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Guy Furious After He Misses His Work Flight Because Spouse Refused To Pack His Bag For Him

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Everyone leans on their spouse or partner for help now and then, but sometimes a partner’s demands can cross a line.

This sort of situation resulted in conflict between a person on Reddit and their husband when he demanded they pack a suitcase for him and they refused, causing him to miss his flight.

The Original Poster (OP), who goes by LydiaBlue____ on the site, wasn’t sure about how they handled the situation, so they went to the AITA (Am I The A**hole) subReddit for input.

OP asked:

“AITA for causing my husband to miss his trip by not packing his bag despite him repeatedly asking?”

They explained:

“My husband travels for work every few months. He’s irresponsible with time and counts on others to do stuff for him using the ‘I’m tired’ excuse. He’s the breadwinner by the way!.”

“He had a business trip and the day of the trip he saw me carrying the laundry basket and said ‘hey can you pack my bag?’ I asked why he didn’t do it the night before and he said he was up all night playing fortnite. I asked why can’t he pack now and he replied ‘I gotta go catch up with the boys before I leave the country’.”

“I said no and that he should do it himself. He asked why not and I told him that I had to do the laundry then cook for the kids then help them with homework then wash the rugs then clean the messy bathroom then the playing room then work on my garden project. He stood there with his eyebrow lifted up as I went on. I suggested he stays home, pack his own bag and help around til it was time for his trip.”

“He didn’t like my suggestion and complained about missing the boys and wanting to see them one last time and say goodbye before he leaves. He begged but I said no. He then suddenly went inside the bedroom (I thought he was packing*??), grabbed his phone, keys and jacket and rushed out. I just went about my day.”

“It was 5 o’clock and he hadn’t returned yet. I was concerned thinking he had little time and still hadn’t packed yet. He returned home at 6 walked into the bedroom and started panicking asking why his bag wasn’t packed and ready yet. I told him he should ask himself since he stayed gone for hours.”

“He said he was counting on me to pack his bag and even sent me a text hoping I’d eventually do it. I didn’t see the text and even if I did. I never agreed so he shouldn’t have assumed I was going to pack his bag for him. He got upset and started packing. his stuff was all over the place and he couldn’t even find his papers. He was finally done and left.”

“I then got an angry call from him asking if I was happy. I said why what happened and he said he missed his flight…just like ‘I wanted’. He came home and lost it saying I cost him his business trip which supposed to earn him money and made him look unreliable/unprofessional and compromised his work after I refused to do him this small favor and pack his Goddamn bag.”

“I responded that he shouldn’t have hung out with his buddies literally hours before his flight but he said he believed this was done spitefully to get him to sit home with me. I was shocked. No words just shocked face. He called his friend saying his trip didn’t happen..then turned to me and said thanks to ME then proceeded to ask where they were going to meet for dinner.”

“He told me ‘no trip meaning I’ll be home for the next couple of weeks, isn’t that what you wanted?, Great we’ll both now stay home and wallow in misery, God bless!’ Then walked out.”

“AITA? He said I just caused him issues at work. Should I have packed his bag anyway?.”

“why he couldn’t be on the next flight?.”

“Because since he missed his flight that the company was paying for, he was required to pay for the other flight or not go. He refused to pay saying it wasn’t his fault anyway and decided to not go.”

Redditors were then asked to judge who was in the wrong in this conflict based on the follow categories:

  • NTA – Not The A**hole
  • YTA – You’re The A**hole
  • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
  • NAH – No A**holes Here

As you might guess, they were not at all on OP’s husband’s side.

“‘AITA? Should I have packed his bag anyway?'”

“No, but you should be packing his bags now. Tell him he can come home once he starts acting like an adult and showing you some respect.”

“Seriously NTA and I would consider counselling. (Even if the rest of your relationship is sound, he’s got a weird attitude and entitlement which would be better for everyone if he worked on)”Jennyther

“NTA, when he said that he’ll miss the boys I thought he meant your kids. When I learned that they were his friends I was stunned. He prioritized a gathering with his friends over packing for his trip.”

“He didn’t need so much time with them. He can’t blame you for that. You do a plethora of chores around the house and he expected you to pack his suitcase for him, it’s plain entitlement. You clarified to him that you aren’t going to do that, but he didn’t pack it anyway.”Compensate1995

“He’s treating OP like his maid/mother rather than partner. What grown up needs their suitcase packed by someone else?”Tanooki07

“Grown men wanting their mommy-wives to pack their bags is so so gross and weird. It takes like ten minutes to pack if you have clean clothes (which she provided for him!!). I’ve packed for my husband once in 15 years and that was because there was an emergency and he needed more clothes while out of town. I brought them.”Routine_AD2940

“Nah, the way he acts I would jump straight to divorce. It’s obvious that the husband doesn’t respect, love, or honestly even like his wife. What is the point of trying to go to counseling with this guy? For the kids?”

“He’s obviously not happy being around them either if he’s gone a lot and says that staying home with his wife and kids is ‘wallowing in misery.’ Throw the whole man away ASAP.”rmg418

Hopefully OP’s husband will learn from this.

Written by John Sundholm

John Sundholm is a writer, content producer and performer originally from Michigan. His writing has also appeared on YourTango, Delish and Medium, and he has produced content for NBC, The New York Times and The CW, among others. When not working, he can be found tripping over his own feet on a hiking trail while singing Madonna songs to ward off lurking bears.