Vacations are suppose to be a time of fun and relaxation.
You’re finally able to escape the daily chore of life.
Live it up.
But apparently vacations can also be one of the most stressful times of life as well.
Case in point…
Redditor ThrowRAeconomy550 wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback. So naturally, she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
She asked:
“AITA for returning home after I found out that my husband booked 1st class for him and his friend while I got economy?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“My husband and I (30s) haven’t been on a trip (out of the country) for years.”
“While he goes every year with his best friend.”
“His reasons for going with him is because they both go to attend sporting events.”
“This year, my husband told me I could go with him and his friend since they were visiting a new destination.”
“He paid for my ticket and everything else since I’m a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) and have no job.”
“the kids were left with my mom.”
“However… when I found out that he had booked 1st class for himself and his friend while I got economy; I just couldn’t hold my tongue.”
“I confronted him about it and he at first refused to discuss it.”
“Then when the argument got heated he yelled ‘I PAID FOR YOUR TICKET!!! ISN’T THAT ENOUGH???'”
“Then kept on about how I should stop acting like I was ‘royalty’ and that if I come to think about it, even economy is fine for me since I ‘technically’ don’t work anyway.”
“I cried because of what he said but decided to just not go altogether.”
“He changed his tone and started begging me to just go with what he planned but I declined.”
“I went to pick the kids from my mom’s house and he came back 3 hrs later huffing and puffing about what happened.”
“His friend sent me a text calling me entitled, and said this was the reason why he didn’t want my husband to take me with them and I just proved his point.”
“I did not respond but I blocked him since he’s gotten increasingly rude over the past few months.”
“He (my husband) said I keep crying about being excluded and this is what happens when he finally decides to include me.”
“By the way he’s perfectly capable of financing the trip.”
“AITA for not settling for economy?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA?:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared our OP was NOT the A**hole.
Let’s hear some thoughts…
“If you’re a SAHM then all the money he earns is SHARED FUNDS.”
“There is no ‘him’ paying, in fact you paid for his first class ticket as much as he paid for your economy ticket.”
“The level of disrespect is astounding.”
“Divorce him and get half plus alimony. NTA.” ~ RaysUnderwater
“This is like the AITA with the husband that wanted to make his wife sleep on the floor so he and his friend could have the bed in the hotel.”
“It wasn’t even supposed to be a friend’s trip the husband felt bad his friend was going through a tough time and invited and paid for his friend.”
“OP please divorce him and let him learn how much money you are entitled to.”
“In the meantime I say start billing him for the care of the kids, cooking, laundry, cleaning etc.” ~ InterestingTry5190
“AND where the hell does the friend get off texting the wife????!!!”
“In what world is THAT ok??!”
“The husband should have shut that s#!/ down.”
“Why did the friend feel comfortable enough to even do that?!”
“Because he’s the side bi/<# that’s why. And side pieces always feel like they have more authority than they do.”
“This ENTIRE s*ituation (not a typo) is beyond ridiculous and disrespectful.”
“OP, you and husband (hopefully soon to be ‘wasband’) chose TOGETHER for you to stay at home with children, and then he throws it in your face and uses it as a power play??!”
“NOPE!! So totally NTA.” ~ ChatChitFlipThatIsh
“I agree. For one, she just as much paid for the ticket as he if she’s SAHM.”
“Two if one of my friends reached out to my wife in a text that would be a little odd.”
“But if he started giving her opinions on what she should do/how she should feel.”
“I’d blow that friendship up.”
“Where does a friend get off with that behavior, if the friend isn’t running the whole thing.”
“Husband is a Bi5$h.” ~ jeepindave
“I get the guys trip thing a lot of my guy friends and my spouse all do guys trips annually but don’t invite the wife to make her feel like crap!”
“What a jerk. THE FRIEND?!?”
“Whoa – way too comfortable calling you entitled!!”
“So many lines crossed there.”
“You seem like you’re strong and smart/I also hate to beat the divorce drum but this is not a guy who respects you at all.”
“I think you will be happy pushing yourself out of this dynamic.”
“Being a SAHM means you will do just fine in court.” ~ candyjill18
“Came here to say this.”
“OP, I was once a SAHM in a financially and emotionally abusive marriage.”
“Leave him. File immediately.”
“File for support immediately (I didn’t, big mistake), and there are A LOT of remote jobs now.”
“There are more and more companies who are valuing single moms.”
“You were strong enough to leave the airport, you’re strong enough to leave this jerk.”
“Also, if you can before you leave, get every single piece of financial evidence that you can.”
“Statements, accounts, whatever. Whether or not they’re current.”
“If you can log on to accounts online, paper mail, anything.”
“You want as much proof as you can possibly find.”
“Put a freeze on your credit just in case he tries to mess with your credit rating as a means to keep you from doing anything.”
“Best of luck.” ~ gimmetots123
“And if he can afford a first class ticket?”
“He most likely has funds hidden.”
“OP shouldn’t even hint at divorce until AFTER she has all of his financial information tucked away somewhere outside of her house.”
“Not on her phone or her home computer where he can mess with anything.”
“OP should make copies of everything regarding his financials she can find and store it all at mom’s house.”
“She can file when he takes off with his bro again.”
“Been there, done this.” ~ Minkiemink
“This! This this this this!!!!!”
“If the family agreement is that your job is to stay home and care for the kids, then his money is 100% your money, too.”
“You are not entitled for expecting to be treated as an equal in the relationship.”
“This is 100% about being treated as an equal and instead your husband treats you like you don’t deserve nice things because you are not a wage earner.” ~ thingsarelookingup2
“Is your husband having an affair with his friend?”
“Why is his friend so rude to you and why is friend being treated like the spouse in this situation??”
“Whether or not he’s having an affair he’s definitely shown you how he feels about you. NTA.” ~ Crlady
“NTA of he’s going to control your life with money like this tell him it’s time for him to pay for daycare so you could get a job.”
“You’re married and stay home to watch his kids so it is not only his money.”
“Ask him if he would rather pay child support.” ~ AardvarkDisastrous70
“NTA. Sounds like your husband is more interested in keeping an unpaid nanny/caretaker rather than a wife/partner/equal.”
“OP, do you have the option to become more independent in your marriage?”
“Perhaps get a job/side hustle to earn money etc?”
“Do you have a separate savings account?”
“Who handles all the money in the relationship?”
“Do you have your own social circle that your husband doesn’t interfere with?”
“You don’t have to answer these questions to me, but please take a long, hard look at your relationship from all these perspectives, and if it comes down to it, please walk away.”
“We all deserve love and respect in any and every relationship.”
“If this post is a reflection of how your husband treats you on the daily basis, please please walk away.” ~ anon_user77
“This is such a good response.”
“The only other thing I could add would be to make a written list for yourself of the positives and negatives in this relationship.”
“Sometimes seeing it in writing helps you realize either how much better it is or how much worse.”
“And if your husband thinks as a SAHM he is doing you some huge favor because HE supports you, then go get yourself a job and let him deal with finding day care, someone to clean and do laundry as well as cook the meals.”
“Then he might figure just who is actually entitled in the relationship. NTA.” ~ 3Heathens_Mom
Well OP… you have quite the situation before you.
Reddit is here and standing with you.
It maybe time for some difficult conversations and hard truths.
You deserve first class too.