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Redditor Sparks Drama By Revealing Their Friend’s Plan To Get Pregnant Behind Her Boyfriend’s Back

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There are some lines you just don’t cross with close friends—like interfering with relationships.

But that is what Redditor xenofection had to do after no longer being able to turn a blind eye to their friend’s deceptive plot against her boyfriend (bf).

They visited the “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) subReddit after a huge fallout and asked:

“AITA for telling a friend’s bf her intentions of getting pregnant?”

The Original Poster (OP) discussed the prosperous beginnings of “Ashely” and “Chris’s” relationship.

“A couple years ago, a close friend, Ashley, started a long-distance relationship with a guy, Chris. He has been really good to her and after meeting in person a few times, they decided to move in together.”

“I was super happy for her as she had a few bad relationships over the years and it was nice to see her in a healthy one. That joy faded the last couple months before she moved a few states over to be with him.”

“The issue isn’t her moving, but that she repeatedly joked about having a baby from Chris. At first, I accepted it as jokes, but over time I realized Ashley was serious.”

“For context, Ashley has two children from a previous relationship, ages 10 and 12. Chris absolutely doesn’t want kids. He told her this at the start and anytime she hinted possibly wanting more, he shot it down, saying it was a deal breaker.”

“Now, Chris is more than willing to accept her children as her own, because he loves her and after meeting her kids, them as well. He’s accepted that they are a package deal with her, and since they are at an age where they are semi-independent, it’s not an issue for him.”

“To me, Chris is a real bro for taking on her kids without issue. Hearing Ashley say she wants a baby out of him, ‘one way or another,’ bothered me to no end.”

“It’s hard enough to find a partner that treats you well and accepts children that aren’t their own. To find one that does and then talk about plotting to force a baby seems gross and manipulative.”

“Before her move, I had sat down with Ashley, trying to talk sense into her. At first she resisted, but finally it seemed she understood how sh**ty it would be. After I felt like she had understood, I put the issue behind me and helped support her thru the hassle of moving.”

However, it appeared that Ashley remained fixed on her determination to have a baby with Chris against his will and even sought mystical reinforcements.

“A few days after she left, I got a call from a mutual friend who delves into the Wiccan/Metaphysical realm. She was distraught and confessed to me that shortly before Ashley’s move, Ashley had come to her asking for a fertility spell.”

“This friend didn’t feel comfortable about it and refused. When pushed, she said she cast a spell for a healthy and honest relationship, but told Ashley it was for fertility.”

“As you can imagine, I was livid. I messaged Ashley, confronting her about what I learned and she laughed it off as she was desperate, but magic is fake anyway, so what’s the harm? She then let it slip, that since Chris was planning on getting a vasectomy in a few months, she had poked holes in their condoms as a last ditch effort.”

“At that point, I couldn’t stay silent. I gathered up screenshots of all the conversations over the last few months and sent them to Chris. He understandably freaked out and kicked her out. Now, Ashley hates me because she was kicked out after a huge move and didn’t have a job or money to make it back.”

“She said I’m a terrible person for putting her and her kids out on the street.”

“Am I the a**ole here? Should I have kept quiet?”

Anonymous strangers on the internet weighed in by declaring:

  • NTA – Not The A**hole
  • YTA – You’re The A**hole
  • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
  • NAH – No A**holes Here

“NTA, lying about being on birth control and poking holes in condoms etc. are acts of sexual assault. You absolutely did the right thing by letting him know.” – anxiousjellybean

“NTA and I’m guessing her previous bad relationships were partially her fault, she needs professional help.” – FardyMcJiggins

“My guess is she is baby crazy. She chose crappy dudes previously because she’ll look past anything for the baby. Including sabotaging a great relationship.” – BasicDesignAdvice

“NTA. I don’t know in what universe you would think you’re the a**hole- your ‘friend’ is trying to force someone into a lifelong commitment they don’t want by lying and deceit.”

“You absolutely did the right thing, don’t lose any sleep over it and cut this toxic person out of your life immediately.” – Cochenballs

“I can understand feeling like the a**hole in this situation, since a good friend is mad now. I’m sure she manipulated all of her friends the same way she manipulated her boyfriend, so they are better off without her.”

“But yes, 100% NTA.” – Chewookiee

“I’m so confused by the whole situation. Why does Ashley want to have a baby with somebody who is all, ‘EW BABIES’? Does she think that dynamic will make for a happy home life?” – LurkNoMore201

“NTA. You didnt get her kicked out, she did with her deceitful and potentially very harmful behavior. This is worse than cheating on someone imo. Can you imagine if it were the other way around and he were the one poking holes in condoms?”

“Ppl would drag him through the mud, and pretty sure its illegal to do in many places. Choosing to be a parent or not is incredibly personal and should never, ever be a coerced decision.”

“Considering how awful and disrespectful she is to someone she was supposed to be in love with, I dont think you’re losing out on much of a friend here. You’re a hero in my eyes.” – International-Aside

“The more I think about this situation, the more my mind is blown by this woman’s audacity. I truly believe she needs some serious help.”

“She wasn’t thinking about her partner in this. She wasn’t thinking about what kind of life the child would have being born to a parent that really didn’t want it.”

“She wasn’t even thinking about herself, bc ofc forcing someone into being a parent would lead to resentment and usually ruins the relationship. Its so bizarre.” – International-Aside

“Ashely should have thought about losing a home before trying to baby trap him. That is her own fault and even if she did get pregnant, it is likely he would kick her out and tell her to find another place to live.”

“I feel bad for the kids here, their mother clearly only thought about her wants and her wants alone. Seriously, screw you Ashley, very few people like or have sympathy for baby-trappers.” – VanillaGhoul

Overall, Redditors said the OP was better off without this “close friend” in their life and was NTA for informing Chris about Ashley’s manipulative plot.

Koh Mochizuki

Written by Koh Mochizuki

Koh Mochizuki is a New York-based actor and writer. Originally hailing from Los Angeles, he received his B.A. in English literature and is fluent in Japanese. Disney parks are his passion, and endless cups of coffee are a necessity. Instagram: kohster Twitter: @kohster1