As an older teen, the sudden arrival of a newly born sibling can definitely bring some upheaval.
Sure, babies are cute and all, but it’s a major adjustment to live among an infant and the parents tasked with dedicating attention and energy to that infant.
But a recent post on the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit outlined how, at least in one family, a whole additional layer of difficulty can arise with the birth of a new child.
The Original Poster (OP), using the anonymous RosieRoThrowaway username, explained the particular area of difficulty right in the post’s title.
“AITA for not wanting my sister to be named like me?”
OP began by explaining her own upbringing.
“Didn’t want this on my main. I’m honestly really confused about if i’m being an a**hole or not.”
“I [18-year-old female] have never had a close relationship with my dad.”
“My parents didn’t want to have children but a mistake happened, i do have his last name but he was never present in my life until last year and i’m currently staying with him.”
Recently, a couple new, huge developments occurred.
“My dad has a new wife and i met her last year, we don’t really like each other.”
“Now she is pregnant, the baby will be born in June around my birthday.”
Then OP got right into the issue at hand.
“My name is Roseanne and as i said, i have my dad’s surname.”
“My dad is super excited about this baby which i guess is good but him and his wife want to name the baby Roseanne since her favourite flowers are roses.”
“I don’t like the idea at all. It will be my exact name and surname.”
But her parents were standing firm.
“I usually go by Ro or Rosie but i still dislike the name idea. I suggested other similar names, the most obvious being Rose but they don’t like anything at all.
“My step mom says that i’m being selfish because i’m ‘jealous’ of my dad wanting this baby.”
“My dad is upset at me and says i should be mature and not gatekeep a name.”
“I honestly don’t know who is in the right in here. AITA?”
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Most Redditors immediately threw their support behind OP. And it didn’t take much analysis for them to conclude what they felt was going on here.
“NTA. And this is a huge red flag about what’s your standing in your dad’s view. This naming highly suggests he’s seeing the baby as his chance to correct the mistakes he made with you. She’s to be your replacement.”
“I honestly think you should start preparing to move out and be independent” — Arrasor
“NTA. Low-key sounds like the stepmom wants to replace you lol.”
“Your dad would have two daughters named ‘Roseanne Smith’ and that’s pretty fu**ing weird. Even if you have different middle names. It would be less weird if it was a cousin. But it’s your half-sister.”
“There’s a billion other names. They can find another one. Give the baby the middle name of Rose or something instead.” — Tvoja