Wedding planning is already an immense task without complications.
But what wedding doesn’t have its complications?
Redditor, Thruway1099367, is currently going through the motions of planning a wedding with their partner.
Everything was going well until they started receiving special requests.
Now the Original Poster (OP) is questioning whether they’d be wrong for disregarding them.
So they turned to the subReddit “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) for some clarity, asking:
“WIBTA (Would I Be the A**hole) if I didn’t plan my wedding menu around one guest?”
The OP is making progress in planning their wedding.
“Like many people who are preparing for their wedding, my fiance and I are trying to nail down a menu with our caterer.”
“Our wedding is coming this summer, and we are at the point where we need to make decisions about our menu.”
“Our caterer allows us two entree choices for the wedding menu- we definitely want one meat option and one vegetarian option because we have many guests who are vegetarians.”
But one difficult guest is planning to attend.
“The problem, though, is one of our invited guests, Luke, will be bringing his girlfriend, Lisa, as his plus one.”
“I do not know Lisa very well. We’ve only met about three times.”
“In our limited interaction, she has made it very clear that she’s a glutenfreegan (a gluten-free vegan).”
“The hangouts we have attended are memorable because she always brings baked goods, serves them to everyone, and then as soon as we finish eating them, she smugly goes, ‘HA! That was gluten-free, dairy-free, and vegan! See? It’s not so hard.'”
Now she’s making special requests.
“Back to wedding planning, the menu we were ready to submit to our caterers included a cherry duck breast with leek mashed potatoes for the meat option, and a mushroom cream sauce pasta entree as the vegetarian meal.”
“Luke texted us, asking if we know what we will be serving, so we told him what the projected options are.”
“He told us Lisa will be mad because the vegetarian option still includes lactose (cream sauce) and gluten (pasta). He gave her my phone number and she started- unsolicited- texting me alternatives that I should change my wedding menu to.”
The OP is debating whether or not to comply.
“I sympathize with Lisa, it is hard to have dietary restrictions. But changing an entire menu just for her doesn’t work.”
“The only vegetarian options we were given by the caterer all include pasta, and I am having a hard time finding ANYTHING that would fit for her special dietary restrictions but still serve the needs of other guests.”
“WIBTA if I didn’t change my wedding menu just for her?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some couldn’t get over her audacity, since she’s a plus-one guest.