The most frustrating thing about health issues is the complete lack of control we have over them.
More often than not, we often find ourselves embarrassingly indisposed at the most inopportune of times.
Sometimes, we can at least level or hide these conundrums so that no one will notice.
In extreme cases, however, we might find the chances of being humiliated by a lack of bodily function far more than likely.
Redditor DiscussionMental7742 recently found herself in a somewhat sticky situation while visiting her boyfriend’s family.
Thankfully, the original poster (OP) had just what she needed to remedy the situation.
Unfortunately, the OP’s boyfriend was less than speedy in delivering this solution to her.
After her boyfriend accused her of mismanagement, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I the A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for expecting my bf to grab a bag for me.”
The OP explained how her boyfriend did anything but come to her rescue on a recent visit:
“I (20 F[emale]) was at my bf’s house (20 M[ale]) yesterday.”
“I’m on my period and keep a few tampons in my purse, but had a ton in the bag I brought over, along with my change of clothes.”
“When I went over I went to talk to his mom in the kitchen, and we talked for a few minutes and I left my bag there.”
“I went to his room and he was playing games at his desk and I was on his bed.”
“I started bleeding and went to the bathroom and realized I bled trough my underwear and a little trough my pants.”
“I checked my purse and saw I had no tampons as I forgot to refill it since I had filled the duffel bag, I realized I couldn’t just go to the kitchen as I now didn’t have pants and I couldn’t even leave the bathroom because someone might be there.”
“I called my bf and he told me to let him finish his game.”
“I asked him how long that would take.”
“He said that it would be like 20ish minutes till he could help me since him and his friends just got into a new game.”
“I asked if he expected for me to just wait cramping, in the bathroom him and his sister SHARE, for 20 minutes.”
“He told me that me not having tampons in my purse wasn’t his problem and that he wasn’t going to sell his game for me.”
“I said that he was being really mean.”
“When he finally came I told him I was upset that he made me wait and he told me that he didn’t know what I expected him to do and that I needed to manage myself better.”
“I said even if I did, I still would have bled trough, which is why I couldn’t leave.”
“He told me that I could have figured it out.”
“I told him that I literally couldn’t and he just said whatever and I went home a little after that and I’m starting to think that I could have planned a little better for it.”
“AITA?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community was in agreement that the OP was in no way the a**hole for expecting her boyfriend to bring her a tampon.
Pretty much everyone agreed that not only was the fact that her boyfriend prioritized gaming over her health and safety shocking, but was also grounds to end the relationship immediately:
“I think you made a typo.”
“This is your ex boyfriend, right?”
“NTA.”- littlebitfunny21
“‘He told me that me not having tampons in my purse wasn’t his problem and that he wasn’t going to sell his game for me’.”
“‘EWWW – honey, dump this AH already.”
“Find someone who genuinely cares about you.”
“His game can wait.”
“‘He told me that he didn’t know what I expected him to do and that I needed to manage myself better’.”
“FFS. Is the bar in hell?”
“NTA – but if you keep dating this guy, YTA to yourself.”- Discount_Mithral
“NTA.”
“Yes, you could have planned better, but we’ve all been there.”
“Making a mistake (thinking you had tampons in your purse) is not the same as being a cruel, insensitive, evil, obnoxious human being.”
“Your BF is a complete and total AH. He could give lessons in being a champion AH!”
“Does he always bully you into thinking that you are somehow to blame when he treats you like sh*t?”- kjaiwiz
“The fact he’s playing video games when you are over says enough.”
“I say this as a gamer myself.”
“Who has a gaming bf.”
“We don’t live together.”
“We game together, yes.”
“Sometimes (with emphasis on the sometimes) when we both have new games we are excited about, we game together on our own consoles.”
“I own a handheld emulator and a switch 2 I can bring along.”
“But you know, we are still together then, he’s not prioritizing his game.”
“We both idle equally often because we look at each other’s games.”
“What I wanted to say: your bf sucks.”
“I can’t imagine getting this treatment from my bf after making the effort to go to his place, gaming online and not even wanting to something that would take up 1-2min max.”
“NTA.”
“He’s immature.”- Aggravating-Nose1674
“NTA.”
“But he is.”
“He couldn’t even take 5 seconds to run to the kitchen or ask his mom who was in the kitchen to bring you your duffel and leave it outside the door if you were too embarrassed to see her.”
“She’s a woman with a daughter and has been there done that with her period.”
“She would have understood and probably chewed him out for prioritizing a game over his gf after helping you if she’d known.”- crab_ragoon
“If you not having a tampon handy is your problem, you never going over to his place again sounds like his problem.”
“That’s not a partner, that is someone who expects a lot and gives very little unless it happens to be convenient.”
“NTA.”- Grrrrr_Arrrrrgh
“NTA.”
“You deserve better.”
“He’s self absorbed and it looks like he rates his gaming and friends over you.”
“I’d be outa there.”- Jellyfish_Jambalaya
“You deserve better than this, girl! I would have broken up with him on the spot.”
“You are NTA, but he really is.”- Working_Cloud_909
“Girl, you can buy a rechargeable boyfriend that would treat you better.”
“NTA, but you will be to yourself if tou stay with someone like that.”- HoshiOdessa
“I would have phoned his mom from the bathroom and told her what had happened and that he wouldn’t get the bag so would she please bring it?”
“Let his mom give him sh*t and then dump his a**.”
“NTA of course.”- blood_bones_hearts
“NTA.”
“The only way to plan better for this situation is to watch those red flags from your hopefully soon to be ex.”
“He’s the only A-hole here.”- Lokis_Persephone
“NTA.”
“My husband is a gamer.”
“He loves his games.”
“They are important to him.”
“I try not to bother him.”
“I try not to even talk to him.”
“He’s a good person, he works hard, I let him enjoy his hobby.”
“Even after over 20 years of marriage if I tell him I need him to do something, he stops playing his fucking game.”
“He did that when we were young, too.”
“Because ANYTHING ELSE IS JUST WRONG.”
“Your partner is supposed to be the person you can count on for random sh*t like that. I’m not saying you gotta break up with him or anything, but I’m suggesting making him a temporary distraction before moving on to something better.”
“He’s not the person you want to build a future with.”
“Also – you should have told his mother what he did as you were leaving!”- Brave-Cheesecake9431
“NTA.”
“I would have called his mom from the bathroom next.”- BachThatThingUp29
“NTA.”
“While you can’t just pause an online game and come back later; in this instance, he could have just told his friends ‘brb’ and quickly grabbed it for you.”
“It sounds like it would’ve taken 2 seconds to get it and be back on the game.”
“It sounds like he either cares about the game too much or doesn’t care about you much.”
“I’d probably dump him, this pattern of behavior will continue and get worse if you let it.”- big_thunker
“A real man will understand that a period is a normal, uncontrollable bodily function, and you can’t help it.”
“Dump this guy he’s not worth your time.”
“And in case it’s not obvious.”
“NTA.”- runonia
That the OP’s boyfriend would prioritize ANYTHING over gaming is a red flag to begin with.
That he would prioritize gaming over helping his girlfriend in an extremely vulnerable position borders on unforgivable.
It wouldn’t be at all surprising to learn that the OP and her boyfriend are no longer together.
What is surprising is that the OP didn’t break up with him that night…