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Woman Confronts Sister At Party For Secretly Posting Sl*t-Shaming Comments On Her Instagram

One woman yelling at another young woman.
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One should always be cautious when choosing what to post online.

Even if you have regrets and take it down, you might not have taken it down fast enough to avoid someone seeing it, taking a screenshot, and spreading it around.

For this reason, many people use a throwaway account or alias when posting online, be it on a social media platform or merely in the comments section, choosing to remain anonymous.

The only way to remain anonymous is to ensure that no one else knows your online alias or throwaway account.

Redditor NoCity6882 was a bit shocked and disturbed to find a series of pictures she posted on Instagram were met with some shocking, derogatory comments.

The original poster (OP) was even more upset when she discovered that these comments were made by her sister using a throwaway account.

When her sister refused to talk about this matter privately, the OP refused to sit still and remain silent.

Wondering if she went too far, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:

“AITA for telling my whole family that my sister anonymously posts sl*t-shaming comments on my Instagram pictures?”

The OP. explained why she had zero regrets about starting a small scene at a recent family dinner:

“I (25 F[emale]) post a lot on IG.”

“I get some slut-shaming comments here and there, but I always brush them off as trolls or bitter people.”

“I was at a large family gathering Saturday night.”

“My cousin (16 F[emale]) and my sister (28 F[emale]) were looking at Instagram on their phones.”

“My cousin noticed that my sister has multiple accounts since she has a drop-down menu button next to her username at the top.”

“She clicked on it and asked my sister what’s [alternate account username] for.”

“My sister looked flustered and said her friend set that up on her phone for some reason.”

“That username set off alarm bells.”

“I went to one of my IG posts to check the comments and my suspicion was confirmed.”

“That account wrote so many slut-shaming comments on nearly every one of my pictures.”

“Here are a few examples of the comments: ‘f**k you sl*t’, ‘ew plastic everywhere’, ‘water balloons on an emaciated girl lol’.”

“I’m sad and surprised about this because my sister had been nothing but supportive and complimented me all the time.”

“I looked at my sister and she was looking tense.”

“She didn’t make any eye contact with me for several minutes.”

“I was debating whether to out her in front of everyone or have a private conversation.”

“I chose the latter.”

“I asked her if I could see her outside.”

“She said she had to use the restroom right that moment.”

“I’m sure she was going to go in there and either delete those comments or that alternate account.”

“So I resorted to outing her while there was still evidence.”

“I asked her loudly why she wrote so many mean comments on my IG posts.”

“She was hesitating big time and said her friend must have commented with that account.”

“I seriously doubt it.”

“I showed everyone some comments she wrote.”

“I asked my cousin to confirm if that’s the username she saw on my sister’s phone.”

“She confirmed.”

“Everyone was enthralled in the drama.”

“My mom asked my sister to tell us the truth, but my sister maintained her claim.”

“I asked everyone who they thought really made those comments.”

“About half the people agreed that the evidence points to my sister being guilty.”

“The other half were silent.”

“My sister called us all morons, stormed out the door and drove away.”

“This was the main topic for the rest of the night.”

“Everyone consoled me.”

“It’s been over a day and we still haven’t heard anything from my sister.”

“I didn’t try to reach out.”

“Mom and dad both tried to reach her to no avail.”

“I think I might even cut her out of my life if I don’t get a sincere apology.”


Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:

  • NTA – Not The A**hole
  • YTA – You’re The A**hole
  • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
  • NAH – No A**holes Here

The Reddit community unanimously agreed that the OP was not the a**hole for exposing that her sister posted sl*t-shaming comments about her.

In addition to finding the actions of the OP’s sister shockingly immature, everyone agreed that since she was going to make no effort to apologize, making her actions public was a more than fair thing to do, with several urging the OP to follow through with her instincts in cutting her sister out of her life completely.


“You tried to deal with it privately, but she wouldn’t engage.”

“And it did need challenging.”

“And, tbh, without a public apology (because what she did was public) and an explanation, I think you’d be right to go no contact.”- GodIsAGas

“You put it all out there, showed the evidence, and let the chips fall where they may.”


“Your sister’s reaction?”

“Well, let’s just say it speaks volumes.”

“Her denial and dramatic exit suggest she’s feeling the heat.”

“And now she’s gone MIA, over something she claims she didn’t do?”


“Nobody is believing her.”

“I hope your family takes your side.”- MyCouchPulzOut_IDont


“She’s 28 years old?”

“Her behavior seems like she’s still in high school.”- lemoncookiess


“She is 28 and still creates fake accounts to write those comments to her OWN sister’s post?”

“She most probably is jealous of you.”

“It must be a reason so I think you should talk about what she did.”- babyodasmm


“She knew she was caught and is running away from the consequences.”

“This is so messed up.”

“Sucks that this is all coming from your own sister.”- nadiyah98


“It appears you’ve learned your sister is sneaky and two-faced and she deserves to be found out.”-ColdstreamCapple


“You need to ask her why she did that to you, but do it in private or you may never get an answer.”

“It may be jealousy or just being mean, but it’s time to figure it out.”

“Sorry it happened to you.”- Less_Ordinary_8516


“The kind of mind games she was playing with that crap is frankly disgusting.”-  1Fair_Bet


“What’s wrong with a 28 year old that she behaves like she’s an 8th grade Mean Girl?”

“Does she have developmental challenges?”

“Not joking, honestly.”

“This is not grownup behavior.”

“Definitely want her in counseling to get to the root of the problem.”- Flimsy_Fee8449

“I had to go back and check the ages on your sister and cousin because this is the kind of behavior I’d expect from a 16 yo, not your 28 yo sister.”

“You’re NTA, but your sister most definitely is.”

“I’m sorry for the betrayal you’re experiencing.”- Sufficient-Living253


“I got scared by the title that your family got pissed you even called her out; thankfully, that wasn’t the case.”

“I can’t imagine commenting such sh*t despite being jealous, especially in terms of my family.”-kyspeter

“Block the alt account.”

“If it blocks her main too, you’ve got her.”

“Instagram blocks ALL the accounts associated with someone’s phone or email address.”

“I had a business account under a different number and email but was logged into both on my tablet.”

“Since both were connected by a device, when someone blocked one account, both were blocked.”

“NTA.”- Creative_Drawing_282


“your sister f8cked around and got found out!”- Comfortable-Sea-2454


“I’d cut her out of your life.”

“Report that account.”

“Block that account.”

“I’m not usually quite so black and white about things, but she’s very cruel and malicious.”

“She’s not going to change.”

“All she’ll do is lie to you.”

“She’s been lying to you for a long time.”

“Cut the very toxic people out of your life.”

“It took me too long to get there, but I’m much happier now no more emotional abuse from others.”-Photography_Singer


“Maybe from now on your sister can learn to stop being an a**hole.”

“If not, just cut her out of your life to avoid dramas and troubles.”- GuestDiamond

“NTA I’m sorry that your sister is jealous of you.”- 3bag


“Your sister is jealous, and has only poisonous envy towards your existence.”

“People who’ve let themselves become that mean and behave like that are way off into the deep end and very unlikely to be reasoned with.”

“She’s got to have the ‘aha, I’m the problem’ moment by herself now.”

“Great that you confronted her!”

“Just don’t waste your life doing what she did, so don’t start badmouthing her.”

“Be the bigger, better person and live your life kindly and with awesomeness.”

“If she ever apologizes, great.”

“But don’t wait for it.”

“She may be too far gone – too delulu, as they say – to ever be able to see you as anything but an enemy to her existence.”

“Sorry.”-  FishyWishyDishwasher

The fact that the OP’s sister was doing her best to cover her tracks makes it painfully clear that she knew what she was doing was wrong.

And yet rather than apologize, she decided to make every effort to distance herself from her actions, even going so far as to call her family “morons”.

Drastic though it may be, it’s hard not to agree with the OP that this sort of behavior more than justifies cutting her sister out of her life completely.

Written by John Curtis

A novelist, picture book writer and native New Yorker, John is a graduate of Syracuse University and the children's media graduate program at Centennial College. When not staring at his computer monitor, you'll most likely find John sipping tea watching British comedies, or in the kitchen, taking a stab at the technical challenge on the most recent episode of 'The Great British Baking Show'.