Many pet owners consider their scaled, furred, finned or feathered friend a part of their family.
But what should they do when their human family asks them to choose between them and their pet?
A 32-year-old woman who dealt with her sister who wanted her dog gone turned to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for perspective.
Redditor throwdog1111 asked:
“AITA for picking my dog over my pregnant sister?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“This happened about a week ago but I’m getting a lot of sh*t from family and friends so I want an external opinion.”
“Last year my sister (28) was kicked out of her boyfriend’s house and I took her in. We don’t have the best relationship but she was jobless and I was the only relative still living in our country.”
However she soon found out she was taking on more responsibility than she originally anticipated.
“Surprise surprise… About two months later she figured out she was pregnant.”
“One day she started to complain about my dog (a beautiful 2-year-old half husky) and how it would be bad for her baby and that she wouldn’t raise her kid with a ‘wild animal’ around.”
“My dog is a total sweetheart.”
“I told her it was my house and if she was not comfortable here, she could leave and my dog was staying no matter what. She kept complaining but I wouldn’t change my mind.”
But her sister didn’t take “no” for an answer.
“About two weeks ago I had to travel for work to a remote location for a few days. When I came back my dog was not home and my sister claimed she had no idea where it was.”
“We got into a fight because I didn’t believe her.”
“I ended up storming off and asked a few neighbors if they had seen it. One told me the last time he saw it was when my sister took him somewhere a few days ago.”
“She uses my Uber account (because she’s broke) so when I found an odd trip to the other side of the city, I connected the dots.”
“I drove all the way over there and after asking around I found my dog in a street restaurant. The owner took him after a ‘blonde pregnant woman’ left him leashed to a fence…”
“I ended up explaining the situation, paying him like 500 bucks and I got my dog back.”
Her dog retrieved, the OP still needed to deal with her sister.
“When I went back home I kicked out my sister. I gave her enough money for a week in a hotel and sent her on her merry way.”
“She made a huge scandal and I admit I was a bit too forceful but I was furious.”
“She called all my family and friends and they’re all telling me I’m an a**hole for picking my dog over my sister and that I should take her back, that I should value that unborn baby more than a silly animal.”
“I think my dog is more important and what my sister did is unforgivable but I’ll accept your judgement.”
Redditors weighed in on the situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided the OP was not the a**hole.
“NTA. If your family cares so much they can take her in.” ~ ReinaDulce
“Exactly. And since she doesn’t have a job, she doesn’t exactly have a compelling reason to stick around in OP’s city, she can pack her sh*t and gtfo.”
“Any one of those relatives that are bending OP’s ear can take her in.” ~ TirNannyOgg
“NTA. She bit the hand that fed her, she had no right to give away your dog.”
“She should be reaching out to the father of her child or other friends who can take her in. She only has herself to blame for her getting kicked out of your home.”
“She was lucky you even gave her money for her to stay in a hotel for week from you after what she did.” ~ Interesting_Forever2
The OP returned with an update.
“After reading all your comments I feel better with my decision.”
“I’ll try to answer some questions but I cant read all the comments. I’m sorry if I miss something.”
“I left my dog with my sister because I never thought she would do something like this. She was complaining and that should’ve been a huge red flag but she complains about many things and never did anything else.”
“I just thought it was something she’d forget about in a few weeks. I didn’t leave her in charge of my pet in the sense that she didn’t need to do anything for it.”
“I have an automatic feeder and my backyard is big enough for it to go without walkies for a few days.”
“I live in a country where animal protection laws are almost nonexistent. It would’ve been a hassle to get my lawyer to convince the police to get involved.”
“Blame me for not using the proper legal channels but I just wanted my dog back as soon as possible. I was really lucky my sister was dumb enough to take an Uber or i probably would’ve never found my dog.”
“The easiest thing was to pay the guy who found him (I’m gonna sound like an a**hole for this but in that part of town people don’t take animals for the goodness of their hearts, I was lucky I could convince the guy to let me ‘buy it back’).”
“About the ‘bit too forceful’ part I mean I was furious and screamed like a mad woman (she was hysterical too). The neighbors got involved and supported me and I ended up throwing her the money for the hotel through the taxi window (I’m pretty sure I scared the hell out of the driver).”
“I gave her money because even if I was mad, it felt wrong to throw someone pregnant to the streets with only her clothes and cellphone. At least the money would be enough for her not to starve for a few days until she gets help from someone else.”
“She’s not EVER living with me again. I’m going no contact with everyone who sided with her.”
“Yes I explained my pov but I come from a very conservative family that ‘values human life above all’. I’ve been drilled this in my head my whole life so it was hard to know if I was making the right choice (which now seems obvious).”
“I don’t really know why she broke things off with her boyfriend (the story changes a lot) but I’ll tell you they met when she came to visit me a few years ago and she ended up moving in with him all in the same month.”
“The arrangement was that she could live with me until the pandemic is over (no one would hire a pregnant woman and she works in tourism which is a dead field right now).”
Redditors agreed the OP’s sister broke her trust. It’s best they part ways.
All of the concerned relatives can send OP’s sister money for her own apartment or for a plane ticket so she can go live with them.