Living with a partner can be a challenging experience, and sometimes your partner’s bugaboo can become just a bit too much to handle.
A guy on Reddit found himself in this situation when his girlfriend began constantly complaining about and criticizing his cooking. So he went to the AITA (Am I The A**hole) subReddit for some perspective.
The Original Poster (OP), who goes by the name theomelette_ on the site, asked:
“AITA for refusing to make anymore meals for my girlfriend after she kept complaining about my cooking?”
He explained:
“Things have been great with my girlfriend for the most part. We (28F[emale], 26M[ale]) have been together 4 years and living together for 2. Lately there’s been some tension so I feel like maybe that’s why things may have boiled over.”
“We both work a lot, so we have both been very cranky and moody. Especially my girlfriend who’s snapped at me a few times and been in a really bad mood.”
“For the past few days what’s really set her off is my cooking. I’m usually the one making breakfast, packing our lunches, and dinner.”
“Literally anytime Ive been at the stove, she complains about how bad the smell is and gives me crap about using stuff that has obviously gone bad according to her. Or saying it tastes like shit, won’t even finish eating.”
“This has pissed me off. I’m not a chef but I do pride myself in my cooking and she’s talking about how bad my food is. I’ve had my coworkers try my lunch and they tell me it taste just fine.”
“I figured with all the stress she’s under at work she probably needed an outlet to let out her frustration. And maybe that’s why she’s giving me shit about simple things. I don’t know.. But I snapped a little this morning when again she complained about the omelette I was making us.”
“So I actually dumped the eggs in the trash, told her she can make her own damm breakfast for herself then and I’m not cooking for her anymore if she’s gonna keep acting spoiled about what I make.”
“We ended up having an argument over this and we left for work mad. Anyways my girlfriend didn’t come home and her sister called me.”
“My girlfriend’s mad at me and her sister thought I was being dick for reacting so immaturely by refusing to cook for her anymore when I know she works a lot; so sometimes she doesn’t have the time to prep her own meals.”
“Idk why this was turned into a bigger deal but here I am sitting at home wondering if I was being an a**hole for losing my cool and telling her I’m not cooking for her.”
“Just didn’t think it’s fair for her to be talking sh*t about my cooking when she never has before and thought well if she doesn’t like it, then she can take over the kitchen.”
“Was I an a**hole?”
OP’s fellow Redditors were asked to judge who was in the wrong here based on the following categories:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Nearly everyone was on OP’s side, but many questioned whether something else might be going on here.
“…Are you sure she’s not pregnant?” —SnowFallenMemories
“Pregnancy was my first thought as well.. my sense of smell is insane already and was even worse when i was pregnant. Some of the things i used to really enjoy made me feel seriously ill for a long while.” —singing_stream
“I was about to say this! This is a very recent issue, so it seems logical that something like pregnancy is messing with her sense of taste and smell.” —lorelorelei
“I thought that too. My husband put a pizza in the oven with some blue cheese on it and I threw up then made him throw it away and take me out to eat. I never had that reaction except when pregnant but I could not even be in the same house with the smell until the house was aired out.”
“He thought I was crazy but he accepted it because I was deadly serious. You should ask her if it is a possibility.” —alpacaboba
“Im a guy, but that is absolutely what i thought of first too. It really familiar to my experience with a pregnant lady in the house.” —prismaticumbrella
OP came back with an update.
“UPDATE: Well sh*t this is way too many responses for me 😅😅 Most of it pointing out some obvious sh*t that didn’t even hit me until y’all mentioned it.”
“It was super late when I posted this and I was gonna wait until morning to talk to her. I had a missed call from my girlfriend so I called her back.”
“Totally different tune this time. My girlfriend was really apologetic about the way she was acting and didn’t realize how much of a ‘b1tch’ she was being (her words not mine I swear) until she talked more with her sister.”
“Apparently her sis didn’t have the full details of the fight. My girlfriend was just extremely upset and while she told her what we fought about, I guess the state my girlfriend was in at the moment made her think the fight was a lot bigger than it actually was. Hence her reaction.”
“She didn’t know this was going on for days until they talked about it last night. Even her sister was like ‘seriously?’ Yeah that helped her see how sh*tty she was being towards me. Her sister also apologized to me btw.”
“I said my piece to her. It wasn’t cool being used as her punching bag and I don’t deserve that kind of disrespect from her.”
“Especially when I’m here cooking meals for both of us. My girlfriend was really understanding of that and we both agreed to talk sh*t out instead of letting it all boil up to the point where we’re both snapping at each other.”
“Ok so getting back to what everyone’s been wanting to hear, my girlfriend got home and I decided to bring up her issues with the smell thing. Praying to God she wouldn’t rip my head off for implying she was only mad cause ‘hormones.'”
“Her reaction was priceless though because clearly she didn’t think about that either 😂 So yep we took a quick trip to CVS and got us a couple tests just to be sure.”
“We came home and…yep they’re positive!!”
“Holy f*ck I can’t believe you guys were right about that. I’m feeling like a bit of a dumba*s for not knowing that lol 😂 But anyways yeah we’re pregnant and freaked out/super excited. My girl for sure cried and ok, me too a little bit.”
“She’s calling her doctor to make an appointment though just to be sure but yeah for right now looks like we got a lil squish on the way and I can’t stop thinking about it. It’s too crazy”
“I know lots of you keep asking so there’s your update. This has been a fu*king rollercoaster….”
“Sent my girlfriend my post. She thanks everyone for pointing out the obvious and about how bad her behavior was towards me. Anyways she says you all are invited to the baby shower lol.”
Thankfully, this drama had a happy ending, and hopefully points toward an even happier future.