A father began losing patience after allowing his daughter and her fiancé—whom he is not particularly fond of—to live with him.
But he managed to find satisfaction when he witnessed the engaged couple get into a huge fight over a misunderstanding.
After standing by and watching their argument without intervening, Redditor Ridivoe visited the “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) subReddit and asked:
“AITA for not saying anything about the underwear?”
Let the Original Poster (OP) explain the garment he kept mum about.
“My 20 year old daughter and her fiancé are currently staying with us. I love my daughter but she is very difficult and I can’t stand her fiancé.”
“I gave them a deadline to move out because I can’t take this anymore.”
“They got into a massive fight the other day while my wife was out. I guess a pair of my wife’s underwear got in with their laundry and she thought he was cheating.”
“I think the fact she immediately jumped to cheating shows how bad their relationship is.”
“She was waving the underwear around and I recognized them because they had a floral print but I just let this ridiculous fight go on.”
“My wife came home after about thirty minutes and said they were hers. My wife asked if I didn’t realize they were hers and I accidentally laughed.”
“My daughter burst into tears and won’t talk to me. Her fiancé said we’re f’ked and left the house but my wife thought it was funny.”
Anonymous strangers on the internet were asked to weigh in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Redditors had no problem telling the OP YTA while laughing along with him.
“you might be the a**hole but i am LIVING for it.”
“edit: my personal verdict is YTA but I’d like to invoke Shitman v. Frickboy which states that in times of outlandish or otherwise infantile behaviour, a**holery may, subject to scrutiny, be permitted.” – whomst_jpeg
“If OP is an a**hole, then I totally am an a**hole too. This is hilarious.” – LazuliArtz
“swinging my underwear in solidarity.” – stegopteryx
“There should be a justified a**hole rating lol” – justauser34
“Priceless. YTA- but not as bad as it sounds.”
“Your daughter’s relationship might be doomed but not over the underwear. There’s some underlying problems there that are manifesting by the day.”
“YTA but that fatherly way who’s looking out for his daughter & having a good laugh at the boyfriends expense.” – 20MLSE20
“I’m laughing with OP, but I would have told him to f’k off if I had been his daughter.”
“Lol I’m leaning towards YTA, but let’s hope your daughter has enough previous respect for you to see your inappropriate reaction as a wake up call and ditch the boyfriend.” – ActuallyFire
Some Redditors thought this was a scenario in which ESH.
“ESH. Including me because I laughed too.” – alsbigdeal
“ESH. Everyone but the mom. Mom took ownership of the floral panties right away. ;)” – lakehermit
“ESH. Can’t complain about people fighting when you could have stopped it. But you don’t deserve to have an angry couple in your own home.” – perublanket39
“I’m stuck somewhere between ESH and NTA. It’s not your fight. Your daughter sounds like a piece of work, and it sounds like they have some serious issues.”
“However, you had the power to step in and easily resolve that specific conflict. Not to mention she was waving your wife’s underwear around the house.” – ThrowRA-shopping123
“I’d like to say it’s sad the daughter and her bf’s relationship is that bad, but I’m still smiling.”
“OP and his wife seem to have it right, though!” – tnscatterbrain
Others commented on the daughter’s immediate inclination to assume her fiancé was cheating.
“NTA, it’s not your fight either.
“Also it’s wild that your daughter would think that her fiance was bringing girls into YOUR house, her own parents, to cheat on and accidentally leave underwear there!”
“That’s hilarious and I would have probably laughed, too.”
“If I lived with another woman and the same thing happened to me, I feel like I would assume they were hers before anything else.”
“My SO and I keep our laundry separate and stuff of his still ends up in mine.” – moudine
“NTA- you made a great point, if her first instinct is to accuse him of cheating, despite living in a household with ANOTHER WOMAN, meaning your wife, then they have some major problems that they should definitely work through before getting married.”
“Honestly, it is pretty amusing that you let them ride it out on their own without your input.” – jekka31088
While most Redditors thought the anecdote was hysterical, not everyone found it to be funny.
“YTA. I don’t know what ‘difficult’ means, so if there were more info on what exactly your daughter’s done that is so awful maybe that can change.”
“But I’m saying YTA because you just sat back and let your daughter believe that someone she loves enough to marry had deeply hurt and betrayed her. You sat there and laughed quietly to yourself and enjoyed her pain.”
“Again, I will acknowledge that maybe this is an E-S-H situation, but you should seriously examine why hurting your daughter is f’king funny to you.”
“Is that amusement worth the damage to your relationship with your daughter?”
“Do you think the potential long term consequences are worth it, or should you maybe get over it and reach out with a sincere attempt at talking out your problems like adults?”
“She went from thinking her fiance had betrayed her to knowing her father would let her believe in a lie like that because he thought her suffering was funny.”
“Funny does not mean you didn’t do something hurtful, and she is 100% justified in being unwilling to speak with you over this.” – E_J_Brillig
“Finally, a reasonable, empathetic comment.”
“Also, it’s a lot easier to leave a toxic relationship when you know other people in your life love and support you.”
“If OP actually wants her to dump this guy, lying to her by omission and laughing when she humiliates herself is counterproductive.” – GrandeWhiteMocha
“YTA, you might not agree with her choice of boyfriends, but you could have saved her some grief here.”
“You obviously hurt her feelings by laughing. What’s done is done and they might break up sooner or later for other reasons but you didn’t have your daughter’s back.” – Levivianne
While the OP’s post left a majority of Redditors in stitches, some were empathetic to the daughter’s relationship and her feelings.