Mother-in-laws have a reputation for being overbearing. Often even well meaning advice, when unsolicited, can be hurtful and frustrating.
This goes even more when it comes to sensitive topics such as eating habits and weight—things most people do not want commentary on.
What would you do if you lost your temper after one too many bits of “helpful” advice or lecture sessions? One Redditor finally reached the boiling point.
Redditor petreservation turned to the “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for judgement on their own tense mother-in-law situation.
“AITA for telling my MIL she’s fat?“
The Original Poster (OP) explained the conflict with their mother-in-law:
“My MIL is a retired home economics teacher and extremely obese. I would guess she’s 5’0 and three hundred pounds. My kids and I are all a little scrawny, but active and eat fairly well.”
”Sometimes I allow them to have a soda when we go out to eat. Sometimes they don’t eat their veggies or finish their meals. I am half Asian so believe me, my parents were the same flavor of ‘you best finish this food we earned for you’ but they’ve chilled big time.”
”They don’t push their grandkids to finish or if they don’t want to eat green beans, it ain’t the end of the world. My MIL lectured me to no end about nutrition and how she raised my husband and his siblings. Her daughter is also morbidly obese.”
”I have said nothing until I finally lost it. I asked her if she honestly felt she was in a position to give me advice on eating.”
”Her response made me feel bad, she said she understands nutrition but is an emotional eater, a food addict. As is her daughter. And my husband told me I shouldn’t have said his mom was fat.”
“Am I the asshole? I feel like one, but then when I think of how much she lectures me, I feel justified.”
OP commented some more details after some questions.
“The big lecture I get is about how her family had to eat three square meals a day. Besides my husband, we are a family of snackers. She says all our snacking ruins our appetites and that’s why my kids won’t finish their dinner.”
”When I told her it’s because we get hungry, she said well, you young people have all this luxury we didn’t have and it’s all instant gratification. My husband does back me up and says that I have some kind of hypoglycemia (that’s not exactly true, but I do get faint if I don’t eat every couple hours).”
“It’s just always been a fine line of bullying and actual concern and I lost my temper.”
OP also clarified how the insult came into the conversation saying: