Divorce is difficult. But the end of the relationship becomes significantly more difficult when you have a child involved.
If the parents want to remain involved, they have to make a lot of decisions they may not necessarily want to.
When Redditor homesituation was told his dad made a choice that would bring a dog into their home, despite the original poster (OP)’s severe allergy, he was understandably upset. But he wonders if he should have compromised on the situation.
To find out if he overreacted, he took his story to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit to be judged.
The OP asked:
“AITA for telling my dad I’m not staying at his house anymore if he don’t respect my dog allergies??”
He laid out what happened.
“My parents are divorced and they have split custody of me (16M[ale]). One week with mom then next with dad.”
“My dad started going out with his girlfriend Carla over a year ago and he said they all want to move in here.”
“Carla’s son Jr. is 13 and they said he has anxiety or something like that. And he has a dog that helps him be calm.”
“I have a bad dog allergy so whenever he was with them he always made sure that he cleaned himself so no dog hairs came back. So when he told me they’re gonna move in I asked what’s gonna happen to Jr.’s dog.”
“My dad looks at me and says ‘well he’s gonna be coming too.’ Right away my dad says they’re gonna keep him separated from me and he’ll mostly be in Jr.’s room so that he’s not near me.”
“But I said no way that can’t happen. My dad’s place is small.”
“Like I literally start wheezing, my eyes get red and puffy if I’m even in a same room as a dog. Plus a nasty rash.”
“It’s f**king hell and this is why I never go to friends house if they have dogs.”
“My dad really thinks we can make this work though and they can be careful having the dog in the house but I don’t wanna risk it.”
“He tried having a dog that his friend gave him once and it didn’t work. My dad says to please give it another shot and they really want to make this work.”
“So I think I could be the a**hole here because I got mad and told my dad no. And if he’s not gonna respect how serious my allergies are then I’m just going to my mom’s full-time and not stay here.”
“That made my dad really mad too because he says it’s not fair to threaten him with not seeing me anymore when he’s just trying to be happy he found a loving partner an I’m not willing to compromise.”
“So was I an a**hole for telling him I’m not coming back?”
On the AITA subReddit, people are judged for the choices they make in their story. This is done using one of the following verdicts:
- NTA – Not the A**hole
- YTA – You’re the A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
It’s really hard to fault someone, a child no less, for not wanting to live with an animal they’re severely allergic to.
Because of this, Redditors voted that OP was NTA.
“NTA. It’s fair. I’d rather you stay with your mom than die.”
“There’s is NO DOUBT in my mind the dog ‘staying in the room’ will not work out.”
“It’s going to get out. Not to mention the hairs that will be on everyone. Doggo won’t even try to harm anyone, but just by being a dog it will roam and wander.”
“And if dad keeps the pup locked up, then he’s an a hole anyways.” – DippedChurro