Far too many people take for granted how easy it is for them to access food, which is still very much a luxury to people all over the world.
Some people will do all they can to make one meal last them for a whole week, often going to bed hungry all night to do so.
People in this unfortunate situation don’t take kindly to those who might order takeout, throw away what they don’t finish, and do so night after night.
Redditor Thro-waway109 was looking forward to cooking dinner for his younger brother and his pregnant girlfriend at his home.
Unfortunately, when the young couple arrived, the smell of what the original poster (OP) was cooking was simply intolerable to the expectant mother.
So much so, that she even took matters into her own hands, with her actions resulting in the OP asking them both to leave.
Wondering if he overreacted, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where he asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for yelling at my brother’s pregnant girlfriend and kicking them both out of my house after she threw away my food?”
The OP explained why he felt the only appropriate way to deal with the behavior of his brother’s girlfriend was asking them both to leave.
“I (27 M[ale]) live alone.”
“My brother (21 M[ale]) and his girlfriend (gf) (19 F[emale]) still live with our parents as they can’t afford a place of their own.”
His gf is currently pregnant with him in 4 months.
“My brother asked to bring his girlfriend for dinner in order to catch up and I said sure, why not.”
“However the moment she entered my house she started complaining about the smell of the steak I was making and said just the smell alone makes her nauseous and she can’t eat this.”
“I tried to suggest an alternative, but she was dead set on Chinese food and ended up sending my brother to the nearest mall in order to get her some.”
“I thought that would be the end of it, but after going to the bathroom and coming back, I caught her throwing my unfinished steak into the garbage.”
“I asked her what the hell she was doing and said the smell was so strong she thought she’d end up throwing up on the floor and she needed to get rid of it and then started spraying a perfume from her purse in my kitchen.”
“I was beyond furious at this point and sent her back to the living room and after my brother came back from the mall, I kicked both of them out with their Chinese food.”
“My brother tried to convince me to let them back and that I could make something else for the two of us and his gf was pretty much sobbing at this point, but I was dead set on kicking them both out.”
“However my parents ended up being mad at me for apparently causing so much distress to my brother’s pregnant gf.”
“I told them that she literally threw away our dinner, but they said that I shouldn’t have yelled at her or kicked them out as she’s still just a teenager who’s now getting influenced by her pregnancy hormones and that my outburst also caused problems in their relationship as she ended up sending my brother to sleep on the couch that night (even tho he literally defended her as well against me, so I have no clue how this is my fault).”
“AITA for apparently not having enough tact to deal with a pregnant teenager?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community resoundingly agreed that the OP was not the a**hole for kicking his brother and his girlfriend out of his home.
While everyone sympathized with the girlfriend’s condition, that didn’t justify her behavior, which everyone agreed was disrespectful enough to justify the OP kicking them both out of his house.
“I can completely understand the smell being too much for her, I was like that when I was pregnant.”
“But the solution was for her to leave.”
“Throwing away someone else’s food was way over the line.”- NWmoose
“I’m pregnant too.”
“My sense of smell is definitely heightened.”
“I would never dream of throwing away someone else’s food.”
“If I had that much of a problem with it, I’d leave.”
“Yes, she’s a teenager.”
“But if she’s mature enough to have a child, she’s mature enough to know you don’t go into someone else’s house and throw away their food.”- twelvedayslate
“She is 19, that is old enough to know not to mess with other people’s food.”
“Everything else she did is just more insult to injury.”
“If she felt so sick by the smell, she could have waited outside or in the bathroom until it was cooked and you could put it away, I’m sure you would have been fine with that if she had asked.”
“Instead, she just threw it out, a horrible waste of food and completely disrespectful to you.”
“The fact that she then took her anger out on her boyfriend, over something he didn’t even do, shows more of her character than anything else could.”
“It is crazy that your parents are trying to defend her actions.”- VersatileFaerie
“I am a woman have been pregnant 3 times,.severe nausea each time that required medication, and despite the medication I still lost weight.”
“But I never once threw away anyone else’s food even if the aroma of the food was the culprit that triggered my nausea.”
“I never once even considered that was the right solution.”
“Who has the audacity to go into someone else’s home and unilaterally decide to throw away expensive uneaten food without discussing with anyone.”
“Your parents are partially right.”
“She is a teenager, but what she is influenced by is self-centeredness and being an a**hole.”
“Pregnancy hormones influence every pregnant woman, but not every pregnant woman decides to throw food out (that doesn’t belong to them) while being a guest.”
“There are so many other solutions that she could have chosen.”- Gladtobealive2020
“Where I live steak is expensive and I would be mad too.”
“If she couldn’t handle the smell they could’ve left and you could’ve met up with them on another occasion.”- Master_Sprinkles_265
“She threw out your food.”
“Pregnancy symptoms are no joke but she’s being really entitled.”- Ok_Register3005
“If they’re old enough to be parents, they’re old enough to act like adults.”- NoreastNorwest
“I sympathize with her symptoms, but the appropriate thing to do if she really couldn’t handle it was remove herself from the situation.”
“She crossed a line.”
“I don’t blame you at all.”- Agreeable-Asparagus
“Pregnancy hormones or not what she did was unacceptable and she had to go.”- CrystalQueen3000
“Nausea is understandable and horrible to deal with, but it is absolutely no excuse to throw away your food.”
“It’s up to her to cope with it when she’s a guest in your house and you offered other food options (especially when she ended up getting the food she wanted anyway).”- whoreforcheesescones
“Being pregnant does not allow you to be a d*ck.”- anon466544
“Pregnancy caused her acute nausea but she acted on a poor decision.”
“She had other options like go outside for fresh air and remove herself for the source of the smell.”
“You reacted like most people would; she threw away your shared meal.”
“She expressed no remorse only justified herself.”
“When creating new relationships both people typically show up as their best self.”
“She missed this mark.”
“You’ll have another chance to connect but for now know, it is odd behavior to throw away anything in someone’s kitchen unless it is one’s used napkin.”
“Best to you.”
“New family can be both challenging and rewarding.”- DesertSong-LaLa
“An explanation is not an excuse, and the girlfriend’s inability to respond to a serious discomfort in a socially acceptable way with consideration for others or an ounce of humility is extremely disturbing.”- atmasabr
“Your brother’s gf owes you some steaks.”
‘If she couldn’t deal with the smell she could have gone to the mall to buy the Chinese food.”
“She could have politely asked if she could open a window.”
“She could have gone home.”
“What she cannot do is throw away someone else’s food because the smell makes her sick.”- Acxis
It’s a known fact that sensitivity to the taste and smell of certain foods is one of the unfortunate symptoms which comes with pregnancy.
Even so, for the OP’s girlfriend to throw away the steaks he was cooking, not to mention paid good money for, is shocking and illogical behavior.
After all, the odor was bound to come through from the garbage as well.
One also can’t help but wonder if she had her heart so set on Chinese food, why didn’t they just bring that over in the first place?