While a marriage is the union of two people, both of those people also bring other people into their lives.
In addition to in-laws, this could also include children and pets.
Ideally, everyone will get along right from the get-go, but sadly the transition isn’t always easy.
In some particularly sad cases, these relationships remain fraught or acrimonious.
While Redditor Wise-Hall2842 got along well with her fiancé’s older daughter, she was having more trouble warming to his younger one.
Who, herself, had developed an outright hatred for the original poster (OP)’s cat.
So much so, that the young woman even made an effort to dispose of the poor creature, which needless to say did not sit well with the OP.
Putting her at odds not only with her future stepdaughter, but also her fiancé.
Wondering if she overreacted, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for kicking out my pregnant teenage step daughter over my cat.”
The OP explained how a lie her future stepdaughter told about her cat not only weakened their already tense relationship but also threatened her upcoming marriage.
“I’m at the vet waiting room with my cat so I’m gonna rush this and edit the grammar later.”
“So I (35 F[emale]) have been with my (45 M[ale]) fiancé for 3 years now.”
“He has two kids a daughter (22) who’s a lovely girl and another daughter (19) who I’ll call Kim for the sake of the post.”
“Kim has always had a bad attitude to everyone especially me.”
“Now before anyone assumes, my fiancé was already divorced his ex two years before we even met and his ex is a nice person who I get along with very well so there’s no hate from her end either.”
“Kim is 3 months pregnant and living with us because we have more room for her and the baby, the baby daddy stays sometimes but he has two jobs along with studies so it’s mainly been me who’s take care of her.”
“So the main issue today her boyfriend came over so my fiancé suggested we let them have the house to themselves and go for a walk.”
“About two hours later I came home and noticed my cat missing who Kim hated and wanted me to get rid of.”
“I asked her were he was Kim said she ran out the door which I knew was bullshit whiskey is an elderly cat who even wouldn’t go out on the porch if I didn’t bring him.”
“So I checked the ring camera, and as expected, Kim threw whiskey out that ran her off.”
“My fiancé tried saying Kim is pregnant, her hormones are all over the place and pregnancy brain messes with women that he was gonna bring up getting rid of whiskey for the baby’s sake anyway.”
“I was in tears till I looked over at Kim with a smug, satisfied look on her face I f*cking lost it.”
“I got up in her face and scream that she had one hour to find my cat or all her sh*t would be in the dumpster and I was done being her slave.”
“She said she wasn’t looking for my stupid cat and back off as she was pregnant, my fiancé told me to claim down, and we’d look for the cat.”
“I told him no I would look for my cat and when I got back his daughter better be gone and if he has issues he could go too because I was sick of dealing with his little b*tch of daughter who everyone including her own parents and boyfriend avoids.”
“I didn’t wait for them to respond I did hear her crying tho, as you know, I found my cat he was hiding in some bushes it took 20 long minutes to find him.”
“When I arrived home they were both in the living room my fiancé said he wanted to talk but first he said I owed Kim an apology.”
“I told him f*ck himself and she better start packing.”
“She’s at her boyfriends family home as far as I know and my fiancé is not talking to me.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
The Reddit community unanimously agreed that the OP was not the a**Hole for kicking Kim out of her house.
Everyone agreed that Kim’s behavior was inexcusable, and her being pregnant in no way justified what they believed was blatant animal cruelty, with others equally surprised how the OP’s fiancé defended Kim.
“Replace them all with cats.”- AttorneyLarge7301
“Pregnancy hormones do not cause you to be cruel to an elderly pet.”
“That’s just vicious entitlement and garden-variety meanness.”
“You don’t owe her an apology.”
“She should be begging for your forgiveness, and so should your (ex) fiancé.”-Bubbly_Chicken_9358
“First, thank goodness you found him!”
“Also, your- (ex?) fiancé wanted to tell you to dump your senior cat for his daughter?”
“Sounds like he is ITCHING to get his own house and take care of her for the next -7 months!”
“If someone did that to my elderly cat I would not be responsible for my actions.”
“And this person is going to be responsible for a child in a few months?”- Sekhmetdottir
“Why does Kim need looking after?”
“She’s pregnant, not ill, of course she can go out and look for a cat.”
“As you own the house perfectly reasonable to get rid of her after despicable behavior to an animal.”
“Your fiancé needs to take a long hard look at himself defending her sh*t behavior as hormones.”
“And also he thinks getting rid of the cat because of the baby is ok, just no.”- dazed1984
“My grandma always told me to judge someone on the way they treat animals.”
“And I read your update and that tell you a lot about the character of that man.”
“Good for you for calling it off.”- Dacookies
“Stepdaughter attacked your defenseless cat and got what she deserved.”
“Curious if you own the house?”- Walktothebrook
“F*ck your fiancé, if he thinks you owe evil pregnant teenager an apology, you need to rethink your engagement.”- MoondoggieSB
“You fiancé’s mind is totally misguided and the fact you still call him your fiancé after seeing that he agrees with his daughter about getting rid of the cat AND ASKS FOR YOU TO APOLOGIZE?!”
“Cut your losses and move out (if it’s your house then kick their rears out).”- KyotoDreamsTea
“Throwing an elderly cat outside could have been a death sentence for your cat.”
“With the way your fiancé reacted, I couldn’t continue that relationship.”
“Pets give you so much, too abandon them in their twilight years is a very cruel thing to do.”
“The stress your baby went through breaks my heart.”
“The fact your fiancé didn’t have empathy for your cat is a problem I don’t see how you get over since he wanted to keep the person who wanted to see your cat dead.”
“Throw the whole family out.”- l3ex_G
The OP later returned with an update, specifically sharing her decision regarding her wedding.
“So my now ex-fiancé’s oldest daughter reached out to me to ask my side.”
“I’ll call her Kate. She’s an animal lover like myself.”
“Her father asked to stay with her for a few nights because he said I was having a breakdown over my cat he basically made out the cat escaped and I went after ‘pOoR’ Kim for not trying to catch him her condition.”
“Kate is a very smart girl. She can see bullsh*t from a mile away, and obviously she knows her own sister so she called Kim to ask her side.”
“Kim was more honest basically she and her dad planned it as some of you suggested the plan was for her baby daddy to take the cat out a road dump, but he wouldn’t do it because in Kim’s words, he was a ‘p*ssy’ so they got in a fight about it and Kim thankfully being lazy just kicked whiskey out and ran him out of the yard.”
“Kate told me the way Kim’s talking about me and whiskey, even if she doesn’t move back, she’ll do something for revenge on whiskey.”
“So I’ve decided to listen to Kate, my friends, the vet, his assistant, and everyone here and I called off the wedding, which is in a few weeks, and broke up with my ex-fiancé by text.”
“I don’t give a f*ck if it’s immature or cruel I’ve told him I’ll box up his stuff for him and leave it for him to collect in a few days.”
“Don’t worry about whiskey. I told my ex to call me when he’s coming over so he’ll be locked in a room safe, and I’m calling a 24-hour lock smith next.”
“The begging and bullsh*t promises have already started, but my mind is made up. I’m done being his ATM slave for him and his spoiled b*tch of a daughter (Kim).”
“Whiskey is fine, btw just a little shaken, but he’s curled up in my lap, refusing to move.”
It’s of course sad that it should have to come to this.
But if Kim was willing to throw Whiskey out with no remorse, and the OP’s fiancé didn’t see anything wrong with that, it’s hard to think this marriage was going to work out.
One also can’t help but wonder, and worry, about what kind of mother Kim is going to make.
Hopefully, she will do a lot of growing up before her child is born.