When a health crisis strikes, the decision to go to the hospital can be a tough one.
The costs, the unique risks created by the current pandemic and the trauma of a hospital visit are all reasons people might hesitate to rush right over.
And yet, sometimes it just feels like the right move.
Recently, however, one Redditor found themself debating whether or not they were correct in deciding to bring their child to the hospital.
They, using the charged monicker mymilisinsane765554, discussed it in a post to the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit.
The Original Poster (OP) led with a title that didn’t give too much away.
“AITA for defying my mother in law?”
OP then began the post with some background about the medical issue at play.
“My seven year old son just developed an allergic reaction yesterday after dinner because his cousin accidentally fed him some peanuts, which is something he is highly allergic to.”
“He developed red rashes all over his body, and he told us he felt itchy.”
OP had to think fast.
“I decided to make the move to drive him to the nearest hospital, and it was at that moment I was stopped by my mother in law.”
“She told me that in the midst of this pandemic, it is unnecessary to pay a visit to the doctor, and that it’s putting us at risk of getting the [virus].”
“She said he can have some over the counter medication, sleep it off and it’ll be fine tomorrow. She backed her statement up with how it has happened before, (at that time we were unaware of his peanut allergy), he slept it off and he was fine the next day.”
OP, in the heat of the moment, was forced to consider their mother-in-law’s two cents.
“Now, I’ve heard of stories of how fatal an allergic reaction can turn out so obviously I wasn’t going to put my son’s life at stake just because my mother in law thinks she’s right.”
“I insisted on bringing my son to the hospital, and I did.”
But word spread quickly.
“At the hospital, my husband started sending me a chain of messages asking me why I humiliated his mother by not listening to her, that she sounded logical, and I was just being overly paranoid over an allergic reaction.”
“Apparently, my mother in law is now victimising herself, calling her sisters, crying and complaining about how I went against her wishes.”
“My husband who was working night shift even ended his work earlier just to go back home to appease his mother for my supposed defiance. He didn’t even ask about our child, or drop by at the hospital despite knowing we were there.”
OP found herself in a tough spot when she reflected upon the whole incident.
“The reason why I am starting to doubt my stance is because at the hospital, the paediatrician assured me that it’s just a common allergic reaction, that it wasn’t anything endangering.”
“Things are looking bad on me as a result; as if I was purposefully going against my mother in law because now, she was right about it.”
“AITA here? Should I have listened to her?”
“Now everyone’s turning their backs against me. The same applies to my husband.”
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Redditors were nearly unanimous in their support of OP.
They shared OP’s decision to treat this very seriously.
“NTA. Go to an allergy doctor and have your kid officially evaluated. Maybe-at this time-an epi pen would be good to have handy, too. Your whole family is a little to blasé about your kid.”
“Imagine the surprised Pikachu face on your MIL’s face if your kid’s throat swelled up and your kid suffocated. And peanuts, they should be banned from the house, in any form, for the foreseeable forever.” — Servantofbosco
“NTA you’re not a doctor, she’s not a doctor. You took him to a doctor. Jesus.”
“You had no way to know how severe that reaction would be and you played it safe, probably because you love your kid and would prefer to not have a funeral for him.”
“Your MIL is insane and a narcissist, your husband supports and enables her toxic behavior, even to the detriment of the health of your child.”