We talk about some heavy topics here sometimes.
Gender norms, boundaries, and even weddings.
I promise not to make this one about something heavy.
Rather, it’s about balls.
What happens when your repeated warnings are ignored and in doing so, karma hits the offender in the, literal, nuts?
Is it wrong to laugh?
That was the issue facing Redditor and Original Poster (OP) Pitiful_Finish_6110 when she came to the Am I the A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for judgment.
“AITA for laughing at my boyfriend during an ‘I f*cking told you so’ moment?”
“My boyfriend has a good job and has no problem spending money on stuff that matters to him.”
“Other stuff? Not so much.”
“I have my own place and we alternate where we spend the night when we see each other.”
“He has a sh*tty mattress.”
“It has one spring that has snapped me in the back of the legs a few times.”
“I told him he needed to replace it because it was busted. He kept saying that he would but he never did.”
“I was in the shower yesterday and I heard him scream.”
“I rinsed off and went to see if he was okay.”
“The spring caught him in the nuts.”
“I couldn’t help it. I giggled. It was sort of funny.”
“He thinks I’m an a**hole for laughing at his ‘suffering.’ I told him that he didn’t care that much when it was my legs getting it.”
OP was left to wonder,
Having explained the situation, OP turned to Reddit for judgment.
Redditors weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided: NTA
The proper motivation.
“Whatever motivates him to buy a new mattress, right?” ~ Thediciplematt
“Yeah, but like… only his pain is enough to motivate him, and he doesn’t care if she’s the one getting hurt?”
“If he wasn’t going to fix the problem, why didn’t he at least take the broken side instead of being ok with his sh*t hurting her?”
“He should get a new mattress, and she should refuse to sleep on it anyway because she’s found somebody who actually cares enough to not want to be responsible for repeatedly injuring her.” ~ rarelybarelybipolar
“NTA maybe it’ll motivate him to change the mattress 🤔” ~ burnt-sausages-lol
“The spring incident was his mattress giving him a motivating kick in the nuts.”
“A mattress that old would be a dust mite metropolis, absolutely filthy.”
“Look up some pictures of dust mites and why they are bad. Get a washable mattress cover as well and wash it periodically.” ~ Ripsad53
If it’s funny, you laugh.
“This is hilarious and if it were me and my partner, he’d be on the floor really playing up how much he is writhing in pain but also laughing is a*s off.”
“And oh the jokes at his expense I would make! Our dog is also a huge fan of ‘lets use daddy’s crotch as a springboard for ball’ game.”
“Your BF is probably acting out of a hurt ego more than anything.”
“It’s less about him getting his bells rung by the bed and more about how he had to deal with the consequences of his own actions (or lack thereof), and it probably hurt his ego a bit when you laughed.”
“Hopefully he’ll come around, see the humor, and spring for a new mattress. *pun intended*” ~ Foodandtheatrenerd
“I would have laughed if I were either one in this situation. It’s funny.” ~ linkydinks
“Dudes getting hit in the nuts is funny”
“(For clarity, Im a dude. I’ve been hit in the nuts before. Everyone laughed. I joined in. After I finished vomiting)” ~ content222222
A word from our community.
“My brother didn’t want to replace a cracked toilet seat some 20+ years ago.”
“After sitting down a bit too far forward one day, he started screaming rather than scooting back.”
“His then GF, now wife had to rescue him. Seems the sack of kiwis hurts like heck when you hang it in a pinch of a split toilet seat.”
“Doubt he’ll ever live it down. He got toilet seats for Christmas for years from nearly the whole family. Still gets the odd oval gift now and then”
“Guess who swallowed his pride and replaced the seat that very day”
“As a fellow human of the male variety, such throne seats don’t get worn out in my house.”
“Learn from an idiot’s mistake, and you can be an idiot on something else fir the next human to learn from. Still wish I could read the write-up from the ER back then.” ~ lemmietaste
“Girl, my girlfriend told me the same thing. I had a hand-me-down full-sized mattress FOR YEARS, until I started making big kid money and splurged on a nice bed after months of her hounding me.”
“I love my new mattress. It was expensive as hell but well worth it.”
“Purple mattress is chefs kiss” ~ jhofsho1
“I dated a guy and we played that hand slapping game where one person’s hands are on top and the other person’s on bottom, and the bottom person tries to slap the top person’s hands.”
“BF kept making fun of me for losing. When it was my turn to slap, he pulled back quickly and hit himself in the crotch. I laughed. So if you’re TA, so am I.” ~ Gerbille
“NTA, my husband once ate a spicy… spicy pepper, then scratched his balls. Queue him SCREAMING at me from the shower that he needs milk and I need to go to the store and get milk.”
“I was IN TEARS going to the store from laughing so hard and we laugh about it every time it comes up. Sh*t happens and it’s funny lol” ~ Chikei_Star
No villains here.
“INFO: Was he actively bleeding still when you got there? How badly were you scraped?”
“It’s one thing to kinda lightly scrape your leg or arm lightly a few times on a rough edge, and another completely to have something pierce one of the most sensitive parts of your body.”
“Men generally get a panic reaction when anything goes wrong ‘down there’.
“(I know my first thought when recovering from the pain is ‘Oh, God, I hope I can still have kids’).
“So your BF was in distress when you were laughing, which isn’t exactly the same as ‘Oh, it scraped my foot a little.'”
“I’m kinda leaning towards NAH here-“
“He’s not an AH for not replacing the mattress or calling you an AH (more lazy, tbh), since he was probably still panicking and coming off his meltdown.”
“Laughing is kinda an AH move, karma or not, but it’s so innocuous and nobody’s really harmed by a chuckle at such an absurd incident, so it’s not even deserving of a YTA rating.”
“(Like, I’d consider myself an AH in that moment if I were you, but very lightly so).”
“I’d change my opinion if either he was seriously injured and bleeding when you got there (then YTA) or if you yourself were seriously injured.”
“(Like, I dunno, it drew blood and you needed a Band-aid) by the spring in the past (then NTA).” ~ ScarletCarbuncle
“NAH. Funny as hell but I’d be mad too if I was laughed at right after getting hit in the nuts. Totally deserved to get laughed at though lol” ~ Background_Duck2932
“If he needed to go to the hospital or something, that may be different.”
“Even then though it reminds me of a similar situation where I was your boyfriend in the situation.”
“Heavy vintage sewing machine was on the floor in the living room because I hadn’t put it away.”
“My husband kept tripping on it and (reasonably) asked me to move it.”
“My response: “I manage to not trip on it. Just be more careful.” Like 2 days later I BROKE my toe on it.”
“He actually didn’t laugh but honestly I wouldn’t be mad if he did. It’s just a toe and I was the a**hole in that.” ~ lc504503
“He should have replaced the mattress sooner. But when you’re in pain, it’s not a great feeling to be laughed at.”
“Say something sympathetic is a good next step IMO. But also suggest that when he says he will do something, he should follow through.”
“Or if he doesn’t mean to follow through, it would be better if he just said ‘no’ or ‘I won’t do that'”. ~ lesslucid
Some weren’t in OP’s camp… but it was still funny.
“I mean, mostly NTA, but also YTA.”
“NTA obvs because you warned him, he fu**ed around and found out in the meanest way possible. Also because guys getting in the nuts will pretty much always be funny.”
“But also YTA because it probably really hurt. Plus, you know what it feels like getting whacked with the spring – did he ever laugh at you?” ~ personholecover12
“YTA, but when it’s something funny like that just take the a**hole card, and tell EVERYONE!!” ~ iadoresloth1
Replace your mattress.