There are painful things a child shouldn’t have to experience. Losing a parent, especially early on, can be devastating for emotional development.
So when Reddit user throwaway81047 found out her new stepsister lost her mother when she was born, she felt bad for her. As time went on, however, the original poster (OP) became less sympathetic.
After a few years, OP finally lashed out and now asks the subReddit “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) if she was wrong to react as badly as she did.
“AITA for telling my stepsister she can’t keep using the death of her mother as an excuse for everything?”
Her story goes:
“So I (F[emale] 18) live with my brother (M[ale] 19), my mom, her husband, and his daughter (f[emale] 18).”
“My stepsister’s mom passed away during childbirth. From what I’ve been told, she never had a mother figure in her life.”
“I felt for her, I really did. But around 16, it got really old when she got away with sh*t because she used the death of her mom as an excuse.”
“My mom remarried when I was 13 btw”
“It turned from small things she got away with to larger things. For instance, when we were 14, she completely trashed my room after she lost in a game of uno.”
“Everything in my room from posters to my bed sheets were ruined.”
“Her dad gave me $10 and said I shouldn’t take it to heart because she was upset from not having a mother figure.”
“Another one, my brother got his first car at 17 and she wanted him to take her to see friends, go shopping, just treat him like a personal Uber. He said no so she scratched it up with a something and it was ruined.”
“Again, my mom and her dad said ‘she’s just not in the right mindset because she misses her mom’.”
“Today, my brother and I were going to see my dad for his birthday. We made a cake for him and got him a custom blanket with a picture of his dog who passed a few weeks ago.”
“As we’re getting ready to go, my stepsister complained to her dad about us getting to ‘leave out’ during the pandemic but she’s not allowed to see her friends.”
“We told her we were only going to see my dad and coming back and it was just the three of us not a large group of friends. She got mad and stormed off and we didn’t think much of it.”
“It was stupid of me but I left the blanket downstairs not thinking much about it and when I went back down, it had bleach on it and the cake was sort of smashed by a ketchup bottle in the fridge.(even tho it had a top over it)”
“I already knew it was her and asked wtf was wrong with her. Both my brother and I were upset and it just turned into a screaming match.”
“My mom came down to see what was happening and she started fake crying and said ‘it hurts seeing them get to visit their dad but I can’t visit my mom, I miss her so much it’s not fair’.”
“Surprisingly enough my mom got upset with her but her dad came in and told us it wasn’t a big deal and we could just get a new one he continued with ‘she just misses her mom a lot, cut her some slack’.”
“I finally lost it and told her she can’t keep using the death of her mom because it was not a valid excuse.”
“I kinda got into detail how she was just being a bitch and I was not letting this slide.”