for the dog to have some and not you he should have gotten more himself.”
“Further more, as much as I love my pets I would not spend that much on a single snack for them, that is reserved for humans.”-Forhasta
“I am used to this sort of thing, where I sometimes buy snacks I like for myself.”
“I don’t eat it very quickly though, and will stretch it out over many days.”
“However, when I go looking for it, I can’t find it.”
“I ask my husband and he says ‘Oh, the kids ate that’.”
“I get upset because I told him that was mine and not the kids.”
“I’d like to note that I also buy the kids similar snacks.”
“I don’t just get some for myself, and yet he allowed the kids to not only get into it, but eat all of it and not let me know so I can get more for myself.”
“I work at a grocery store so it would be easy for me to replenish.”
“This may seem like a ‘small issue’, but it’s not to you.”
“One thing I’ve learned being in therapy is that there are emotions and issues under the small stuff.”
“There’s the frustration of not having the item that you bought for yourself, it may be more important if you don’t splurge on yourself often.”
“Frustration that your partner doesn’t seem to care; frustration that they minimize the situation and just say well it’s not a big deal, it’s just food.”
“The issue here isn’t the food.”
“It’s the purposeful actions that were done with the knowledge of how much it meant to you and how much that helps you relax and calm down.”
“I also imagine that he knew how you felt about giving the dog snacks and table scraps, so this is even more purposeful.”
“Being at the point where you are about to have a mental breakdown from stress or anxiety makes everything seem worse.”
“I’m almost there myself.”
“I don’t see the hotel room as an issue, but then again, I’m close to driving off and never coming back, so I may be a bit biased in that regard.”
“I hope that the room gave you enough time to breathe and relax.”
“It’s not good being in a very stressful situation for so long.”- Aggravating_Air
“There’s something so passive aggressive about slicing up the WHOLE rest of the pepperoni stick and feeding it all to the dog, that’s toxic af, he knew exactly what he was doing.”-msilv1104
“If it’s not such a big deal then it should have been easy for him to find the dog another snack.”
“Do you not have other meats at home, or dog treats?”
“That seems weirdly passive aggressive, it’s like he wanted to see you react this way.”- Felidaeh_
“This sounds like something that would happen between me and my husband.”
“So I’m inclined to say NTA.”
“And also pepperoni is terrible for dogs, they shouldn’t have human food so you’re husband is the a hole for feeding the dog sh*t that’s bad for him.”- Fantastic_Music2421
“Sounds like your husband is attempting to prove a point and stand up for his dog?”
“That’s an incredibly stupid way to mess with you.”
“He has no right to try and prove any points to try to correct you.”
“If the dog has begging habits.and eats human food, it’s clearly not trained.”
“He does not train the dog but wants to train you?”
“Even if you do dislike the dog and don’t want to ‘share’ your human food with it.”
“You would still never be the asshole.”
“It’s not dog food, it does the pet no good to have what you eat.”
“You deserve to have boundaries and be comfortable in your own home.”-recklesslydreaming
Whether consciously or not, the OP’s husband was being pretty insensitive to her, as well as his dog.
Maybe the way his poor pup reacted to the pepperoni will be lesson enough for him never to do that again.
But hopefully he might also realize how much eating pepperoni sticks meant to the OP at the end of a long day, and will buy her a few more as an apology.