Choosing a name for a child is never as easy as anyone might hope.
Even if you’ve always had a name you hoped you might give your child one day, your partner might be as excited by the name.
And it may take many rounds of discussing options before a mutually agreed-upon name is decided.
Made even more complicated by the completely unwanted opinions of friends and family.
Upon learning the gender of their unborn child, Redditor throwaway719201 and her husband came to an agreement as to what her name would be.
The happy couple was very excited to share this decision with their friends.
Unfortunately, the original poster (OP)’s sister was much less excited about their chosen name than they were.
After the OP’s sister left no uncertainty in her disapproval of this name, the OP and her husband felt compelled to kick her sister out of her baby shower.
Concerned she may have been out of line, the OP took to the subReddit “Would I The A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:
“WIBTA if I give my daughter an ‘outdated’ name?”
The OP explained why she was anything but appreciative of her sister’s feedback regarding her chosen baby name:
“I (32 F) am currently 7 months pregnant and we were told by the doctor that it’s going to be a girl, so me and my husband (33 M) have been thinking of names until we decided on a name we like.”
“We decided to name her ‘Audrey’ and when I told everyone at the baby shower, one of my sisters told me it was an ‘outdated name’ and that she’d get bullied for having a name like that.
“Which is funny because she wanted to name her daughter ‘Ashhliegh’ pronounced as ‘Ashley’ before her husband stopped her.”
“After a while of her making comments about the name we eventually just kicked her out of the shower and I blocked her on all social media’s when she kept messaging me telling me to change the name.”
“So Would I Be The A-hole if I name my daughter Audrey?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community overwhelmingly agreed that the OP would not be the a**hole to name her child Audrey.
Everyone agreed that the OP and her husband were the only two people who had any say in what their child’s name should be, and the OP silenced her sister as was necessary:
“I imagine your sister is still pissed about being told ‘Ashhliegh’ was stupid and was prepared to criticize any baby name you suggested.”
“NTA.”- LissaBryan
“NTA.”
“Audrey is a beautiful name, and while I’m sorta old, I’m not that old.”
“Besides, do you really want to take advice from someone who’d name their kid ‘Ashhliegh’?”-Zazzog
“NTA.”
“Audrey is not a bad name, nor is it outdated.”
“‘Ashhliegh’ on the other hand, is a true tragedeigh.”- ShadowBound13
“NTA.”
“Outdated or timeless?”
“The first person I think of when I hear ‘Audrey’ is Audrey Hepburn.”
“And who wouldn’t want to be like Audrey Hepburn?”
“Audrey also feels along the same lines as Emily.”
“I think that’s a beautiful name.”
“It’s especially awesome that you and your husband agreed on it.”
“I wouldn’t take naming advice or put much stock into someone who was going to name her kid a tradgedeigh name.”
“Now THAT would get her kid bullied or her kids hating the name.”- ClaireL58
“Not sure where you’re located, but in the U.S., Audrey is currently a top 100 name and has been for over 20 years!”
“If anything, it’s minorly trendy at the moment.”
“NTA.”
“And you wouldn’t be even if it was outdated.”- AtlanticToastConf
“NTA.”
“Audrey is a classic name.”
“It will never go out of style.”- Eastern_Condition863
“NTA.”
“But you would be if you named your daughter ‘Ashhliegh’.”-Â AngelaMoore44
“NTA.”
“Never take baby naming advice from a woman who can’t spell her kids name right.”
“Audrey is not a name I would have gone for but there is unlikely to be another in her class, it’s spelled right, and she will find it easier to get a job in 20 years than her cousin will.”
“Congrats on the new baby.”
“I hope her life if filled with health, luck, and happiness.”- SockMaster9273
“NTA.”
“The baby is going to be your daughter, not your niece, so obviously you should be able to choose the name.”
“Also, Audrey is a beautiful name, and I’m half-wondering if your sister wanted to keep that name for another daughter, if she has one, especially as she’s expressed a predilection for A-names.”-EngineerRare42
“NTA at all Audrey isn’t outdated wtf it’s classic!”- Hunnybunny843
“Your sister is an idiot.”
“Audrey is lovely.”
“She’s probably trying to stir up drama because (thankfully) she didn’t get her way with her own kid’s name.”
“NTA.”- FeralWineSips
“NTA.”
“Audrey is a beautiful name.”
“Some old-fashioned names don’t age well.”
“My grandmother and two great aunts were Elva, Edith and Edna.”- hissyfit64
“NTA.”
“Gertrude, Ethel, Mabel, Edith, Agatha, those are outdated.”
“Audrey is not.”
“I know lots of Audreys born after the mid 1980s.”- mooseplainer
“NTA.”
“I’ve met little kids named Audrey and they are not bullied.”
“Honestly the name is SO outdated that little kids probably don’t even know any old people named Audrey.”
“This is how the cycle goes.”
“In the 90s, people thought Emily was an old-fashioned name because that was a common name among little old ladies and no one else.”
“Then there was a boom of interest and suddenly every little girl was named Emily.”-PromiseThomas
“NTA.”
“It’s your baby, you get to pick the name.”
“Audrey is a great name.”
“Audrey Hepburn.”
“The plant from ‘Little Shop of Horrors’.”
“Audrey Tatou.”
“If I had a girl (or kids at all), I would have named her Eleanor, which is a very old name.”- tidymaze
“Like i’d understand if it was Gertrude or Mildred, but Audrey seems fine to me.”
“NTA.”- slitbodmodthe1st
“NTA!”
“I don’t think Audrey is an outdated name at all!”
“It seems pretty timeless to me.”- lady-earendil
“NTA lol.”
“It’s not outdated – it’s a classic, normal name.”
“It’s a name that will suit a baby but also a respectable adult 40 years from now.”- graveyard_baker
“NTA.”
“Outdated names are very in right now.”
“Also cowboy names for some reason?”
“As long as it isn’t spelled stupidly, or a blatant homage to your nerd fixation, you do you, the only people who’s opinions matter are you and the other parent.”- Music_withRocks_In
“NTA.”
“Your sister sounds obnoxious.”- hrhRSB0118
“NTA.”
“It’s a timeless name.”- sweetnsassy924
“NTA.”
“Audrey is a beautiful name!”
“I have a coworker named Audrey in her thirties and think it’s so classic, classy, and timeless with a modern twist.”- Eastern-Mango578
“Audrey is a beautiful name.”
“Classic, not outdated.”
“It reminds me of Audrey Hepburn.”
“NTA.”- Moose-Live
“NTA.”
“Your sister sounds insufferable.”
“Don’t trust her taste in names.”- extremelysour
“Obviously NTA.”
“Audrey is a classic name.”
“It’s not even obscure.”- gcot802
“Audrey has been ranked in the top 100 girl names for at least the past 5 years.”
“It’s not ‘outdated’, it’s timeless.”
“NTA.”- seecarlytrip
“NTA.”
“I wonder if she’d like it better if you spelled it Awdreigh.”- deathkat4cutie
“NTA.”
“That’s a perfectly normal, cute name.”- Pys70ph
“NTA.”
“Audrey is a great name.”- Calanion
“NTA.”
“I interacted with a young child named Audrey at my job the other day.”
“It’s a perfectly normal, modern name.”- imriebelow
“NTA.”
“First of all, don’t let other people influence decisions like this.”
“It’s not like you’re naming her Pilot Inspector or Apple.”
“Secondly, I have a friend named Audrey.”
“It’s not outdated.”
“Maybe a little old-fashioned but I think that’s back in style anyway.”- astrocanyounaut
“NTA.”
“We have an Audrey in our neighborhood!”
“She’s 7, and I think it’s a beautiful name.”
“Name your child what you want to name her.”
“Both of my kids’ names were kept secret until they arrived for this reason.”
“Everyone has an opinion on names and it’s harder to express it when the child is here and already named.”- MimiDu2123
“NTA.”
“I’m a current high school teacher, and Audrey is not an outdated name, but also, many names that are considered outdated are coming back, and I’m all for it!”
“For the record, I love the name Audrey.”
“I’m not a name expert, but I’ve seen so many as a teacher, and I really do love the one you picked.”
“Congratulations on your pregnancy and picking a gorgeous name!”- This-Patient4772
Everyone is entitled to their opinion.
That doesn’t mean that everyone wants or needs to hear it, though.
Seeing as the OP showed her sister how much her opinion wasn’t appreciated by kicking her out of her baby shower, it’s hard to imagine why the OP’s sister then felt it was a good idea to bombard her with messages.
The OP’s sister may want to consider making amends, unless she wants to be blocked from a lot more than her sister’s social media…